1742. Hope, Respect, and Trust — Part I


Emerson said “The world turns on hope.” Without it, a person’s energy is stifled and they sit down to do nothing or worse, perhaps with drugs. Hope motivates individuals and each has his own version. However, personal ability to influence others is required to mutualize hope between individuals, such as in a couple or family.

The world of influencing others turns on respect, which generates trust in return, which reinforces the initial respect, which reinforces the initial trust, and which continues to compound until their respective hopes find mutuality and compatibility. Respect sends the message, “I hold you in high regard.” Trust sends the message, “I’m grateful for associating with you.” Mutual interests are thus enabled to join as the person influenced shapes his self-interest to match more closely that of the influencer.

If the respect of the influencer is missing or lost, it takes some inducement, threat, or force to complete the process of influencing others.

Most people know how to show respect for and to others. But I’ve uncovered a way by which moms, dads, and other leaders screw up their good intentions. It follows tomorrow.

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3 responses to “1742. Hope, Respect, and Trust — Part I

  1. anonymous

    I can’t wait for tomorrow’s post!…and I have a few questions on today’s post if you don’t mind? How exactly does influencing others depend on respect? Do you have any examples? Why does thinking that someone holds you in high regard and is grateful for associating with you influence you?

    Your Highness Anonymous,

    My initial response was not clear. So, I replaced what you earlier read here with the following.

    you ask how “does influencing others depend on respect?” People won’t listen as attentively or respond as favorably as expected. If you don’t respect someone, do you buy into their perhaps well-reasoned arguments? Have you ever listened and followed someone you didn’t respect and it got you in trouble? Did you trust them after that? Have your efforts to persuade someone been thwarted by them saying something like this, “I don’t trust that that will work?”

    “Why does thinking that someone holds you in high regard and is grateful for associating with you influence you?” Do you usually associate with someone who doesn’t like you or vice versa? If someone has no high regard for you, how much attention do you pay to their other opinions? If you are held in high regard but you aren’t grateful for them, how long do you think they will respect you? Disregarding mother love, the glue of family is respect, is it not?

    Guy

  2. Lin

    Can love for a woman and disrespect for her co-exist in a man? If it can, why does it happen and in what ways is it displayed. Or are the two mutually exclusive in men?

    Your Highness Lin,
    The male nature doesn’t permit love and disrespect to coexist. However, it appears to happen when otherwise mutual interests coincide and become compatible. For example, a man expresses his male dominance so outlandishly as to reflect disrespect for his woman. Outsiders see disrespect where, perhaps, only competition exists and the man makes sure that he wins every time.
    Guy

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