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2071. RANDOM THOUGHTS—Group 95


  • The sexes differ. She respects what she sees (her secondary sensor) and likes what she hears (her primary and most dependable sensor). He respects what he hears (his secondary sensor) and likes what he sees (his primary and most dependable sensor).
  • Adolescent meanness is not new. But I recently heard one that particularly galled me. Either on TV or video a girl pointed at an overweight boy, rustled her huge bosom in mockery, pointed at the boy’s fat-surrounded nipples, and ridiculed him as a ‘birl’. Clever yes. With that kind of disrespect among teens, how can any kind of respect grow among them as adults. If they’re always looking for ways to disrespect someone, adolescents and adultolescents will find it.
  • Women seem convinced that fear of rejection makes men cautious of approaching a woman. However, it’s not the rejection; they can handle that. It’s having failed in the masculine competitive spirit to capture and hold her attention that really sucks up his ego, prevents self-admiration, and temporarily shrivels his sense of significance.
  • Females who practice masculine-style sexual freedom weaken the institution of marriage. 1) They provide men with frequent and convenient sex without making them obligate themselves and demonstrate respect for females as special individuals, equally unique people, and other than sex machines. 2) The presence of cheap and easy sex lures husbands away from faithful husbanding and responsible fathering.

 

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667. Response to Viewer — Item 17


Her Highness Easybreezy prompted this article by wondering at post #439: “So how much better was it ‘back then’?” She referred to women upholding virtue many years ago.

ONCE UPON A TIME

Those American centuries and decades before the 1960s seem strange to young females. They’ve imbibed so much feminist propaganda.

Female virtue indirectly enabled wives to run up a string of cultural victories for women. Our foremothers followed the spirit of abstinence without marriage, which influenced our forefathers to develop better character. Men had to earn and qualify for a woman’s hand, even after progress removed fathers from the process. Consequently, having to prove themselves worthy, men made better husbands and fathers.

Wives stressed family-friendly political, legal, and social norms and improvements. Wives influenced husbands to produce in the workplace societal improvements that evolved into family-friendly cultural values. Some examples of societal pressures that men would not produce without female influence:  

  • Virtue completes a female, and character completes a man. (The presence of both laid the foundation for marital success.) 
  • Personal responsibility comes first. (This kept fathers closer to wife and children.)
  • Maturity was identified with rational thought that trumped adolescent feelings, which we see today in popularity and celebrity worship. (Few people carried adolescent values into adulthood, because parents taught by example how mature adults act.)
  • The opposite gender was respected more than one’s own gender. (This generated mutual dependence between the sexes.)
  • Gender interdependency promoted marriage as the prime institution and most people married. (Singles contributed little except for school teachers, and they mostly supported existing social mores and cultural values.)
  • Great faith existed for fellow Americans. Respect was due everyone, and they had it until they lost it. To a lesser extent, trust was likewise. (This generated equality of respect and unified people, which glorified Americanism.)
  • Everybody tended to mind his own business. (This contrasts sharply with today’s ‘I want to make a difference’. Unsaid, it usually means ‘I want to change others, but I don’t have to change.’ This invariably boils down to telling others how to live.)

These cultural results flowed from female virtue, which inspired better manly character, which changed society, and which slowly structured the American culture with ever stronger family-friendly priorities and values.  

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328. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 15


Many mothers misread the tea leaves of their youth. They advise daughters poorly by promoting popularity over virginity. Mixed with low self-esteem and angst, it leads to unintended consequences in the teen sex marketplace.

♀ Seeking popularity, girls stoop to the absolute lowest rung on the social ladder. Manly disrespect and male dominance don’t get more absolute than with public fellatio, not even in the White House.

♀ Males claim fellatio as ‘not sex’. Females fall for it. Some girls ‘preserve their virginity’ that way. Technically, they’ve already lost it, because they lose more respect than single intercourse would cost them. They also victimize themselves beneath the indignity of adolescent masculine ridicule.  

  The latest generation talks about ‘rainbow jobs’. Younger generations need to outdo others; what one generation tolerates, the next practices.

  Treated disrespectfully except for more head reduces a girl’s self-respect, which poisons her self-image, and keeps her self-esteem pinned to the lowest possible. This erodes her self-confidence for everything except more sexual activity to confirm that popularity has its own rewards.

  Recovery is everything, and the non-sexual blessings of virtual virginity can restore her self-respect, -confidence, -image, and -esteem.

[Fourteen other posts about sex and the fickle girl and sixteen about virtual virginity are listed in the Content page at the top.]

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321. Boob language — Part 13


o | o  Take modest, classy, and feminine apparel, combine it with exquisite personal grooming, and mix it with reluctance to uncover her inner self. These send many subliminal messages about her feminine mystery, gentle neatness, extra carefulness, public self-confidence, obvious self-respect, high self-esteem, strong self-image, sophisticated self-interests. She’s known as the greatest challenge to men: A woman so put together that she defies being conquered.          

o | o  Take radical attire and grooming, combine it with appearance detractors—rings, pins, tattoos, slovenliness—and mix it with eagerness to disclose and even expose her inner self. Such a female at any age sends messages about her self-loathing, dishonesty to herself, adolescent value system, rebellious spirit, disdain for all but her own in-crowd, disrespect for authority figures, contempt for parents, unwillingness to accept others, inability to love someone in a healthful manner. She puts radical fashion ahead of decency, popularity in the radical community ahead of respect of others. She’s seen as a castoff only for men that are losers in society: Conquering a woman that screwed up in the head is more burden than prize to the Right Man of another woman.

