I describe habits bad for females that arise out of this natural phenomenon. Women are born with self-love. Two consequences follow in their childhood and shape the rest of their lives. I describe the best and worst case scenarios.
1) In their hearts and minds, no gap exists between their sense of self-love and the love they receive from others. They get what they think they deserve, grow up satisfied with their lot in life and marriage, and cooperate pleasantly with family and others of value to them.
It’s the best and most enjoyable of outcomes for everyone associated with such a person, who also seems to naturally resonate with conviction that we are all created to do good in our lives.
Or 2), commencing in toddlerhood and continuing for life, they perceive that the love they receive doesn’t match their self-love, that a gap exists, and they take competitive action with negative results. The overall effect hardens their soft-heartedness and further hardens their hard-mindedness. Instead of earning more love from others to close the gap, they fight back. They go into compete mode with the very people from whom they expect more love. Many seek in a career to find the love that matches.
As they discover their efforts are unproductive, that their objectives are unachievable, they try harder with negative effect until it becomes too difficult and they turn to anger, bitterness, and even striking out at those they love. Deeper and more complex bad habits of thought and emotion grow and compound and accompany them for life.
They become less attractive by turning people off, especially men. A few or many bad habits bunched together in one woman impulsively pressure her in ways that almost automatically doom her for highly successful relationships.
A man finds the following bad habits objectionable for two reasons: 1) She often gets in his face competitively to make herself feel better, express her self-induced anxieties, or blame him. And 2), when she appeals for help, he’s unable to solve her problems. (A sense of helplessness to solve his mate’s problems makes a man want to escape.)
NOTE THIS: Each bad habit has a cause developed or rooted in childhood that can’t be blamed on her man except by overstretching the boundaries of logic, objectivity, and common sense. Bad habits include these: 
- Facetiousness prompted by fear of being wrong.
- Hatefulness prompted by dislike of herself.
- Selfishness never untaught to her in childhood.
- Busyness pursuing her personal goals rather than marital agenda.
- Fussiness inspired by desire for perfection.
- Bitchiness that flows from envy, jealousy, and similar emotions related to others.
- Fearfulness brought on by mistakes or failures that she thinks might be repeated endlessly.
- Quarrelsomeness that emerges from her desire to drive their bus.
- Untidiness, the nesting merits of which she was never taught in childhood.
- Loneliness imagined when he’s not alongside her.
- Lonesomeness caused by husband’s absence at work.
- Moodiness that flows from her inability to control events in her life to her satisfaction.
- Carelessness prompted by weak sense of responsibility.
- Sloppiness that reflects badly on husband to his friends and competitors.
- Phoniness energized by fear of her true character being found out.
- Political correctness brought on by sense of being victimized.
- Unfaithfulness that boils in oil her man’s sense of significance.
Any fault found in a woman can be attributed to the shortage of love she’s shown at the time or has been shown earlier in life. Self-love and the love of others dominate a woman’s life. When the love she’s shown doesn’t meet her expectations as developed by experience, she develops or falls back on bad habits and can become an incompetent—but not necessarily hopeless—mate.
When women don’t get their way, they too easily develop bad habits that harden their hearts against friendly cooperation and harden their minds to stand firmer in competition with men. Bad habits are not admired as virtues. Consequently, her man seldom commiserates and her pain doubles and redoubles until she pushes in all her chips and loses him.
A man’s life is governed by a similar process but it’s over the trait of self-respect rather than self-love. It’s coming next.