1732. RANDOM THOUGHTS—Group 70

• The females’ ability to love comes from self-love. Their need for self-importance motivates them to use their ability and love someone else. Being loved in return confirms and elevates self-importance, which also enhances self-love. Hence, the more they love, the more they are loved.
• Normally in this order, five roles are required to fulfill a woman’s sense of importance: I’m pretty, I’m loved, I’m wanted for marriage, I’m married, I’m a mother. A man’s sense of fulfillment flows from these imperatives: I’m handy, capable as I need to be, and I’m my own man. He doesn’t need a woman permanently but can appreciate one that admires his abilities.
• Men won’t tolerate their woman’s physical infidelity. Women can tolerate physical but not emotional infidelity. She fears the physical because it symbolizes the emotional. She seeks to uncover whether her emotional connection with husband has been superseded by someone else. If superseded, he’s likely to depart sooner or later. If wife becomes convinced that she still has the stronger emotional connection with him, she considers other options than kicking him out.
• Responsibility provides men with opportunity for self-admiration and more of both are better. As for drunken and irresponsible fathers, blame lack of self-respect. Self-respecting men yearn for responsibility rather than dodge it. It takes a special woman to breathe enough self-respect into a man that he redirects his sense of responsibility away from nothing or just masculine things and toward providing/protecting for her and her offspring.

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