- Parents ignore the first step in preparing the newest generation for what it needs most, namely attractive females that can tame the male gender. They bring little girls into public view with their hair never untangled after sleep. Of course, the mom’s hair looks the same way too. If girls aren’t taught starting in toddlerhood to habitually make themselves attractive to themselves first thing in the morning, they will suffer throughout life wanting but never able to attract a man to match their expectations.
- Can women make themselves uglier than with skin-tight shirts over a pregnant belly? They shame motherhood by mocking their female nature. They wipe out admiration for their condition by throwing obnoxiousness in the public’s face. They seem to believe falsely that being outwardly obvious is more important than charmingly subtle. They weaken self-respect by acting against their modest nature. They throw away the respect of others just to make a statement. They copy beer-belly men, make the father look like a wuss, and subdue father’s subtle pride in their feminine beauty. They reject modest attire that makes motherhood feminine, pretty, and so unique that nothing tops it. They also take public eyes away from the pleasant motherly glow that lights and prettifies each pregnant woman’s face. It’s an obvious offense to male eyes and perhaps intended that way.
1687. RANDOM THOUGHTS—Group 61
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I fear women will need to sew their own maternity clothes (a huge time investment, of course, but also a huge monetary investment given the cost of nice fabric) to find the style to which you refer, Sir Guy! As a very petite woman, I am “all baby” whenever pregnant and this makes it doubly hard to be subtle. I hope some ladies will chime in if they have or know about some lovely maternity wear!
Also, I’d like to comment on this sentence: “If girls aren’t taught starting in toddlerhood to habitually make themselves attractive to themselves first thing in the morning, they will suffer throughout life wanting but never able to attract a man to match their expectation.” As someone who was taught to dress “good enough to get by” (those were mom’s words) and no better… I thank a few dear college friends who took me to the mall freshman year, picked out all new clothes, made me try them on, told me how nice they looked, picked out makeup with me, and cut my hair for me! So, all is not lost if its not taught in childhood, I feel. Now I never miss a chance to compliment other women when I see someone dressed particularly prettily, because of how much my friends’ compliments meant to me as I transformed my style from “good enough” (ugly!) to feminine and pretty.
Your Highness Anne,
I appreciate your concern. However, and I’m just a man, but I perceive a huge gap between t-shirts and fashionable clothes that can be closed by feminine ways such as self-respect, mystery, and especially modesty.
Guy
So, does this mean its not *just* the clothes (tight, loose, or whatever) as much as clothes + the style with which a woman wears them (classy, self-respecting, modest, etc.)?
Your Highness Anne,
You got it perfectly. Clothes don’t make the woman nearly as much as modesty and classy style boldly surrounded by self-respect, self-love, and self-confidence.
Guy
Anne,
“Now I never miss a chance to compliment other women when I see someone dressed particularly prettily, because of how much my friends’ compliments meant to me as I transformed my style from “good enough” (ugly!) to feminine and pretty.”
How lovely. I share a similar story. And yes, I also love to compliment other women dressed prettily for the same reason.
Thanks for sharing.
Your Highnesses Lin and Anne,
Men used to be similarly inclined to compliment deserving women. They whistled or smiled flirtingly to compliment strangers and passed smiling looks and kind words when others deserved it. However, the political movement called Feminism convinced you gals that men should be held to another standard, that any masculine compliment held only a sexual message, amounted to sexual harassment, and reflected some evil or at least highly unwanted side of manliness.
Modern women pay the price. They have lost knowledge of the nature of males. Consequently, mothers raise sons to be confused men. Teen girls get tamed for sex rather than taming boys for monogamous life. Young single women float in misery over their inability to earn manly devotion. Wives miserably face an inability to domesticate husbands for family responsibility.
Its all relative. It’s the result of women listening only to feminists with political motives, They ‘promised’ a society made less patriarchal and expected men to go along to get along. Men have something to say but were not heeded. Consequently, women live in a society where boys don’t care about monogamous relationships and men won’t help fulfill female hopes and dreams.
Guy
I am curious to know what / when men have “said” things about the Feminist movement (besides you, Sir Guy!) Perhaps it is a part of history certain powers that be wish to be forgotten. I am not yet thirty. My lifetime has been permeated with feminists. Was there a time in the past, though, that men spoke up and were unheeded?? It is really a historical question.
Your Highness Anne,
Men were effectively drowned out before they could complain. Feminist radicals attacked proactively in courts, media, TV, and movies to socialize complaints to be out of order. Radical freminists spurred enthusiasts to claim sexual harassment for the slightest of offense to new female political expectations. For example, they condemned men even for politely opening a door or seating them at table. Nothing men did escaped the critical eye of ardent feminists. Political correctness spread with only men in the crosshairs. Men were socialized by feminist pressures and backed off from ever publicly challenging feminists and political cohorts. Men’s minds were moved with threats, but their hearts were unmoved.
