497. DATING 8: College and Other Inequities

Equal opportunity in the sex game ripens into inequality. College girls claiming masculine-style sexual freedom ruin dating for their gender, and it flows off campus with each graduation.

M Men only need a place, women need a reason. As more Feminism-charged, freedom loving women only need a place, social pressures make dating unattainable for women with different expectations.

M The other women feel pressure to abandon female-friendly practices. They try too hard, and inequalities compound: Abortions! STDs! Single motherhood! Anguish! Dumped! Guilt! Frustrations! Desperations! Embarrassments! Depressions! Worries!

M Social fallout includes: No cherishment by a man! No manly devotion to her for herself! No popularity except for sexual action. She gives men more for less. Only attractiveness and sexual activity keep manly attention, although never enough, focused on her.

M If sexually inactive, she’s threatened with: Few if any dates! Only temporary, pass-through prospects! No candidates for marriage! No brightened future with a devoted man! No Mr. Right! And Mr. Good Enough slips through her fingers! No husband!

J Men have opportunities for sex aplenty! Little need for much investment of Self.  

J College men look forward to shifting the chase to the off-campus world—except those that need to find a mate to help put them through grad school and then dumped.

J Men have few premarital sex threats: Some risk of STDs! Fear she may entrap by dropping the pill!

J The male nature protects him from relationship ills so common to females: No abortions! No anguish! No desperation! No embarrassments! No depressions! No worries! No responsibility! No guilt!

J He’s also protected from ego damage: No dates, but who needs them? Someone’s ex, but that’s okay for conquest. No wife, because available females aren’t worth it!

493. DATING 6: Ultimate Female Indignity

♦       College enrollment disengages the feminine mind. First, coed dorms. Next, coed bathrooms. Now coed dorm rooms are coming to compensate for the dating gap.

♦       As for boys, they don’t date a girl their frat brethren have used and tossed aside. If it happens in their fraternity, it also occurs in others. This tends to make all college girls suspect of far too much sexual activity for men to want to marry them, so why ask for a date?

♦       College girls rationalize or find excuses for outrageous behavior. No reason to feel guilty, they think, because everybody is doing sex and overdoing drugs and drink. But remorse sets in anyway, because she’s a female. More drinks/drugs will fix that, and this leads to further compliance with masculine protocols.

♦       Females assert their independence by initiating casual sex. This makes a girl’s involvement more direct, assertive, and ego satisfying. She usurps his initiative, which softens his post-conquest respect if not his interest for her. His mind frees up to imagine the next time. If this is so easy and she’s so eager, why not try something else? Maybe she doesn’t see the blue dress syndrome for the ultimate indignity that men do. 

485. DATING 2: Dateless Sex

♦       They may be 18, but boys and girls go off to college. Fraternity and sorority life tend to keep them boys and girls for several years. Dateless sex further delays maturation of both sexes.

♦       Boys don’t date college girls for one simple reason: They don’t have to.

♦       Girls hang out with the guys to have masculine companionship and compete with each other for the hunks. They party according to the males’ agenda. Girls willing to follow the male agenda lose the respect, dignity, and uniqueness so essential for boys to ask them for dates.

♦       College girls go along to get along. Doing so, the college boys conclude that even those with whom they can’t score are still pushovers for someone else. Ergo, the gender is easy and cheap, if a guy just pushes the right buttons. The lesson bodes ill for marital fidelity later.

♦       Dateless sex prevents finding compatibility in long term interests. He doesn’t want a girl so easily laid, so lacking in the virtue that he holds dearest—aka to go where others have not gone. Booty perhaps, but not a girlfriend or wife that screws or fellates buddies, acquaintances, frat brothers, or their friends.

♦       Who’s left on campus virtuous enough for a man’s investment of Self for marriage? Also, who’s left to help condition a college boy’s thinking into that of a mature man eager to assume family responsibility?

371. College girls: X-rated bathrooms and dorms

College girls now share dorms and bathrooms with college boys. This defines ‘coed’ as exploitive guys screening females that hide their embarrassment and yearn for privacy. Girls surrender their female modesty at no cost to guys.

Feminists schemed that females become more like men: Common dorms and bathrooms force women to abandon their modest nature. This forces women to live with embarrassment, which fakes them into duplicating masculine behavior.

Unintended consequence: ‘Forced’ to live with constant embarrassment and acting as men do devalues a woman to herself. Loss of her sense of control leads to depression.

Unintended consequence: Yielding so much privacy makes women spineless and mystery-less. She submits herself to feminist-imposed male standards, but then she can’t accept submission to husband. To all men she can submit, but to one man she can’t. Her ego gets twisted against her self-interest in coed dorms and toilets. 

Unintended consequence: When a man’s curiosity about a female fades, his imagination goes elsewhere. Female immodesty creates a mystery-less dorm, which kills masculine curiosity except for more sex.

