1102. Sex Differences Do Matter #19

1. Men don’t respect women acting like males. Women don’t respect men acting like females.
2. “Respect for a man makes him feel loved, as love for a woman makes her feel respected.” [As concisely phrased by Her Highness Hush at #1101]
3. As women age they become more aggressive, because their ratio of testosterone to estrogen rises. As men age, they become less aggressive, as their ratio diminishes.
4. In wartime combat men don’t fight for home and country, they fight for the men alongside, military buddies. In wartime women fight for home, family, and cultural beliefs.
5. Men offer advice cautiously; they can’t stand to be ignored or disregarded. Women offer advice freely; they’re not offended when their advice goes unheeded or ignored.
6. Women expect peace without having to fight for it. Men know they must fight for peace.
7. The male nature normally competes but with difficulty cooperates under pressure. The female nature cooperates easily and has little difficulty competing when pressured.
8. Women see gifts as confirmation of their value; they value gifts by the cost in money and effort. Men see gifts as earned or undeserved; they value gifts by what they did to earn them. 

423. Sex and fickle girl — Part 18

♥ Women tolerate men or things that embarrass them, disturb their sense of privacy or person, or call for them to act as guys do. Persistently avoiding and preventing such things generates female uniqueness, standards, and expectations that appear as virtue and respect to male eyes.

♥ Differences between a man’s words and actions disclose his hidden agenda regarding her—provided she has patience and braininess to detect differences.

♥ Deliberate delay of conquest forces males to suppress aggressiveness, weaken their dominant spirit, and please a woman habitually—unless they’re after sex instead of her.

♥ Male bashing in emails, koffeeklatches, and entertainment media imply or accuse men of domestic irresponsibility. The self-fulfilling prophecy works, and modern women face men they don’t care much about—promise-breaking boyfriends, lackluster husbands, irresponsible fathers, someone else’s ex, violent spouses.  

♥ Spiritual bonding ties a couple; it inspires both to live up to something higher than themselves. Sexual bonding affects only the female, and inspires neither to live up to something higher.

♥ Modern wives reject castle-building for their man. They enshrine themselves with him as prince consort to her as sovereign queen. Only wusses, feminized men, and political correctioneers stay long with such women.

♥ Modern women refuse to reward their man for husbanding and fathering—as men expect it. Inadequate seeding produces a poor harvest.

153. Do women know jack about Jack? — Part 8

♀ Wives want to be shown more affection, but husbands stay focused and specialize on their own importance. Men must be trained to show affection. (If his parents didn’t do it in childhood, he’s not likely to improve himself very much in adulthood, except when a long, sex-free courtship requires that he develop new habits for displaying affection to her.)  

♂ Easy marks for conquest earn high marks for dumping to the ex lane.

 ♂ As husbands see it, anger and aggressiveness are male traits, and a wife should be above such offending behavior. (This makes feminine charm, patience, and indirectness highly effective at harmonizing a pair of self-interested people into mutual interest. Of course it’s not fair, but it exploits both the natural differences between the sexes and her greatest potential.)

♂ The greater her feminine virtue, then the greater his respect and the more likely her future faithfulness to him. Men expect that first, always, and to be obvious in their woman.

♂ A man changes after conquest. By joining the conquered, she loses exceptionalness to him. (It doesn’t mean that she loses everything, just that he views and values her differently, and she must change accordingly to hold him. Unfortunately, how he changes is unpredictable, because his agendas remain hidden until he’s devoted and not just committed to her.)

♀ If he’s after sex more than her, she’s temporary until the next sex target comes along and maybe sooner.

132. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 5

♂ Men delight in easy conquest. It adds temporary value to her, but devalues her as keeper.

♂ Few things expose a man’s character more readily than being repeatedly denied sex by a woman on whom he has set his sights for conquest.

♂ Boys raised with little affection before puberty neither provide nor respond well to affection later in life. [More about displays of affection at post 3.]

♂ Conquerors can be grateful and possess good intentions, but their drive to conquer another woman never completely dies. It’s the male nature, and only devotion earned by one woman holds it in check.

♂ A woman’s refusal for unmarried sex builds virtue that earns a man’s respect and signifies that she will probably be faithful to him.

♂ Courtship without sexual relations teaches boys and men to suppress their aggression and honor a female’s standards and expectations. The process also exposes males to the female’s non-sexual qualities.

♂ Easily available, unobligated, and unmarried sex aids the conquerors’ pursuit. On the other hand, men must work harder to impress and ‘sell’ themselves as guardians of female interests when women abstain outside marriage.

♂ Enduring love for men is based on respect earned earlier about her virtue, self-respect, likeability as mate, but overwhelmingly about her gratitude for who he is and what he does.

♂ Fathers may acquiesce, but they don’t take kindly to mothers accepting and supporting the inevitability of a daughter’s unmarried sexual activity.  

♂ Failure of a man to honor a woman’s standards and expectations means more of the same will follow after conquest regardless of what he says before that monumental event.

[More jack about Jack appear at posts 114, 97, 91, and 7.]

91. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part2

♂ If she talks a man into marriage, it won’t last. A man’s devotion to marriage is very different from devotion to a woman.

♂  In the game of Desperation, men are the best readers and biggest victors.

♂ It’s every man’s nature to want to lay with attractive women. It offends his present woman when he insensitively reminds her of the obvious.

♂ Lengthy sex-free courtships teach males to do whatever they have to do to conquer. Along the way this includes changing masculine habits to match female expectations.

♂ Male conquest is predominately a psychological victory. Later encounters with the same woman are physical. This makes their first sex together monumentally different from a couple’s subsequent sexual events.

♂ Male freedom from womanly influence promotes greater male dominance. Female independence also promotes it.

♂ Males are born hard-headed and hard-hearted. Mother softens their heart for dealing with women. Father tempers their hard-headedness for living with a woman.

♂ Males learn from females that they should be romantic. The best teachers are those that insist upon bonding without sex.

♂ Males start life as hunter-conquerors of females. Feminists try to change the male nature but men only change their surface behavior.

♂ Masculine-style sexual freedom for women nullifies the male’s conquering spirit and weakens womanly influence over male dominance and aggression.

[See more jack about Jack at post 7 below and 97 and 114 above.]

14. When women are loose, they lose

When most females ‘put out’ easily and casually, sexual relations work against female safety. Males hitting on a female take rejection personal, as female condemnation. She carries what he is after, but when sex is cheap, the male nature pushes hormonally for sex and not the female. Rejection spawns bitterness, aggression, and violence. Rejection imagined as extremely personal turns boys, and those men who can’t handle it, toward extreme aggressiveness and even violence. 

When No Sex without Marriage is the strategy used by most women and honored by girls, males do not so easily take rejection personal. If rebuffed, they assume her personal character and standards reject his invitation, so females are not rejecting his person. This turns men away from competing for sex for its own sake and pushes them to compete for a woman rather than sex. This requires and males accept and rationalize that they must suppress aggressiveness and violence. In this way, the sexual habits of most females govern the level of male aggression and violence.