- Affection energizes female life. Women love and appreciate it. Respect drives male life. Men earn and expect it.
- You can’t respect others more than you respect yourself. Self-respect has only two sources: yourself and God. Do you have enough yet?
- Everything is relative and comparisons are inevitable. Celebrity worship of a member of the opposite sex disrespects your spouse, of a member of your sex disparages you in your own eyes, of couples holds up your relationships for self-ridicule. If your loved ones aren’t more worthy of worship than celebrities, your life will be dreary.
- Respect is the forgotten and ignored ingredient of love. Showering kids with affection makes them feel good now. Showering them with respect adds to their sense of worth in life over and above present feelings. Respect confirms the growing conviction in kids that they are capable of whatever they seek or dream to achieve. Ergo, respect is more vital to love than affection, and it also applies to men.
- The male life is guided by respect with reluctance to give it before individuals earn it. A huge exception: Men respect the female gender when girls and women escape being understood by men, show affection even when undeserved, recognize that first time sex is their greatest asset, and elevate mysteriously, modestly, and monogamously their gender while showing respect for the male gender.
1701. RANDOM THOUGHTS—Group 64
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Hoorah. Lovely to see a post from Your Handsomeness. We can never get enough of these ‘Random Thoughts’.
Agreed!
To whom should women show affection without deserving it? Men?? I thought men wanted respect much more than affection…
p.s. ~ Happy to see a new post today! I echo what Linda said about never enough Random Thoughts!
Your Highness Anne,
You say, “To whom should women show affection without deserving it?” I surmise that I wrote something too easily misunderstood. Could you be more explicit or point to my phrasing that perhaps misled you?
Guy
It’s this sentence to which I refer: “Men respect the female gender when girls and women escape being understood by men, show affection even when undeserved, recognize that first time sex is their greatest asset, and elevate mysteriously, modestly, and monogamously their gender while showing respect for the male gender.”
So… I took this to mean that men respect the female gender when women show (among other things) affection even when undeserved. My question: to whom is the woman showing affection? To the man? To everyone generally? To anyone towards whom she feel affection (whether including or excluding the man)? I hope this phrasing of the question is more clear, but if not I am happy to try again…
Your Highness Anne,
Of course you’re clear. Answer: Men respect females when they show affection for everyone generally and especially those for whom females feel extra affection. I wasn’t trying to point out that affection is unwanted. Just that men don’t respond to it as do women and children. Its another of those mysteries about females that makes men respect them, simply because men can’t, don’t, or won’t show it as easily and generally. Men see affection as something to be earned, and if and when it’s earned, then respect is a better response than displays of affection.
Guy
Sir Guy, I admit I miss your daily posts. However a good thing has come out of it. I am going through older posts and doing ‘revisions’, if you could call it that. And enjoying them to no end!
Love the random thoughts and good luck with your new book.
I believe women need affection more than men in general. thats my opinion. Men like affection, but its respect what counts. I’m seeing women overloading affection on their boyfriends husbands and kids a little too much for my taste. It’s like the man should make the first move, or try to kiss you first BEFORE you return the favor
Sir Guy, I have a question. First I will describe a scenario.
A married man finds himself in a career crisis. He seeks to find something new where he can be successful and find full expression. The change will put financial strain on the family because in the process of ‘search’, ‘adjustment’, ‘building up’, he may not be able to provide for his family as well as he used or in the way he used to. Wife, in order to be supportive of man’s dreams agrees to help support or fully support the family whilst he goes chasing his dream.
As his dream starts to take shape and success is eminent, the man finds another woman and dumps wife.
This scenario is quite common. Can you please break this down for me in terms of man woman dynamic and if there is an alternative scenario possible for us women, the relationship experts.
Thank you
Your Highness Lin,
My response grew into an article to be posted Monday morning as #1703.
Guy