1380. Helicopter Momism

Many mothers micro-manage their children lives. They especially prevent or deny childhood experiences that help them mature with their peers. Often referred to as helicopter moms, they hover over their offspring. They’re unable to credit a child with the ability to take adequate care of him- or herself. Or, they’re so into themselves that they don’t feel important unless they overly direct, micro-supervise, and excessively nurture their kids with niceties and female pleasantries. It discourages the maturation of sons the most, so I focus there.

A son views himself as an aspiring or actual little man but always bigger than his ‘helo mom’ views him.  Too close supervision, too much nurturing, too much interference in simple things delay a boy’s maturing. He can’t grow with and keep up with his peers, and boys that don’t are teased, mocked, and shamed. Helo moms and especially single moms with an only child:

• Visualize endless catastrophes striking their son. Her fearful imagination prevents him from learning to live with his natural and risky curiosity, emerging imagination, and developing judgment.
• Violate their son’s self-image by speaking for him as if he can’t. She makes herself feel good by making him feel poorly. Repeated over time it prevents his developing self-confidence about his ability to tie thoughts with words.
• Arbitrarily presume their son less emotionally mature than he is and prevent his taking risks that match his age.
• Refuse to trust their son to do risky things slightly beyond his age so that he can mature more assertively through his own experiences.
• Can’t release their toddler son where nurturing works well. A helo mom’s normal nurturing after toddlerhood treats him childishly.  
• Micro-manages all he does for fear he won’t learn manners, won’t associate properly, or will do something wrong.
• Extends lessons about right and wrong far beyond good and evil and into arenas that boys have no interest until girls inspire them in adolescence, such as femmy personal habits and standards about manners, cleanliness, orderliness, and neatness.
• Opens and holds public doors for son to enter instead of teaching him how to show politeness to females.
• Opens car door and belts son into his car seat. She can’t trust him to learn such simple tasks, which means she doesn’t trust her ability to get him to do the right things reliably.
• Hauls him everywhere. She doesn’t trust him to bike, skate, or walk with peers.
• Fears that outsiders will corrupt what she teachs, values, and expects. So, she keeps him glued as long as possible to her side. She even drags him along to social events where children’s presence is not appropriate.

Once a son enters school, mom isn’t a good proxy for experiencing life. Peers and adults help boys mature much better. Helo moms actually hold back their son’s maturation and help turn him into wimp, wuss, or worse.

 

1134. Sex in a Nutshell: Modern Times

God designed, Nature endows, and hormones energize females to both withhold and provide sex in order to promote their self-interest. It:

• Energizes females to gain advantage, which   
• Induces males to follow the female lead regarding sexual relations, which
• Motivates men to do whatever females require for men to have frequent and convenient access to sex, which
• Splatters smack dab on the feminists’ political platform that promotes masculine-style sexual freedom, which
• Encourages women to duplicate male behavior and especially the sexual, which
• Provides men with cheap and easy access to sex, which
• Enables men to ignore female hopes and dreams, which
• Encourages men to overlook womanly worth and pursue sex instead of a good woman or effective wife, which
• Makes men select wives for sex and hope they possess good wifely traits, which
• Informs women they can bypass promoting good wifely traits and provide sex in order to capture a boyfriend/husband, which
• Prompts women to compete with each other for boyfriends, lovers, and husbands, which
• Breeds distrust among females; makes them more insensitive, hard-hearted, and prone to be unhappy; and drives them to men for close friendships;** which
• Lowers female standards and expectations of men as husbands, which
• Enables girls and new generations to outcompete older sister females and further lower standards and expectations for sexual access, which
• Attracts men away from women their age and toward younger ones, which
• Intensifies female drive to have a boyfriend/husband, which
• Inspires women to copy masculine traits and techniques to elevate their status relative to men and outcompete sister females, which
• Makes females less attractive to men for anything other than sex, which
• Decreases the need for men to prove themselves worthy of women generally and one in particular, which
• Relieves men of competing with men for female favor, which
• Puts men in the role of competing directly with females for sex, which
• Returns the ball to the females’ court and loops this endless process back to the top for further concentration of human behaviors around sex and against the best interests of women and children.

The cultural values surrounding cheap and easy sex thus grind female hopes and dreams into the ground of society. Recourse seems to be for women to become more like men, follow them into the trenches of work and war, and fabricate hopes and dreams that compensate for bypassing primal female urges.

Tomorrow, we’ll see the loop that better fulfills NATURAL female hopes and dreams.