More boob language appears at posts 287, 253, 235, 220, 205, 188, 102, 98, 81, 52, 49, and 12. Search by the number followed by dot and space. You then may have to scroll down.]

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294. Virtual virginity #16


  Even though previously married, virtual virginity success lies with her friendly feminine charm and persistent refusal to have unmarried sex. If he won’t honor her wishes or forces himself on her, he’ll be worse after conquest, during shack up, and even after marriage.

  This springs from adolescent thinking: If he conquers a true virgin superstar in looks, his significance among peers skyrockets for having the freedom to dump her. 

  Virtual virginity’s power shifts all the attention from him to her. 

  His ‘conqueror’s rights’ emerge after their first sex together. It’s as natural as her succumbing to his charm or looks.

  Virtual virginity gives a woman time to impose her values and blend her relationship into a joint effort, because he’s willing to listen as he searches for her weaknesses that will enable conquest.

  If they divorced and she wants him back, virtual virginity works best. If they have sex anytime for any reason, he will not change. If he really, truly, emphatically wants her back, he will change into a different man if she refuses sex until remarriage.

  Conquering a virgin is the ultimate, but not as women think. He’s first among his buds. It pads both ego and bragging rights.

[More about virtual virginity appears in posts 273, 248, 231, 212, 198, 181, 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, and 44. Post 25 describes options for girls. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot and space following.]

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277. The Fun Syndrome


      Have you heard? Many women fall prey to this manic-depressive sequence.

     Tween girls are propagandized by fashion and entertainment industries that teen life is fun and should be fun, fun, fun.

     As they pass through puberty, the pop culture, entertainment media, and boys emphasize sex as the ultimate road to fun.

     Nature protects girls at first. Their biological makeup and childish nature reject sex for ‘later’. But they welcome whatever else is fun. Unless taught differently by mothers or siblings as necessary for popularity, girls intuitively value virginity over fun.

     This moves fun to the top of girlhood priorities, while sex rises to the top for boys. Then, as boys become more meaningful in their lives, the fun imperative reinforces itself among girls. Unfortunately, it too often carries into adulthood.

     Teen minds and bodies develop. Boys and girls merge socially for fun. Separation of fun and sex begins to melt, as girls grow through adolescence. Erotic fashions attract greater attention.

     Infatuation sings with fun, but romantic love broadcasts greater fun. (Girls probably can’t tell the difference, and boys can’t separate it from adventure.)

     Having a boyfriend becomes the ultimate path to girlhood fun. It reinforces a girl’s confidence, social importance, and envy of others. She can also lord it over girlfriends. The ‘security’ of having a boyfriend frees her for riskier behavior.

     But then, sooner or later, her fun is not his. He expects more. He convinces her sex is fun too. Merging her infatuation with a boy’s hormone hurricane, she yields expecting true romance to emerge.

     Romantic love has to be fun. So, if sex is required to hold their fun-filled romance together, it symbolizes fun. Even if it disappoints her, she still has him as status symbol.

     Accepting sex as fun matches his nature perfectly, but it violates her own. She adopts masculine as more important than female values and learns to act more like a guy. Her identity becomes embedded in masculine fun, fun, fun.

     Fun trumps strictly female interests. Mothering, nurturing, nesting, and family responsibility lose appeal. The female strengths of ladyhood, female modesty, and feminine dignity disappear.

     However, one female blessing remains. Weddings, the ultimate attention and affection producers for the bride, produce immense fun. Obligations and vows are taken seriously, but the heritage of fun lingers inside her.

     As soon as romantic love fades in a year or two, as it inevitably does, the fun ends for her. Responsibilities of partner, wife, and perhaps mother begin to burden. Domestic burdens grow, and depression arrives. It tickles her drive to restore fun to her life.

     She needs new fun, and she learned earlier that it starts with a new man. So, she dumps partner, husband, and perhaps father of her kids to seek another. When romantic love with new guy fades in a year or two, she moves on. And then she finds…?

     Values learned in the tweens and reinforced as a teen turn wives into physical adults but mental adolescents. Manic until romantic love fades in a year or two. Depressive until the next romance starts.

     Her childish need for fun overwhelms satisfaction with current mate, but she rationalizes the fault to be his. For example, he pays no attention to her sexual wants, needs, and desires.

     Such women never grow out of the adolescent idea that romance is both the ultimate and only fun. Every so often it requires a new man. So, they dump husbands, who probably never see it coming.

 

 

 

    

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265. Female Fortitude—81 through 85


These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match the posts.

81.      Hunter-conquerors appreciate tantalizing, challenging, and hard-to-capture prey. This motivates men to investigate a woman intensively instead of just for sex.

82.      Men now exploit the superior tactic developed by women, being vague and unavailable. Modern women fall prey to the ingenuity of their sex.

83.      When women sour on their marriage, they turn against men. When men sour on their marriage, they turn against marriage.

84.      What makes sex cheap? The same thing that makes anything cheap—oversupply. Women are in charge, until they make a man ‘purchase’ exclusive rights through marriage.

85.      Postmodern retro thinking has young women mimicking teen boys.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

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