Why should men respect booty call? Yet, booty wonders: Why can’t I get a real date?

(For the latest twists on females duplicating males, explore Ariel Levy’s Female Chauvinist Pigs, Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture.)

370. College girls: Spineless — Posts 301-315

Spinelessness floods Womanhood when college girls accept coed dorms and bathrooms. They submit to feminist and masculine dominance, and details flood the next post to be published tomorrow night, #371.

In what follows, I list previous posts that describe politically incorrect life in the fast lane from meet up through hook up and marry up to split up and end up looking to start up again:

301.       Newlyweds fail to plan or plan to fail?

302.       Her faulty reasoning.

303.       Immaturity comes easily.

304.       Lifelong husbands are made—I.

305.       Other mysteries resolved.

306.       When she offers too little else.

307.       Newlywed bonding through self-talk.

308.       It’s Jack’s nature.

309.       Lifelong husbands are made—II.

310.       Fortitude for females.

311.       Relationship maintenance checklist.

312.       The ugly.

313.       The bad.

314.       The good.

315.       More good.

More about men? See Sex differences explain men and Do women know jack about Jack? in CONTENT page located in blog header.

366. Do women know jack about Jack? — Part 20

♥  Men need no lessons for wham, bam, thank you, ma’m’. College booty call especially legitimizes and promotes this disrespectful male attitude.

♥  Character determines a man’s worth to females. The more highly moral, the more beneficial. If present, it was taught by parents in the weans and tweens. If absent, he picked up whatever he has from teen buds and girls that favor looks, fashion, and fun over character.

♥  Men devote—as opposed to commit—themselves to women that exhibit core values of self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect, and a self-image of devoting herself to one man.

♥  Men have no standards of attire and grooming except for (1) functioning successfully outside the home, (2) impressing women, and lastly and much less so, (3) living up to the expectations and admiration of women they respect, love, and value as keepers—mom, wife, sister, friend, lover.

♥  She’s the relationship expert, but when she accuses him of taking her for granted, trouble brews. He gets defensive, because he takes it personal and competitively instead of objectively and cooperatively.

♥  His words of commitment do not inspire him to change to please her. His actions of devotion trigger a willingness.

More Do women know jack can be found in the CONTENT page near the top.

360. College girls: Dateless??? — Posts 271-285

What are dads paying for? One Duke University senior claimed she never had a date in college and knew no one that had.

Given all the sex on campus, doesn’t this define coed as guys and booty? Does dad know what’s happening to his princess?

She can escape booty call, but she needs to abandon the guys’ game. It’s up to her and not him. The following themes or thoughts about previous articles may lead to new perspectives. (Search by the number and scroll down if not at top.)

271.       Men should be considerate but….

272.       Oh, how they differ!

273.       Virginity restored.

274.       Jill teaches, Jack learns.

275.       Desperate to hold a man?

276.       Love with poor choices.

277.       Her fun is not his.

278.       Malpractice in the home.

279.       Listen up, daughter.

280.       Sex moved to the back burner.

281.       It works better than bed-testing.

282.       Empowers her as the buyer.

283.       He grew into Mr. Right.

284.       Morality—strong suit for her.

285.       If she pays, he’s rewarded.

[Dodge the booty label. With virtual virginity, it’s never too late. Delve into the CONTENT page in the blog header.]

359. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 16

Mothers ignore Einstein’s claim that “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Daughters suffer consequences, when mothers and daughters elevate popularity or anything else over virginity.

The male mind works like this regarding females:  Curiosity energizes his imagination. Knowledge about a particular thing stops curiosity, which stops his imagining about it.

Conquering a female goes step by step. For example, curious about boobs, imagine touching them. Feeling them up shifts his curiosity to exposing them. Seeing them makes curiosity shift to what’s next. But you know all that.

Imagination stirs hormones, knowledge calms them. Resurging curiosity keeps shifting a man’s imagination toward the next step for conquest.

♀  Male curiosity satisfied about any aspect of a girl becomes knowledge, which invites more curiosity and imagination about the next step toward sex, say boob exposure, which when satisfied invites more…. It doesn’t end until his conquest.

♀  As long as boys have to imagine about girls’ bodies, they stand in line to learn exactly what girls expect boys to do. This enables female dominance, which girls need to protect and promote their self-interest dealing with men.

♀  As long as boys have direct knowledge about a particular girl’s genitals, their imagination wanes, interest in her focuses only on the sexual, and male dominance explodes on a female countenance that will shortly reflect disappointment or worse.

When mothers and girls devalue virginity and virtual virginity, they empower boys to dominate girls. Once learned from the consequences, her lessons and his tricks imprint for life.

[Fifteen more posts about Sex and the fickle girl appear in the CONTENT page in the blog heading.]