Consequently, unconditional respect for the opposite sex that existed among our forefathers and foremothers until the 1960s was smothered by the kudzu vine of Feminism and its most visible weapon, what we now call political correctness. Without that kind of respect for women, the conditional respect that undergirds a man’s love is significantly weakened. With less intense love, devotion gives way to commitment, and marriages never get a good start or they collapse from insuffient respect.
Guy
Thank you!
Well, Sir Guy do you feel that complimenting a woman she looks pretty is the right thing to do or not? I mean a woman complimenting another woman?
I do enjoy receiving compliments from men and handle them well, I think. It confirms my femininity, loveliness and admiration by men. Women make/or should make the world a pretty place to live in.
Should compliments about a woman’s look be done by men only?
About maternity clothing.
When I was pregnant I wore relatively loose clothing (was it tent like or not I dont know, values are relative). I wore looser clothing because I generally prefer clothing with a generous cut and more ease. I simply find clothing with a tight fit uncomfortable, so I carried my preference into maternity.
That being said, I find it hard to understand why one would try to hide one’s pregnancy.
A pregnant woman should command respect. She is carrying a new human being, a person, a new creation. Men give up their seats for her, open car doors for her and carry her bags. Men see her for the great mystery of creation that she is.
I do personally agree that exposing one’s bump or letting it hang out is unacceptable. It takes out the mystery out of a woman, creation and birth. I do strongly feel however that pregnant women do not have to walk about in frumpy tents. Feminity, womanhood equals pretty – all the time.
Your Highness Lin,
Yes, women should compliment one another. The more they do it, the more they come to find common ground and believe in the sincerity of each other. The consequent gentler, kinder, and influential Womanhood makes it easier to shape cultural values, harness male domination, tame men for marital responsibility, and brighten the future for all females.
I didn’t say pregnancy should be hidden. I promote displaying it more attractively to earn respect of men instead of demanding it and losing respect for the gender. I agree otherwise.
Guy
I am so surprised by your view of pregnant women who wear skin-tight tops over their bellies that I have to comment. I myself am 7 months pregnant with my 9th baby and as there are no other options in the maternity stores I wear those very tops that seem so offensive. I have read and agreed with everything you have written this past year and so now that I feel I cannot agree I begin to questions my opinions. I want to know more. I want to hear you out.
I always thought that when the styles changed from ‘tent’ to snug that it was a compliment to the women. She is not and need not be ashamed of her condition. It is the crowning jewel of the women-the pregnant belly. I think pregnant women are so cute and especially when they show their beautiful round belly. Why would we hide it?
How are we mocking our female nature?
How is it not modest?
How am I making my hubby look like a wuss?
I would never want to offend a man and so I need to know how it is that I am doing that when I ‘show off’ my pregnant belly.
I would love suggestions on how to be charmingly subtle…perhaps from other females readers who would be happy to mentor me in this area.
Really…I had NO idea that the way I dressed was considered ugly and offensive to other men. My hubby never let on……
Please help me to see and understand.
Your Highness 1mother5sisters6daughters,
Congratulations on your ninth baby. I admire tremendously your glorifying Christ with so many potential believers. I also admire your vigorous defense and well-verbalized challenge to me. My response will appear as tomorrow’s daily post 1688.
Guy
I commiserate with you ladies– it is hard to find lovely, modest maternity clothes. But I searched google images for “loose maternity dress,” and found some beautiful things. Since I’m not in the market for those right now, I didn’t check prices. It seems to me that we are so bombarded by promiscuous images and marketing that normalizes skin-tight clothes, that we grow numb to how bizarre today’s “fashions” would appear to decent people, even 50 years ago.
All making yourself attractive in the morning is getting too much. Surely there is more to feminity than that like a girl who smiles. All the guys liked this girl just because she was always smiling and she didn’t really wear make up, or anything too special (except for prom). She was also smart, kind, and optimistic.
Are you going to do some new articles soon on more of feminine personality & manners. I know you already have, but maybe more in-depth. I don’t wear make up, but I have some beautiful dresses. And in the morning all I do is listen to music and dance to make me happy, and wash my face etc. I’m kind of a gentle lady (not by choice) and compassionate and I still attract guys. (mainly Pisces, Scorpio, Gemini, Libra and Cancer–i’ve stopped paying attention to astrology now).
So I want to know is there more to it? Especially for a young lady (15, don’t delete me pleeeease)
Your Highness Theoriginaloreo,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty girl joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
Given your age, inclination, and sophisticated teen expectations, I feel unqualified to respond to specifics. I leave that to some of the pretty ladies that know far more than I how to help you.
Guy