08/02/2012 · 9:20 am
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If a female doesn’t regularly groom and dress to be among the most attractive, she reveals a lack of interest in pleasing the dominant gender. It registers with a man that she likely can’t or won’t respect his leadership, which means she doesn’t care that much about being the kind of woman with whom he seeks to mate or wife he seeks to keep. Sex is okay, though.
- Feminine is whatever females have, do, and use that is unique to their sex and nature. To the extent they copy masculine thoughts, actions, and attitudes, femininity diminishes.
- Females are basically pretty even before they primp and groom to make themselves prettier for themselves. After they improve on their appearance, men more easily admire them for making the most of what they have. What men admire, they consider a virtue.
- A female’s instinctiveness and intuition enable her to turn prettiness into prettier. The more feminine she is, the prettier at heart and even prettier in appearance.
- Making herself pretty for someone else leads to disappointment every time their reaction doesn’t match her expectation—which is almost always.
- Unless rejected, hits even from unwanted guys add to her self-worth. Nasty responses make her face appear ugly, and men feast with their eyes. A smile enhances her prettiness and the absence of nasty enables it. How respectable does she appear to those around her, if she can’t take funning as compliment or offensiveness as easy to handle?
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Thank you for the reminder! It is timely and much needed. But how do you suggest a super busy, intellectual, ambitious young woman who works long hours in a stressful environment find the time to make the most of her appearance? By the time I get home late and have to wake up early, I am exhausted.
Your Highness Lisa,
My suggestion took on a life of its own and grew into a daily article. I’ll publish it tomorrow as #1691.
Guy
Hi Lisa!
My situation is different, as the stay-at-home mother of three little ones. Still, I can relate to waking up early, going to bed exhausted, and having little to absolutely no “off” time in between. I guess one solution is to change something major. I could send my kids to public school or daycare. You could change careers. I’m not suggesting you do this! But you see what I mean. In my case, I don’t *want* that solution. What I am doing is very, very important to me.
One thought that has motivated me to make changes is a line from a song by Lifehouse– “This is your life / Are you who you want to be?” I realized that if I kept putting off wearing lovely dresses, keeping my hair neat, doing my nails, etc. until I had time, I would be waiting twenty years! I want to be classy and put together and a great example for my daughters now. *This* is my life. So I find the time, instead of watching tv, or instead of perusing facebook, or instead of folding the laundry (gasp!) I shave and do my nails.
Best of luck to you!
Your Highness Sarah,
Tomorrow’s post 1691 aimed at Lisa may also be of some use for you.
Guy
Thank you very much!
I had an interesting revelation I thought I’d share while sitting in a meeting with my coworkers, most of whom are men I respect and admire.
I realized it was more important to me for them to think I’m pretty than for them to think I’m smart. Obviously it’s important they think I’m competent – this is a job – but I’d rather they think I’m pretty-and-competent than brilliant-and-competent.
On a related note, I don’t really care much what the coworkers I do not respect think.
This is really counter-intuitive for someone who’s always worked and studied hard to ‘keep up with the boys’ in a male-dominated field.
I also finally think I can forgive my grandfather for saying, “You get prettier every time I see you,” and dismissing me every time I tried to engage him in discussions of his work in the same field as my father, my brother, and myself.
Your Highness Meggrz,
I love it when pretty women uncover things that wouldn’t be so mysterious, if it weren’t that so much of what women know about men is wrong.
Guy
Woohoo! Thank you Guy! Unbeknownst to you, I have been struggling with this issue for a very long time.