733. Response to Viewer — Item 19

Her Highness LoveLikeNoOther asked how to get, cultivate, and display ‘inner beauty’ such that a man stays attracted for the long haul and into marriage. Consider these things and use what makes sense.
‘Inner beauty’ is not so much what she has as what he perceives. She’s challenged to expose her inner self such that he [...]

717. Spill Your Guts, End Up In Ruts — First Rut

I attack the principle of full disclosure but not the details or propriety of disclosing one’s thoughts and feelings to another.
DEFINITION: Full disclosure means baring one’s heart, body, and soul to another under the misapprehension that listener/viewer will value the discloser more highly. It bodes ill for females that do it.
·        Women believe that full [...]

697. Wife’s Dependency — Section 2

This subject grows in complexity and contradictions, and confusion about terms prevents mutual understanding. Only one true dependency exists, and everything else is something else.
Mutual understanding comes from mutual acceptance of well-defined terms. The following four definitions help to understand a marriage and shape the outcome of courtship:
1.     Depends/dependence/dependency: These terms mean that one person [...]

653. RANDOM THOUGHTS — Group 6

Intimacy is vitally important to her and less so to men. But which is more important: depth or breadth, quality or quantity, intensity or frequency? Lengthy courtship enables her to find out about herself and ‘train’ him to match her expectations. 
Home should be his castle, but not unless she generates the harmony. For example, except [...]

648. RANDOM THOUGHTS — Group 5

Modern sexual freedom distracts women from the best interests of females and grossly enlarges the sexual side of male self-interest.

 

Masculine self-interest about sex primarily seeks new conquests and secondarily returns to the conquered. One exception short circuits this sex interest: A woman so captivating that he’d rather please her, respect her wishes, and honor her [...]

591. Desirable or Washed Up? — #1. Unmarrieds

All their life females want to be desired, and they try to be desirable. I restrict this series to sexually desirable, because women misuse sex and play to the misinformed female mind instead of male nature.
Among couples unmarried to one another, the male sex drive has three mutually exclusive gears that determine her sexual desirability:
·        [...]

571. Unmarried women shape society — Part 3

Reason, logic, and stubbornness about unmarried sex—aka common sense hardheadedness—enables women to make society female friendly. So does common sense soft-heartedness dealing with life, children, men, and husbands. Female friendliness spreads when women:

Enhance the female side of social and domestic life by uplifting the male sex as respectable and indispensable and the female sex as [...]

562. Choices Program the Heart — Part II: Background

 I dedicate this series to Princess Jessica who said: “What we allow into our minds programs us in sooooo very many ways…. Please expound.” This is the most complex series and difficult subject I have undertaken to simplify. Hope it works for you. (Part I is at post 555.)
Both mind and heart are continually changing, [...]