Her Majesty Grace has repeated this for many years: “If she dresses like a whore, she is treated as a whore.” Pop culture values and fashion pressures put women at disadvantage for marriage; they have a better way. This post describes how a woman’s appearance impacts and stimulates the male nature.
Always alert, men receive distinct and even imagined sexual messages from every sexually attractive woman, and first impressions can last a lifetime. Some messages inspire male dominance and others neutralize it. Women benefit by neutralizing it, which starts with breast display, and so I focus there. Women have four options. Three encourage male dominance and one tends to neutralize it.
First option, first mistake. In hopes of establishing relationships, modern women assume the role of sellers with men as buyers. It makes a woman expect to prove her worth to earn a man, and they use sex as coin of the realm. (Her female nature should alert that its wrong for her, but women have been propagandized into adopting male-like sexual freedom. The sexual revolution was designed by and for males.)
It’s a far better attitude when she views herself as buyer and each man as seller. She sends loud messages to the effect that she’s already worth earning. Her selling price? He must prove his worth to her.
Second option, her biggest mistake. She advertises with cleavage and erotically exposed skin and expects men to be charged up such that her sexual assets will capture him for more than just sex. She tries to appear worthy of satisfying a man’s sexual appetite in hopes that he will bond and stay with her.
Women influence each man they encounter. Maximum cleavage and erotic skin exposure focuses men on sex. It takes their attention away from the female as respectable person and discourages searching for her non-sexual qualities. Whether intended as invitation or not, men are induced to focus on no more than what will lead her to yield sex.
Her immodesty is obvious, and it eases or relieves a man’s sense of masculine self-restraint, which also confirms his dominant spirit as okay with her. It also signals that she welcomes masculine-style sexual freedom—whether she does or not is moot, because he perceives it—and this shifts her into a player in the man’s game. She may attract and capture a man, but sex does not bond him; it only leads to temporary relationships because he never focuses on her enough to make her a keeper. This option also encourages the man’s game of wham, bam, thank you, ma’am and one-nighters with no follow up calls. By displaying her endowments so immodestly, she yields relationship dominance. (Foolishly, many women don’t believe they compete with women for men. So, they try to appear like their competition. In fact and quite naturally, men want a wife that appears unique and reflects credit on their ability to attract a mate.)
Third option, she doesn’t even try. She presumes either that she’s worthy or she needn’t attire herself to appeal to manly eyes. She may purposely seek to discourage masculine attention. Or, perhaps she seeks comfort because she’s not at this particular moment trying to attract a man. Regardless of size, breasts well-padded and shapeless shift manly focus to other women.
Sweatshirt-covered and bosom-shaped displays indicate age or attempts to dissuade men. Other women just look better. Big, shapeless, and comfortable for her won’t reduce a man’s eagerness for conquest, but it reduces his enthusiasm for keeping her after that. Wives often resort to comfort—even to sloppiness—without realizing the impact on husband. It’s not modesty but may be disrespect of hubby. In any event, her shapeless breasts lack ‘character’ and push men toward other women, and husbands are men.
Fourth option, perfect aim. Some women possess a highly conscientious feminine persona. They maximize their feminine impact on men. They do it for all men in order to attract the right candidates for Mr. GoodEnough. They understand that it starts with breast display.
Modest cover to the neck with two, albeit small, distinct breasts pointed uncomfortably high and perky forces decent men to focus on her eyes and other features in order to maximize their persuasiveness. No invitation for sex is apparent, and so he’s forced to find other interests to generate conversation. (Large breasts make him think of playing around in bed. Small ones take away playful thoughts and stimulate non-sexual actions out of his serious mind.)
She appears not only hard-to-get, but is implying ♫na, ♫na, ♫na, ♫na, ♫na, ♫na to his face—look but don’t even think about touching. Her appearance and attitude force the hunter-conqueror to plan for a long campaign. This empowers her to keep his attention focused on her and finding her other qualities so essential for her to be a keeper. He’s distracted from sex, which enables her to dominate their relationship.
Highly stressed modesty and two high, pointed, and perky breasts blended in a non-sexual ‘in your face’ attitude can easily overpower male dominance. Men wilt under that kind of feminine determination, unless they are only after sex in the first place. In which case, she will soon detect it from his actions and can put him back in the parade before he misleads her into a mistake or worse.
How women display breasts determines whether they can successfully handle men with feminine bossiness or get manhandled with masculine brusqueness. Women are in charge, as always if they act like it, and her well-designed offense can tamp down a man’s offense before he even gets started. Male dominance begins to quiver before such a woman, and a dominance-neutralized start up can later harmonize their marriage with him ruling the roost and her ruling the rooster.