1948. Compatibility Axioms #301-310


301. Virtual virginity means keeping her legs crossed before marriage. It puts her in the buyer’s seat and forces a man to be the seller, to make himself worthy of her instead of the other way around. (Men don’t truly appreciate what they don’t earn.) [125]
302. Her attractiveness spikes his interest for sex. It’s up to her to convert that interest over to her. Heeding granny’s advice to keep a dime between her knees works best. [125]
303. Her first refusal for sex spreads a man’s interest to try harder, to know her better. Subsequent refusals push him to look ever deeper for weaknesses he can exploit to convince her to yield. (Presuming he accepts her refusals as other than rejections of him.) [125]
304. As her refusals continue in courtship, he serendipitously discovers her admirable strengths and non-sexual qualities. These earn more respect both for her potential as a keeper and promise for mating. (Provided, of course, he’s more interested in her than just conqueror’s sex.) [125]
305. By yielding sex before marriage, she reverses their natural roles. She becomes seller to his buyer, and he’s paid her price when she yields. It’s too late for her to raise the ante; the door closes partly or fully on his investing more in her even though the potential for it resides in the male nature. [125]
306. As the seller, she settles for less than she deserves because she has only one conquest event with each man. (Women may not see it that way, but men do. Men change after conquest, and it forces women to change to stay abreast of the conqueror.) [125]
307. Conquest is a relationship-changing event for a man. He quits looking so interestedly at a conquered woman. Nature releases his heart to pursue something or somebody else. [125]
308. By yielding unmarried sex, she lets a man know what price she charges for submission. This naturally, automatically, and subconsciously programs his mind on how their relationship will work in the future. It enlarges his expectations for getting his way with her—we’re talking greater male dominance here, aren’t we? [125]
309. The longer and more intensely without sex that he stays focused on her, the greater their bonding and the more promising their future together. [125]
310. Just a friendly touch in passing or a pat on the back sends a message of trust that earns a man’s regard if not respect. If he mistakes her friendliness for something else, she has uniquely subtle ways to turn him off without offense and immense power to discourage with offense. Friendly touching in passing is a small price women pay. It helps hold onto the respect of men other than their own, which magnifies their gratefulness for both men and themselves. [123]

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9 responses to “1948. Compatibility Axioms #301-310

  1. Can a lady who has lost her conquest regain it?

    Your Highness Chiweekeh,

    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

    Yes, she can absolutely regain the benefits of virginity. Study the series Virtual Virginity listed in the CONTENTS page at blog top.

    Guy

  2. My Husband's Wife

    I don’t think women realize what they’re really doing when they provide easy sex w/out marriage. This one is the best, summed up perfectly:
    ” By yielding unmarried sex, she lets a man know what price she charges for submission. This naturally, automatically, and subconsciously programs his mind on how their relationship will work in the future. It enlarges his expectations for getting his way with her—we’re talking greater male dominance here, aren’t we? [125]“

  3. surfercajun

    Dear Guy,

    I enjoyed your wisdom of this beauty.

    309. The longer and more intensely without sex that he stays focused on her, the greater their bonding and the more promising their future together.

    Say the couple is engaged, and she continues to hold out, how long should (in your opinion) their engagement be before marriage. Thank you!

    • boomer babe

      Women ALSO have OXYTOCIN… and men don’t although they have VASOPRESIN… the oxytocin THE BONDING HORMONE– is the thing that gets women IN TROUBLE and is also a reason why many women 18-33 aren’t married..she’ll LIVE WITH HIM.. even not engaged and yes, SHE will bring up marriage instead. its really SAD..

  4. Emma

    Mr. Guy –

    Would you advise on how can a wife measure husbands words vs action? Is this doable without creating discord in the family… ETC. Husband says you are the most important person in my life, I work for you ( I have everything a wife can ask in terms of lifestyle). But he doesn’t spend much time at home, maybe less than 20 percent. He prefers golf and outing with the boys – yet when I do questions him that his words dont match, he gets upset.

