SUBJECT: Men are not considerate of her sexual wants, needs, and desires. Granted, they should be, but….
♀♥♂ Nurturing him won’t work; it’s demeaning. Teaching him won’t work; it’s humiliating. Coaching might work; good coaching shows him respect and recognizes his dignity and importance otherwise.
♀♥♂ Men heavily experienced in sexual encounters tend to ignore the smaller details. It’s too easy and habit forming to conquer and go elsewhere. So, coaching such a man requires much more adroitness than with most.
♀♥♂ If premarital, she’s in charge of changing both his conquering spirit and defusing his conqueror’s rights. Virtual virginity lays good groundwork. (See post 248 et al.)
♀♥♂ She craves attention and affection from her man to acknowledge her importance to herself. Her sexual preferences and expectations are less important. Given that men have affection delivery disorder, progress made toward fulfilling her basic needs may provide better results than complaining about his sexual approach. (See post 3 regarding his and her A.D.D.)
Men should consider her wants, needs, and desires. As we have seen, however, love and poor choices often interfere.
[More on this subject appears in posts 271 and 266 and follows at two future posts.