The females’ ‘jewels’ at post 59 inspired Her Highness Denise to ask that I “write more about the real ability of feminine virtue to transform the masculine heart.” Keeping her man requires that she outshine other women in his eyes. She has a huge repertoire of female strengths from which to make herself unique. Each strength earns another bit of a man’s respect, and a man’s love is based on respect for the female gender and one or more women in particular. So, I list again the precious jewels that shine easily from the female nature, if a woman but uses them to embellish her uniqueness:
♥ Physical attractiveness admirably enhanced by affordable attire and classy grooming.
♥ Sexual attractiveness hidden behind modesty that makes her uniquely feminine and men unwelcome.
♥ Gentleness provided out of patience.
♥ Forgetfulness that follows forgiveness.
♥ Thoughtfulness that her mate deserves.
♥ Gratefulness for all that her man does for her.
♥ Submissiveness as her spirit of cooperation.
♥ Happiness that she spreads infectiously.
♥ Joyfulness that inspires greater hope.
♥ Chasteness promised to him alone by modest display of breast and legs.
♥ Generousness that drives selfishness out of their lives.
♥ Delightfulness that makes him smile.
♥ Unselfishness that spreads as example for everyone.
♥ Neatness that inspires others.
♥ Goodness that sets a shining example.
♥ Faithfulness that inspires him to follow suit.
♥ Happiness that shines when she’s with him.
♥ Respectfulness for his role in her life.
Men admire those ‘jewels’, what men admire they see as virtue, and men seek to marry a virtuous woman. Consequently, the more and better the jewels shine outwardly from a woman, the more virtuous she appears to a man. Her virtues keep her disengaged from competing with him. Also, they flatter him, tame his uncivilized side, and brighten a couple’s home. In effect, as Denise expresses it, each woman’s virtues have the ability to “transform the masculine heart” of someone.
Those virtues are every woman’s strengths, but many women are too busy, ego-stricken, or politically propagandized to use them reliably and to the fullest. NOTE: Of course her man may not be worth such effort, but it’s her jewels that ultimately turn him first toward and then into Mr. Right. It’s her behavior that makes him good, bad, indifferent, inadequate, or whatever, provided she didn’t mate up with a hopeless case to begin with.
♥ Sexual attractiveness hidden behind modesty that makes her uniquely feminine and men unwelcome.
Dear Sir Guy,
This is another keeper post. I love it and am inspired.
I have copied the above comment… I don’t understand about the ‘men unwelcome’ comment in relation to feminine virtue. What do you mean?
Many thanks as ever,
Katey-Anne
Your Highness Katey-Anne,
It might be more clear if I said, “other men unwelcome.” However, it misses my full intention. Male admiration flows toward her sexual attractiveness, not because of its presence but because she discreetly hides it behind a facade that men hesitate to challenge. Virtue lies in her subliminal message.
Guy
“Forgetfulness that follows forgiveness.”
^This is one to be meditated on. I think it is in our human nature to “remember,” to keep score, to tuck things away (not even consciously or intentionally) to be later brought up when it suits our position or argument. “Forgetfulness that follows forgiveness” is not something that can be outwardly manufactured like modest attire or a demure appearance. It’s something that has to come from a place of real substance. And I think it’s something one learns, or grows into.
This one has helped me, even in my day to day interactions with everyone: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” ~Plato
Your Highness Girl,
Well written. Good points. What follows below is merely to amplify.
You’re right when you say, “And I think it’s something one learns, or grows into.” To which I add, “… with determination to practice the world’s greatest power.” True forgiveness doesn’t exist without forgetfulness. Also, to remember is to undo forgiveness, is it not?
Guy
“True forgiveness doesn’t exist without forgetfulness. Also, to remember is to undo forgiveness, is it not?”
^Totally agree!!!!
I decided when we got married I would never bring up ANYTHING (negative) in conversation if the upsetting behavior/words/etc were more than 6 months in the past. Over the years, that has led to me honestly starting to forget a lot of negative that is more than 6 months old.
Your Highness Anne,
Wow! What a brilliant idea and wise practice. It’s the Navy’s highest accolade, Well Done!
Guy
Dear Sir Guy,
Thank you for that most helpful clarification!
Katey-Anne
Your Highness Kayey-Anne,
I’m glad it’s clear. It’s a tough concept to describe much less to follow.
Guy
This post and the next brings to mind a line by Ovid.
” If you want to be loved, be lovable”.