11. Husbands want to be confirmed as important and significant, but wives provide affection—which is neither the same nor what men appreciate.
12. A man needs only a place to flop, eat, throw his things, and prepare for tomorrow’s ‘battles’. Even a hut will do. A woman is driven to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones, but she needs a future that grows ever brighter, so a hut usually won’t do.
13. A man only needs a hut, but a woman wants a castle. She can get it by crowning him king and treating him royally. Or, she can learn to like their hut and soon tire of him.
14. A man will visualize his hut a castle, if he’s treated as the king. A woman’s ego restricts her from treating him that way, because she’s urged by her nature to dominate her nest and their home.
15. A second car and second TV let couples drift apart. One of each forces cooperation, sacrifice, and more closeness. This reinforces bonding, if they are right for each other. If not, squabbles ensue and sourness sets in anyway.
16. A wife’s expectations about equality in housework and other things works against containment of husband’s hormones over the long marital road.
17. Fathers withdraw from parenting when not upheld as good fathers by the mothers. A mom not upheld as a valuable and appreciated mother gets rid of father in spirit if not actuality.
18. Honey-do lists become intolerable when Honey schedules, supervises, or criticizes.
19. Husbands do not see the little nesting details of home life that irritate their wife. Reprimanding him for ‘blindness’ turns her into nagger, tyrant, or expendable mate.
20. Feminism pressures men to change their behavior, but in the social and domestic domains the masculine nature erupts in often-silent but distinct individual ways that hurt individual women.