More About Boys
Learning how to love another person in childhood is still not enough to motivate a man to devote to a woman. Women shape their lives around love as a concept and belief. However, in order for men to dedicate and devote themselves to someone or something, two things are necessary: 1) They must respect the love object, and 2) they must believe in the promise that the love object holds for making them feel good about themselves.
Belief is a dominating force within masculinity. In order to believe, men must see that something or someone shows promise to brighten their lives, and holds promise to match or fit their self-interest. Following the development and firming up of beliefs, males dedicate and devote themselves to what they believe in—positively or negatively. For example:
- Boys demonstrate fondness and allegiance to a few individuals, when they believe in mother who taught them to love others.
- Boys devote to their own development, when they believe they can do most anything.
- Boys dedicate to serving others, when they believe that God wants them to.
- Boys dedicate to godly lives, when they believe that God holds more promise than humans do.
- Boys live selfish and self-centered lives, when they believe in themselves to the virtual exclusion of others.
The greater the intensity of a belief, the greater is a boy’s attachment and dedication to it. For example, when a boy believes deeply in a role model, he falls prey to manipulation and indoctrination. When a man believes more deeply in a woman than himself, he falls prey to her dominance.
Except during the passions of romantic love, men shortchange women on affection and other signs of emotional bonding. How they learn as boys to love and show respect and affection determines how they will do it as men.