1747. Sex Differences Redux — Part 01: Their Drives and Needs


This blog turns five years old today, and time has come to republish the founding principles. All that you read here is founded on the very different characteristics of women and men.

Feminists claim the only true gender differences are the reproductive systems. They claim everything else is socialized into both sexes, but I disagree. Feminists just politicize differences into obscurity. See for yourself as this series expands.

Her Need. A woman instinctively needs a brighter future for her and her children. Unless very immature, she seeks security of life, dependable relationships, and family cohesiveness. She seeks family, economic, and social stability. She seeks safety of health, life, and family. To fulfill such overlapping and intermingled needs, she has two options: give of herself to a helpmate, or do it alone, usually lonesome and perhaps desperate.

His Need. Men have one overwhelming need that makes everything else minor, regardless of how they seem to act even to the contrary. A man absolutely needs only a place to flop, eat, throw his things, and prepare for his ’battles’ tomorrow. A hut will do, but if a woman does it for him, he judges her nesting and castle building by how it supports his work and outside competitive interests.

Her Drive: Women are driven to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones. Their instinctive drive bonds society together into family units.

His Drive. Men are driven to compete against Nature when it obstructs their progress, compete with other men, and shape and control human events.

Her Sex Drive. Four natural energies bring sex into play in the woman’s world:

  • Her physiological urge to nurture triggers the urge to procreate.
  • Her psychological need to assuage the needs of others stimulates her to copulate.
  • Her primal need for self-importance ignites ambitions to outdo and outshine other women as a candidate for mating with men with the understanding that it might include providing sex.
  • Her nature craves intimacy, especially when her spirits are down. The promise of post-coital touching and body closeness fuels her desire for sex.

Those primal urges motivate women to recognize the male sex drive as more urgently driven and to utilize sex for bonding, generating compatibility, and competing with other women.

His Sex Drive. Three primal urges bring sex into the man’s world:

  • His drive to compete brings females onto the playing field.
  • His physiological urge to copulate.
  • His intrinsic urge to outdo and outshine other men.

Those primal urges combine to make males compete with males for females and compete with females for conquest but for little else afterward.

Next: The next few posts include their competing wants, compatible fears, and opposed interests in the present and the future.

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8 responses to “1747. Sex Differences Redux — Part 01: Their Drives and Needs

  1. Anon

    Sometimes her need to nest could overrule commonsense:::there are 3 men in TN today that have 78 children between them with 46 different women. Many women want little babies BUT dont realize they dont stay babies forever..What is SUPPOSE to happen, a man and woman get married, raise 2.3 children. The CHILDREN get married, stay close as possible so you could see your little grandbabies, and enjoy them with another couple..especially around this time of year. I actually think some of the radical feminists ruined Christmas traditions

  2. Anon

    There are single women who do it alone and enjoy it, but they are usually celebate and thought of it in advance. They are around other peoples children..like nieces & nephews, or shes a nun and many of those are around children.

  3. Mitsouko

    I came across this today and thought you would enjoy how women in the Victorian age declined the offer of marriage from unsuitable men. It is enlightening because it confirms Sir Guy’s contention that it is women who are the arbiters of men’s behaviour.
    http://www.victoriana.com/library/suitor.html

    Your Highness Mitsouko,
    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
    Guy

  4. Princess

    If the women desire is to nest and for the man a place to hop and flop – why do men marry? My question is why settle for a monogamous relationship (most of the time against their male nature) to be free and date multiple people.

    Your Highness Princess,
    Men marry because of the promise a certain woman holds for him and his future sex, support, and comfort and not necessarily in that order. Once those requirements stabilize to his liking, he sees her promise as companion and mother.
    Guy

  5. Regarding a man and his hut. I am in a developing relationship that would seem to indicate **some** men want more than a hut to live in.

    I am getting to know a man who is involved with the construction trade. His home, which he has put a lot of time and energy into, is a very beautiful and functional place. It shows that he is a very intelligent, creative, and exacting sort of person. It really is awesome.

    I, on the other hand, live in an old house that is showing its age. It was flipped when I bought it, and over time it has definitely become “unflipped.” For a variety of reasons, I have not over the past few years been able to do much to maintain or improve my home. A new roof is the biggest thing I’ve committed to.

    I feel strangely as if I have reversed roles with this man, and it makes me wonder what I could possibly offer him in terms of a comfortable nest.

    Your Highness Entwyf,

    You judge the situation with woman-think. No connection exists in his mind about your house and you except as he judges you with man-think. What of your habits are reflected in your home that may be good or red flags? Neat or sloppy? Caring or careless? Fussy or carefree? Dedicated or willy-nilly? Feminine or feminist? Fashionable or garage-sale cheap? Too fashionable to be functional for him?

    His interest centers on his expectations of your living in and caring for his castle. Can and will you keep it to his liking? He has already given it the functionality that he desires, so your nesting instincts will be frustrated either somewhat or totally, so figure it out for yourself before you commit to very much. Ask yourself, can you live in what he’s built or do you have to have more nesting fashion and womanly perfection?

