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The female mindset: Women worry about three phases of sex: foreplay, intercourse, and intimacy afterward. Men don’t.
· Adolescent male nature: Intercourse is just intercourse. Foreplay should be unnecessary but can be fun. Intimacy interferes with recovery. Who’s next?
· Mature male nature: Certain emotional involvements—such as respect and affection for her—add meaning and necessity to a man’s foreplay and intimacy. Her likeability adds too, but her attractiveness does not. (Attractiveness inspires the chase, but its emotional involvement fades after foreplay.)
A man’s sense of responsibility, significance, and permanence with his partner add considerations and connectedness that she appreciates. But his devotion makes him far more receptive to fulfilling her needs, especially after romantic love fades in a year or two.
The male mindset: Men are hormonally loaded to conquer attractive women. They plan around and worry about three things different than females: pre-conquest, post-conquest, and avoiding loss of their independence to hunt and conquer.
Of course, some men plan for and seek marriage. Being devoted to marriage is not the same as devoted to her, so she still has worries about his foreplay, intimacy, and even permanence.
For more on the male mindset, see the Content page at the top for this series. Also try Do women know jack about Jack?
♥ Even though previously married, virtual virginity success lies with her friendly feminine charm and persistent refusal to have unmarried sex. If he won’t honor her wishes or forces himself on her, he’ll be worse after conquest, during shack up, and even after marriage.
♥ This springs from adolescent thinking: If he conquers a true virgin superstar in looks, his significance among peers skyrockets for having the freedom to dump her.
♥ Virtual virginity’s power shifts all the attention from him to her.
♥ His ‘conqueror’s rights’ emerge after their first sex together. It’s as natural as her succumbing to his charm or looks.
♥ Virtual virginity gives a woman time to impose her values and blend her relationship into a joint effort, because he’s willing to listen as he searches for her weaknesses that will enable conquest.
♥ If they divorced and she wants him back, virtual virginity works best. If they have sex anytime for any reason, he will not change. If he really, truly, emphatically wants her back, he will change into a different man if she refuses sex until remarriage.
♥ Conquering a virgin is the ultimate, but not as women think. He’s first among his buds. It pads both ego and bragging rights.
[More about virtual virginity appears in posts 273, 248, 231, 212, 198, 181, 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, and 44. Post 25 describes options for girls. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot and space following.]
These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match previous posts.
96. She always appears more respectful in the eyes of men that cannot conquer her. A man’s love is built upon his respect for a woman.
97. A man’s devotion to wife and marriage are not the same. The former is based on his heart, his feelings for her. The latter is based on his mind, values, principles, vows, and his word—to the extent that he honors such things.
98. Younger women and their imitators primarily use skin to make boobs attractive. It works. However, men imprinted with thoughts about sex bypass focusing on her other qualities. Sex moved to the back burner moves men to chase her for herself instead of sex.
99. Pop culture promiscuity reinforces to females that males are only after sex. Chastity teaches women that men are more interesting than that.
100. When marriage is less than absolutely essential to a woman, her boyfriend is miles ahead of her in avoiding it.
[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]
SUBJECT: Men are not considerate of her sexual wants, needs, and desires. Granted, they should be, but….
♀♥♂ Nurturing him won’t work; it’s demeaning. Teaching him won’t work; it’s humiliating. Coaching might work; good coaching shows him respect and recognizes his dignity and importance otherwise.
♀♥♂ Men heavily experienced in sexual encounters tend to ignore the smaller details. It’s too easy and habit forming to conquer and go elsewhere. So, coaching such a man requires much more adroitness than with most.
♀♥♂ If premarital, she’s in charge of changing both his conquering spirit and defusing his conqueror’s rights. Virtual virginity lays good groundwork. (See post 248 et al.)
♀♥♂ She craves attention and affection from her man to acknowledge her importance to herself. Her sexual preferences and expectations are less important. Given that men have affection delivery disorder, progress made toward fulfilling her basic needs may provide better results than complaining about his sexual approach. (See post 3 regarding his and her A.D.D.)
Men should consider her wants, needs, and desires. As we have seen, however, love and poor choices often interfere.
[More on this subject appears in posts 271 and 266 and follows at two future posts.
♀?♂ When unmarried women yield the first time to a man, he wins much more than sex. Men rule over women they conquer. If she refuses, he dumps her.
♀?♂ Men see friendship differently. Women don’t fit a man’s mold of pure friendship, except when they are not sex targets.
♀?♂ Men treat women according to what they appear to be—sex object, slut, lady, sloppy, neat, pretty, immaculately groomed, careless, desperate, disposable…. That is, she’s responsible for the respect with which she’s treated.
♀?♂ Men treated as sex targets by females learn that all women have little else to offer. Let the fun and irresponsible games continue. Visible groupies are more significant than unseen bed post notches.
♀?♂ Modern female fidelity is questionable to men, because so many women sacrifice themselves at the altar of sexual freedom.
♀?♂ More than sex, men crave appreciation for who they are and what they do. If not their wife, however, sex works just fine for today—thank you very much.
♀?♂ One major facet of a man’s sense of significance rests upon not having to face men who have bedded his woman.
[More jack about Jack appears in posts 232, 217, 202, 185, 172, 162, 153, 142, 135, 132, 114, 97, 91, and 7. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]
♀ ♥ Virtual virginity means just say No to unmarried sex. The purpose: To separate mature from immature, real from fake, reliable from irresponsible, surprising from humdrum, decisive from spineless, adult from adolescent in men and boys. Otherwise known as assessing a guy’s true potential for responsible husbanding and fathering.
♀ ♥ Unless he chooses to drop her—very likely in today’s sexual arena—denial of unmarried sex makes a man focus more and more on her quality, value, and potential as whole person and, hence, wife.
♀ ♥ Conquest stops his looking so diligently for her weaknesses and thus learning about her strengths; other things become more important than sex with her.
♀ ♥ Conquest releases a man to focus on other things. It frees him to move his attention to something else such as job, hobby, buds, or other females.
♀ ♥ If she can refuse unmarried sex until she conquers him for marriage, she expands her influence over his natural dominance. The winning conqueror shapes their subsequent relationship.
♀ ♥ Women play the man’s game. They shop for friendship, pay with sex, and hope the relationship leads to shack up or marry up. Friendship based on sex doesn’t last, which makes escape easier for men.
[More about virtual virginity appears in posts 231, 212, 198, 181, 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, and 44. Post 25 describes options for girls. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot and space following.]
♫ Erotic attire has one-person value: It puts the male mind on track to conquer or to show her off. Neither track is about her true self.
♫ After nakedness and conquest, there’s little left. Her ad campaign dies with conquest, as it kills his imagination except for future arousal. (Conquest is the man’s end-game. Booty sustains him between conquests.)
♫ Dating as a sex object plants the seed of booty for him but maybe only something better for her.
♫ Men want to move toward conquest at their pace. More mystery, modesty, and doubt about scoring slow it to her pace.
♫ Suggestive attire is more effective than erotic attire at energizing the imaginative side of the male mind. (The more he has to imagine, think, plot, and worry, the better for her.)
♫ The appeal of boobs lies in the challenge to get to them. Once uncovered, conquest is assured.
♫ Modest attire signals covered boobs to be protected boobs. Cleavage drastically eases his worry to gain access.
[More boob language appears at posts 220, 205, 188, 102, 98, 81, 52, 49, and 12. Search by the number followed by dot and space.]