**This bullet is germane and fits perfectly. It was inspired by Her Highness Violet and added a day after the rest of the post.

1069. Feminators as Terminators VI

Men rule by default. Feminists converted the well-balanced male-female game into the man’s game. Whether feminist or not, modern females are either forced or choose to play where men both make the rules and referee. Our foremothers used to dominate home and culture, and our forefathers dominated workplace and society. Now, men dominate it all. 

Modern women give up their superior abilities for generating and sustaining female-friendly and family-supporting cultural values. They devalue marriage and family life by ignoring Nature’s rules for the female game. Women win by using indirectness, by completing her man instead of competing with him, by seed planting rather than demand, and by hard-headedness before marriage and soft-heartedness afterward.  

Females refuse to preserve sex for marriage and lose what commands unconditional respect from males—female uniqueness. They degrade what attracts men and makes husbands look like winners—attractive feminine appearance and behavior.

They don’t develop or can’t visualize what men see as partner material—their extraordinariness. They dump what generates curiosity and stimulates masculine imagination—feminine mystique. They reject what restrains males—female modesty.

They loosen what fascinates males—strong adherence to moral standards. They ignore what calms males—manners. They renounce what beguiles males—hard-headedness tempered with meekness.

They don’t uplift what inspires fidelity—monogamy. They weaken what generates unconditional love and respect—childhood nurturing. They give away too early what switches females from hard- to soft-headedness—their virginity.

They let their self-centeredness override what harmonizes the family— expert wifeliness with father present. They disdain what crowns pregnant women as soon-to-be heroines—modest, lady-like apparel that glorifies future birth (rather than idolizing the male pot belly). They destabilize with casual sex what most women want—a lasting marriage.

Thus, the dark side of Feminism continues to haunt female life in America today.

1055. Feminators As Terminators IV

For four decades, the integrated political movements that became Feminism swept the country. In the process of making political, legal, and economic hay, however, Feminism produced relationship straw. Females lost skills, aptitude, and attitude for dealing successfully with men and especially living with one. Men lost interest in fulfilling the hopes and dreams of a particular woman.

(I neither argue nor contest the political, legal, and economic gains. Others can play in that ballpark, and females deserve advances made along the broad avenue of American greatness.)

Relationship ills arise from the Dark Side of Feminism. It turns men and women disrespectful of and dislikeable as the opposite sex. (Details shown in Dark Side titles in CONTENTS page.)

Nowadays, teen and even pre-pubescent girls give fellatio in front of the next generation of adults. What dignity will follow those girls into adulthood? What moral degeneracy will haunt their generation? Already acting like boys, how can they escape the adult lifestyle of Feminators?

What quality of men will grow from the modern day immoral patchwork of females voluntarily degrading themselves? What position will future fathers assume when daughters and granddaughters duplicate masculine behavior?

(John Malkovich expressed his views: “I only have two rules for my newly born daughter: she will dress well and never have sex.” You think Malkovich has doubt about what sex is?)

Answers to such questions are simply speculative. But the causes and effects that lead to such socially offending behavior can lead to answers. It’s the next post.

688. Dark Side of Feminism — Part 25

Over the past three decades, Feminism expanded the natural battle of the sexes into a political war of the sexes. Trying to kill male dominance, feminists expanded their political capabilities. They made great strides economically, politically, and legally, but women lost the ability, skill, and patience to keep a man.

• Females that dress ladylike, classy, or even prissy are of the now-distant past. Women abuse male preference for females to look good. Mutual advantages disappear.
• Mystery decays to full disclosure. Comfortable attire decays to sloppy. Complimentary modesty decays to skin tight. Simple decays to erotic. Grooming decays to natural. Pregnancy decays to beer belly.
• Manly respect decays, as females appear less attractive by choice and less worthy of much masculine effort. Manly disinterest rises for everything but sex.
• Guilt and personal redemption fade, and blame and finger pointing explode. Relationships spiral into collapse or unhappiness.
• Less unconditional respect for the opposite sex translates to less womanly influence to counter male dominance. The original mission of Feminism was to overcome patriarchy, but male independence increases and family responsibility decreases.   
• Women play the feminist game with political correctness, which pushes Truth aside. Men respond with whatever’s needed to continue frequent and convenient access to sex, and it becomes easier with each new generation.
• Modern women starve for male attention uncluttered with sex or innuendo. Under threat of sexual harassment and PC, men are conditioned to not pay compliments to females.

