In response to the article about the 19th Amendment (#1711), several readers complained about the lives suffered by themselves, parents, and grandparents. Government-enlargement politics, socio-economic conditions, and technological primitivism in the last century play major roles in how we view the old days. However, we focus here on the drunken, irresponsible, and cheating husbands/fathers who imposed such suffering on their families.
The anti-male song is familiar. Reminiscent of anecdotes and stories of misery told by suffragists in late 19th and early 20th Century, women’s libbers and feminists repeated and reinforced it during their influential rise in the last half of that century. Patriarchy must go (in spite of its naturalness). For women’s problems, men are always at fault (and unrespectable or worse by implication). Women contribute nothing to masculine irresponsibility, drunkenness, and cheating.
Here’s the rest of the story. Men act irresponsibly when they lack self-respect. They drink, swear, cheat, and find all manner of ways to feel good about themselves. Being creatures of action and hunter-conquerors, they seek to improve their self-respect even if only temporary. Women act irresponsibly when they don’t acknowledge their role in both enhancing and tearing down their man’s self-respect. They make themselves feel good by ignoring their culpability, blaming the male nature, faulting their man, or all of the above. Marital incompatibility follows, it being foreordained by sex differences too long ignored.
Today, families are still plagued by the inadequacies of self-respect in both husband and wife that produce inadequate performance in the family venue. Details follow in tomorrow’s post, 1713.