740. Where Has All the Glamour Gone? Part A

Why did the female gender throw out glamour as a theme for distinguishing women from men? Glamour adds an extra touch of class to a female’s presentation to both herself and others. Why have modern women given it up?

Encarta Dictionary shows three definitions of glamour:

1.     Exciting allure—an irresistible alluring quality that somebody or something possesses by virtue of seeming much more exciting, romantic, or fashionable than ordinary people or things.

2.     Expensive good looks—striking physical good looks or sexual impact, especially when it is enhanced with highly fashionable clothes or makeup.

3.     Spell—a magical spell or charm.

Wouldn’t women be blessed if they had any of those descriptions? Well, it doesn’t come naturally. The great wealth of American society enables and encourages it, but women have to exploit it.

Glamour adds great feminine value to women. When glamorous attractiveness makes her act and appear ladylike, men are pushed inescapably toward gentlemanly behavior. Not totally for getting sex either, but out of more respect for her. Ladylike appearance by itself quiets a man’s boldness for sex but lights his energy for finding out more about her.

Now, admittedly, I don’t do night life, so I don’t see what women look like going out at night. But, if daytime at work or shopping is any indication, they have no reason to blame men. Most women look common and stand out for nothing but sex targeting. Many invite hits and many don’t, but they all long for gentlemanly pursuit.

Whatever the reasons, it’s as if army riflemen were pushed into battle without ammunition. They would be ill-equipped to capture the enemy’s attention, hold him at a distance, and take control of whatever situations arise. Instead, their only option would be to readily lay down their arms.

Why do women do it? That’s tomorrow at #741.

572. The Male Glance — Part II

Part I (570) describes men observing females. This flip side describes female preparing to be observed.

Females focus continually on how they appear. The female nature craves manly attention. She takes it as routine confirmation of her value to Self and to those she loves. Compliments work very well, but even flattery beats nothing. Known males are usually best, but strangers can be appreciated for attentions and what they say and do for her—if nice of course.

If father, husband, or boyfriend does not provide a sufficiency of attention, she yearns for more. Virtually any man can provide it, which is better than none, but good looking and eligible guys are much, much, much, much better—even if she’s committed to another.

Compliments confirm and reinforce value of herself to herself. Whatever her preparations and grooming for the occasion, she did well. Pride suffuses her spirit, and her prettiness and attractiveness are reinforced in both mind and appearance. She’s doing the right things with herself.    

Denied the attentions she thinks she deserves, especially as a girl, disappointment sets in. Over time she becomes careless, desperate to get her own man, or disgusted with Self, men, or both. Greater absence of attention follows, and her self-image becomes so devastated that she rationalizes sloppy or manly appearance as her choice. Depression follows easily.

PS. Incidentally, women complain about hits from workers on construction sites. Women shouldn’t; they are not the sex object they presume. Men show off to buddies and outshine competitors with boasts and outrageous displays of bravado. She’s the vehicle they use and not the target, unless she acts suggestive or responds provocatively.

422. Chaste courtship works — Part 9

Delaying a man’s conquest and sustaining a chaste courtship serves females many ways. Girls experiment and learn; women implement and live with choices.

☼ She determines his worth to her. She focuses her attention on how he focuses his attention and trusts her feminine nature to weed out the trash.

☼ She captures his attention with attractiveness, but holds him with chastity. This enables a sharpening of common sense about his potential.

☼ Until they yield or unless they fail, women dominate relationships before conquest. Men move cautiously, even ease off their dominance, in order to avoid a no-score.

☼ Modern women discard advantages in favor of fun, games, popularity, or to have a boyfriend. They earn less respect, even though a man’s enduring love builds on respect—especially for the virtues modern females so eagerly throw away.

☼ Men drop unyielding women. They fear no score after investing their selves, which translates as insignificance. However, it’s not her, as women quickly conclude. It’s his adolescent mind in adult body—a poor candidate for marriage anyway.

☼ She can earn devotion beyond commitment, become more easily cherished, teach him habits for pleasing her, merge his interests with hers, and negotiate who rules in the various domains of marriage.

☼ She has time and opportunity to figure out what rewards she should provide for his husbanding and fathering if they marry.

☼ Her unyielding and unapologetic chastity forces attitude adjustments on him. This renders his unappealing traits and dominant character more acceptable. Else, his worth to her fades away.

Thus, she prepares herself to live with his character, energies, and dominance by melting their respective natures into a successful relationship.

324. Female malpractice — Part 10

Successful marriage comes not from big things such as love, responsibility, gratefulness, and dependability. It comes from the absence of little things that contradict, weaken, or destroy bonded emotions and disparage character traits.

·        Nagging destroys her likeability.

·        Laziness weakens her appeal.

·        Careless, sloppy, or no grooming distorts her attractiveness.

·        Ingratitude for him spoils her as needful of him.

·        Irresponsible spending highlights her selfishness.

·        Instant gratification show lack of intelligence or will power.

·        Withholding sex when not sick makes husband think of other women.

·        Manipulation displays lack of respect for him, especially when she uses sex to do it.

·        Demeaning him kills his respect for her, when his love is based on respect for her, but her love for him is not.

·        Lowering her standards weakens his respect.

·        Lack of her self-respect invites his greater dominance with less respect and love.