The fallout from Feminism continues to pile up.

601. Response to Viewer — Item 13

Her Ladyship Princess Rita said: “… I’m trying to get a true understanding of what may have caused the feminist movement.”

I undertook to describe the roots of Feminism. It’s definitely WWNH. But it takes me off the main theme of the blog. So, I ask your opinion. Would you be interested in reading about matters such as these?

·        Feminism’s hidden agenda is the imposition of another culture on top of the American Judeo-Christian culture. The taproot extends a century back in American history, and it remains part of a larger political movement that rattles our culture today.

·        The radical feminist founders and acolyte ‘political correctioneers’ use females as instruments of political gain. They make what works for their hidden agenda sound like benefits for all females, or if necessary, vice versa. Incrementalism eventually overcomes obstructions, and it continues today.

·        Some female benefits are worthwhile, no doubt about that. But, radicals and activists hide the political goals that produced these cultural disturbances: Turmoil generated between the sexes. Moral relativism advanced. Religion mocked. Virginity mocked. Unmarried sex promoted. Family values watered down. Male dominance increased.  

·        Understanding certain terms is essential to grasping what “caused the feminist movement” as Princess Rita requests. Terms such as: democracy, republic, federalism, capitalism, fascism, socialism, progressivism. Also, constitutional principles chosen by the Founding Fathers to prevent the accumulation of too much power, which they saw as tyrannical by definition.

Care to see how politics helps or limits the fulfillment of female hopes and dreams? If yes, let me hear it.

Bona fides: My degrees are in political science. My experience includes the U.S. House of Representatives as a congressman’s chief of staff and four years in academia as professor or dean. Also, I spent two decades sworn to uphold the Constitution.

589. Dark Side of Feminism — Part 24

Feminism’s theoretical, political, and economic pressures seduce women into thinking the worst about male nature while asserting or assuming female near-perfection.

♦       It hardens the female heart against the male gender and fools it about females. How does that brighten the future for the individual female trying to convince one man that she knows best about their relationship?

♦       Feminism inspires women to compete with men at all levels and times. Competition may work outside the home but not within where her hopes and dreams come alive.  

♦       Feminist pressures program females to expect that tween boys should civilize themselves, teen boys should behave themselves, bachelors should tame themselves, and husbands should domesticate themselves. Women conclude that males should behave as females do and do what’s right according to female values, standards, and expectations.

♦       Feminism ignores the true, dominant, but indirect power of females and their various roles. Mothers nurture infants and indoctrinate toddlers with right and wrong. With mom in lead role, parents teach tweens to use obedience to their advantage. Teen girls use adolescent tactics to teach boys about adult female expectations. Single women shape unmarried social scenes. Wives domesticate husbands. Those are powers our foremothers developed by exploiting the Judeo-Christian culture that men produced to help fulfill female hopes and dreams. Our forefathers knew the best for women and children was also best for them.

The reality today: Relative morality supersedes right and wrong as measure of social justice. Men are not inclined to capitalize on the virtue of obedience and consequent self-discipline. Teen girls are not only dominated but exploited by teen boys, and girls do nothing different. Single women shape the unmarried scene with sexual freedom that threatens all marriages. Husbands are not deeply dedicated to family responsibility. It’s all the legacy of Feminism.

539. Dark Side of Feminism — Part 23

Radicals, revolutionaries, and activists declared war on men and gave birth to Feminism. Adverse effects and social debris still fall on every woman and impact every child. Outcomes include:

N  Over three decades women disallowed and disrespected masculine feedback about feminist theory and dogma. Now, modern women don’t know men, and what they do know is mostly wrong.

N  Husbands lose their sense of personal responsibility, because wives value their own independence so greatly that they become ungrateful for whatever their man does do.

N  Wives seek so much household equality they are unwilling to negotiate separate-but-equal and respect-over-love domain responsibilities. Who’s the final authority on what issues?

N  Personal, mutual, social, cultural, and traditional respect continues to disintegrate between and within the genders. (Hook ups without call up, shack up without marry up, split up without warning, marry up without responsibility, break up without loss of benefits.)

N  The cultural concept of separate but equal genders has been torn down by the politics of gender disparagement.

N  Wives declare husbands inadequate and worse. Unknowingly or unwittingly or both, they fulfill the Pygmalion prophecy and turn husbands into more of what wives don’t want. (See previous article 529—Non-judgmental? Ha!)