Her Highness Katarina wondered: “Ummm, is it possible to induce a guilty feeling in a man? I don’t think it’s possible to make a man feel guilty… Seems like the more a woman blames, accuses, and pouts the tougher his conscience gets. Almost like a defense mechanism?”
Of course it’s possible, but not by blaming, accusing, and pouting. What little bit of guilt may rise up from those tactics; he disposes quickly of it as either irrelevant or forgettable in the grand scheme of life and resents the finger pointer.
The sexes are very different in both the imposing and handling of guilt. Men feel guilty when it’s their independent conclusion. Not being capable of carrying guilt as well as women, they find a quick way to either compensate and feel good about themselves or forget it and feel somewhat less good but still tolerable about themselves.
A woman’s indirectness, seed planting, and patience can induce guilt in a man. But for what reason? Guilt in a man produces the opposite of what a woman wants. Consequently, a woman using blame and accusations twice torpedoes her primary interests. He both rejects her opinions and loses respect for her being so disrespectful of him. As his respect fades from her repeated attempts, so does his love.