Changing herself—especially becoming a different person soon after marriage—convinces husband that he married the wrong woman. He expects precisely the person he married only better.

[Nine other posts about female malpractice are listed in the Content page at the top.]

321. Boob language — Part 13

o | o  Take modest, classy, and feminine apparel, combine it with exquisite personal grooming, and mix it with reluctance to uncover her inner self. These send many subliminal messages about her feminine mystery, gentle neatness, extra carefulness, public self-confidence, obvious self-respect, high self-esteem, strong self-image, sophisticated self-interests. She’s known as the greatest challenge to men: A woman so put together that she defies being conquered.          

o | o  Take radical attire and grooming, combine it with appearance detractors—rings, pins, tattoos, slovenliness—and mix it with eagerness to disclose and even expose her inner self. Such a female at any age sends messages about her self-loathing, dishonesty to herself, adolescent value system, rebellious spirit, disdain for all but her own in-crowd, disrespect for authority figures, contempt for parents, unwillingness to accept others, inability to love someone in a healthful manner. She puts radical fashion ahead of decency, popularity in the radical community ahead of respect of others. She’s seen as a castoff only for men that are losers in society: Conquering a woman that screwed up in the head is more burden than prize to the Right Man of another woman.

More boob language appears at posts 287, 253, 235, 220, 205, 188, 102, 98, 81, 52, 49, and 12. Search by the number followed by dot and space. You then may have to scroll down.]

318. His Mindset About Sex

The female mindset: Women worry about three phases of sex: foreplay, intercourse, and intimacy afterward. Men don’t.

Background

·        Adolescent male nature:  Intercourse is just intercourse. Foreplay should be unnecessary but can be fun. Intimacy interferes with recovery. Who’s next?

·        Mature male nature: Certain emotional involvements—such as respect and affection for her—add meaning and necessity to a man’s foreplay and intimacy. Her likeability adds too, but her attractiveness does not. (Attractiveness inspires the chase, but its emotional involvement fades after foreplay.)

A man’s sense of responsibility, significance, and permanence with his partner add considerations and connectedness that she appreciates. But his devotion makes him far more receptive to fulfilling her needs, especially after romantic love fades in a year or two.

The male mindset: Men are hormonally loaded to conquer attractive women. They plan around and worry about three things different than females: pre-conquest, post-conquest, and avoiding loss of their independence to hunt and conquer.

Of course, some men plan for and seek marriage. Being devoted to marriage is not the same as devoted to her, so she still has worries about his foreplay, intimacy, and even permanence.  

For more on the male mindset, see the Content page at the top for this series. Also try Do women know jack about Jack?

 

291. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 13

♀  She can’t fix her love life, if she can’t call it broke because of her misapprehensions, miscues, and mistakes dealing with her man. Blaming him takes her eye off her relationship expertise. (She chose him, her decision prevailed.)

♀  Women look for love in all the wrong places. His love never blossoms or seldom lasts, when she places his showing affection ahead of her showing respect, his fashion-plate image ahead of his rugged individualism, his hunkiness ahead of his character.

♀  Women expect men to hear what was never said. Men cannot, will not, or do not follow a woman’s verbal meanderings and impreciseness as other women can, will, and do.

♀  People miss a major point about teaching abstinence for teens. Girls firm up their confidence, expand interpersonal skills, and boost their relationship expertise by repeatedly saying ‘No’. Boys learn what’s permissible, acceptable, and valuable in the female world.

♀  Pretty women are treated better, and any woman can be prettier. Clothes and grooming impress both men and women.

♀  It’s rhetorical, but why do women try so hard to please men with sex but not please them with feminine charm, beauty, and strength of character that men admire? Men admire beauty, but they use sex.

♀  Shack up as substitute for or step toward marriage puts a couple’s destiny in the man’s hands. (Also, eighty percent of marriages fail after escalation from cohabiting.)

[More about sex and fickle females appears in posts 259, 246, 229, 216, 201, 184, 170, 160, 148, 137, 93, and 34. Scroll down or search by the number followed by a dot and space.]

287. Boob language — Part 12

Women stew continually about their appearance. Yet, they blunder trying to blend excess fat into their daily appearance.

·        They hide fat behind unattractive facades that lack class—for example, sweatshirts or masculine clothes.

·        They try to restore their former star quality by shifting into clothing too young for their age.

·        They squeeze into too-tight clothing and compensate with sexual suggestiveness.

·        They disdain what men appreciate by appearing plain, sloppy, dirty, ragged, tasteless, masculine, anti-culture.  

Poor packaging appears cheap; it reduces product quality in appearance if not fact. Extra fat isn’t necessarily the turnoff. It’s her appearance in clothing so inappropriate that it reveals desperation more than anything else.

For example, and only that, a well-groomed woman wearing the tent-like muumuu can easily stir masculine imagination. The hunter-conqueror male nature is attracted by and becomes curious about movement—especially female movement.

Muumuus hide flaws but display a bevy of mysterious movements that stir male imagination. His interest grows. Curiosity satisfied kills imagination, and muumuus don’t do that.

Poor product display doesn’t stir masculine imagination. It kills curiosity and stifles the search for more information.

Einstein said: “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” It applies to the battle of the sexes.

[More boob language appears at posts 253, 235, 220, 205, 188, 102, 98, 81, 52, 49, and 12. Search by the number followed by dot and space.]