    How does a wife earn the respect that husband has lost?

    Your Highness Emma,
    Focus on making yourself the likeable person you were before the altar. He liked you then, so work on restoring your likeability. Also, find and study the articles with ‘respect’ in the title as listed in the CONTENTS page at blog top.
    Guy

  5. Krysie869

    EDITOR’S NOTE: I RESPOND IN CAPS TO your questions in lower case. PARAGRAPHS MAY BE BROKEN FOR EASE OF READING. I APOLOGIZE FOR NOT RESPONDING WHEN YOU COMMENTED. IT SLIPPED THROUGH.
    GUY

    ¨Just a friendly touch in passing or a pat on the back sends a message of trust that earns a man’s regard if not respect. If he mistakes her friendliness for something else, she has uniquely subtle ways to turn him off without offense and immense power to discourage with offense.¨

    What types of subtle ways do you have in mind for women if men perceive a light touch as something of a sexual nature? A FROWN, A WALK AWAY, A CHANGE IN ATTITUDE TOWARD HIM UNTIL HE EARNS HIS WAY BACK INTO HER GOOD GRACES.

    Why would a man perceive touch as sexual? BECAUSE FOR YEARS FEMINISTS CALLED MEN TOUCHING WOMEN AS SUGGESTIVE, WHICH ADDED THE SEX COMPONENT TO FRIENDLINESS. MEN LISTENED AND PRESUMED WOMEN TOUCHING THEM WAS SUGGESTIVE.

    Also, so if I were to touch a man right now (i.e. light brush on arm), would he have more respect for me? Does it depend on certain circumstances? SURE, IT DEPENDS ON CIRCUMSTANCES. IF YOU ALL ARE SUPER FRIENDLY, A PAT ON THE BACK OR SHOULDER CONFIRMS THE CONNECTION. IF NOT FRIENDLY, IT CONVEYS FRIENDLINESS. IF NEITHER FRIENDLY NOR ENEMY, A PAT MAY BE THE START OF SOMETHING FRIENDLY OR SOMETHING UNWANTED. MEASURE THE GUY AND MEASURE YOUR INTENTION, AND DO WHAT YOUR INSTINCT AND INTUITION ADVISE YOU.

  6. cocoa

    Sir Guy, I have in mind a similar question as above from Krysie869. Grateful for your input. In Particular the 2nd question on respect.
    Thank you.

    Your Highness Cocoa,
    Thanks. I owe Krysie869 an apology for not responding. I’ll respond to both of you by Sunday noon, 5/25, at the latest.
    Guy

    P.S. I responded to Krysie869’s comment. As to respect gained by touching a man. Think of it this way. A friendly and appropriate at the time pat on the back or arm displays your trust that he won’t misinterpret your intent. That message of trust, given no misinterpretation, bounces back to you as respect.
    G.

    • cocoa

      Men are never more handsome than when they keep their promises. Indeed before noon! And I was waiting…

      what I am going through on this blog is unreal and overwhelming. I was just worried about a situation (I am a worry pot I know. But I am grateful for my sensitivity) and didn’t know who to ask. I come here and find the above question. I am like thank God for this.

      While at church this week I accidently, no no, I involuntarily, pulled a co-servent from his arm (for literally a single step) I was so excited to show him something me and him and others we waiting for, for so long. In our culture a man touching a woman and vice versa is a no no no. He was fine but a bit surprised I guess, I never touched him or any guy before, but afterwards I was worried what would he think.

      so from what you explained above sir Guy, you reckon I am safe?

      Your Highness Cocoa,
      I can’t say. I don’t know your culture. I respond to how two different natures interact when lifetime influences are absent. However, I bet you can figure out exactly what it all means from the feedback you got and the character of the man. Trust your intuition, it’s really all you have except natural instinct.
      Guy

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