    Guy

    • When I have the energy and time to maintain my house/home it does say good things about me.

      I do believe that comfort and beauty in a home environment derive from simplicity and functionality.

      My motto has always been, “Just tell me what to do and I’ll do it.” So, if my developing relationship develops far enough for the man in question to offer a ring, a date, and lifetime living arrangements . . . hmm . . .

      At this point, I’d say I’m up for the challenge, especially since (and this may be another erroneous female assumption) I assume that a man who loves a woman enough to marry her will allow negotiation for some **small** amount of girly influence in his cut-and-dried domain.

  6. Catherine

    Sir Guy,
    This pretty lady just might be publicly disagreeing with components of the following blog statements on this November day:

    “Her primal need for self-importance ignites ambitions to outdo and outshine other women as a candidate for mating with men with the understanding that it might include providing sex.”

    “Those primal urges motivate women to recognize the male sex drive as more urgently driven and to utilize sex for bonding, generating compatibility, and competing with other women.”

    Outdo and outshine other women? Competing with other women? Outdo, outshine, and competing sound like masculine behaviors to this pretty lady, even if against other females.

    Your Highness Catherine,

    Women’s sports programs show that women compete, outdo, and outshine each other. How about sisters who compete for attention at home growing up?

    The question remains, do they do the same in order to attract men, boyfriends, lovers, and husbands? Why else do females dress up, strut about, dress exotically and eagerly associate with girlfriends of lesser shine and shy away from cruising with gf of superior attractiveness? Is the fashion world built totally on competing to win men but not to outdo other women? Why else do women enlarge their breasts if not to outshine other women?

    You may be ignoring this fact of human nature. Everybody has more than one motivational reason to do something. A woman can’t attract men without considering what the other women in the vicinity look like. As soon as that thought enters a woman’s mind, she shifts into compete mode, don’t you think?

    In any event, I like your questions and way of expressing yourself. Don’t hesitate to do it again.

    Guy

    • Catherine

      EDITOR’S NOTE: I RESPOND IN CAPS TO your questions in lower case.
      Guy

      ——
      :) :) :)
      Agreed, women’s sports programs do show that women compete, outdo, and outshine each other. Do the programs mean it’s ideal or natural? [NOT TO ME. IT DIVERTS FEMALE INTEREST FROM THE PROCESS OF CIVILIZING BOYS, TAMING UNMARRIED MALES, AND DOMESTICATING MEN. THAT IS THE VITAL PROCESS BY WHICH SOCIETY SUCCEEDS BEST AT PROMOTING PROSPERITY AND ACCUMULATING WEALTH.]

      “How about sisters who compete for attention at home growing up?” Agreed, while they are little. How about sisters who later rank their relationship above the competition as time passes? [THOSE ARE THE ONES THAT IGNORE OR AVOID FEMINIST INFLUENCES.]

      “The question remains, do they do the same in order to attract men, boyfriends, lovers, and husbands?” Some do. [AND IT ARISES FROM THEIR NATURE AND PERHAPS IMPROVED WITH LESSONS LEARNED.]

      “Why else do females dress up, strut about, dress exotically and eagerly associate with girlfriends of lesser shine and shy away from cruising with gf of superior attractiveness?” Oh, your Handsomeness! Some ladies might please themselves by enjoying a pretty skirt! [AND DISCOVER HOW VALUABLE AND IMPORTANT THEY ARE TO OTHERS AND NOT JUST TO THEMSELVES.]

      “Is the fashion world built totally on competing to win men but not to outdo other women?” This inquisitive lady thinks the fashion world elevates competition among women far above the goal of winning men. [I AGREE. COPYING SUCCESSFUL BUSINESSES PRACTICES, FASHIONISTAS ALSO BROADEN AND EXPLOIT THEIR MARKETS TO INDUCE COMPETITION AMONG THE MEMBERS AND BETWEEN THE GENDERS.]

      “Why else do women enlarge their breasts if not to outshine other women?” Gasp! Sir Guy! This embarrassed lady can only blush and smile in response to this question. [IT MAKES YOUR FEMININITY SHINE, BECAUSE BLUSHES AND EMBARRASSMENTS ARE SIGNS OF THE NATURAL MODESTY OF FEMALES.]

      “You may be ignoring this fact of human nature. Everybody has more than one motivational reason to do something. A woman can’t attract men without considering what the other women in the vicinity look like. As soon as that thought enters a woman’s mind, she shifts into compete mode, don’t you think?” Perhaps. [I’M MORE CONVICTED THAN YOU ARE AND THAT’S OKAY TOO.]

      This introspective lady wonders how much competition among women hinders their ability to be more others-focused and able to give of themselves. [TO A GREAT DEGREE.] Ladies who satisfy their own precious sense of attractiveness seem more free to focus on others (husband and children, for example). Ladies in compete mode with other ladies might be focused on themselves and their competitive position to the detriment of others. [HIGHLY AGREE] Husband and children might fade into the background or worse, become ‘obstacles’ to a woman’s competitive position with other females. [AGAIN, I HIGHLY AGREE]

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