805. He’s Different After Conquest

Reorganized, clarified, and reissued as #1759.

643. Keepers for Keepers — Assortment 19

♦       Sex does not bond men. That’s why we have marriage vows to shift a man’s focus from crotch to conscience. [214]

♦       Long-term marriage boils down to this: She chose him. She’s the relationship expert. Experts choose carefully and make adjustments to live with what they buy in to. [227]

♦       Mature men devote themselves to what they perceive as a good woman, because most want to raise children.  [258]

♦       Typical adolescent-minded men think short term, dislike obligations, have little interest in children or raising them, always look for another ‘looker’, and promise commitment that has very short legs. [258]

♦       Religion and morality serve Womanhood. Spirituality tames masculine aggressiveness and imposes family responsibility. [279]

♦       If she yields to conquest, she may get dumped. However, he departs with definitely inflated ego. If she refuses first sex together, she may get dumped. However, he departs with deflated ego. [368]

♦       Feminism discourages male adoration of women. Femininity inspires it. [1]

♦       Intercourse stimulates a man’s conquering urge for the next score more than it obligates him to brighten a conquered woman’s future. [15]

♦       Males are just males. Mothers, girls, and wives turn them into promising boys and mature men that serve female interests. [67]

497. DATING 8: College and Other Inequities

Equal opportunity in the sex game ripens into inequality. College girls claiming masculine-style sexual freedom ruin dating for their gender, and it flows off campus with each graduation.

M Men only need a place, women need a reason. As more Feminism-charged, freedom loving women only need a place, social pressures make dating unattainable for women with different expectations.

M The other women feel pressure to abandon female-friendly practices. They try too hard, and inequalities compound: Abortions! STDs! Single motherhood! Anguish! Dumped! Guilt! Frustrations! Desperations! Embarrassments! Depressions! Worries!

M Social fallout includes: No cherishment by a man! No manly devotion to her for herself! No popularity except for sexual action. She gives men more for less. Only attractiveness and sexual activity keep manly attention, although never enough, focused on her.

M If sexually inactive, she’s threatened with: Few if any dates! Only temporary, pass-through prospects! No candidates for marriage! No brightened future with a devoted man! No Mr. Right! And Mr. Good Enough slips through her fingers! No husband!

J Men have opportunities for sex aplenty! Little need for much investment of Self.  

J College men look forward to shifting the chase to the off-campus world—except those that need to find a mate to help put them through grad school and then dumped.

J Men have few premarital sex threats: Some risk of STDs! Fear she may entrap by dropping the pill!

J The male nature protects him from relationship ills so common to females: No abortions! No anguish! No desperation! No embarrassments! No depressions! No worries! No responsibility! No guilt!

J He’s also protected from ego damage: No dates, but who needs them? Someone’s ex, but that’s okay for conquest. No wife, because available females aren’t worth it!

330. Female Fortitude — 171 through 185

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide theme or summary of previous posts. The numbers match the source.

171.       Women abandon the greatest female strategy of the unmarried.

172.       When she chases a man for his looks, he perceives that she’s available and disposable.

173.       Our foremothers proved their system worked.

174.       Thus, she controls the battle of wits and wills.

175.       The self-fulfilling prophecy works both ways.

176.       Femininity inspires manly adoration of a woman.

177.       Loving parents can succeed at parenting, but love won’t do it.

178.       Effective parenting depends upon nurturing, leading, and coaching in three phases respectively.

179.       Women more easily live on faith, men on action.

180.       Feminists lead the way in fruitless efforts to change the male nature.

181.       Virtual virginity is all about maximizing a man’s investment in her.

182.       Women have three options for boob display.

183.       Women can compete against women of greater youth and beauty.

184.       By making herself worthy of a man, she confirms inequality and hints at inferiority.

185.       Hard-to-conquer sexual targets earn far more respect than easy, round-heeled pushovers.

See Female Fortitude in Content page at top for more themes and summaries.

292. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 17

♀?♂  The easier a man’s conquest, the less valuable to him is the conquered.

♀?♂  Sex is an emotional commodity that works like an economic one. The greater the supply, the lower the cost men pay in emotional involvement, time, effort, and courtship expense. Men obligate themselves more deeply when sex is not cheap.

♀?♂  The conqueror thinks more about ‘me’ than ‘you and me’. Denial of conquest first shifts a man’s focus seriously toward ‘us’.

♀?♂  Functionality and comfort dictate what men wear and look like except as female influence and expectations dictate otherwise.

♀?♂  Pressures of Feminism force men to change their behavior, but it does not change their nature. Men resent, resist, and retaliate one way or another. Individual women reap the consequences.

♀?♂  The hotter the man, the more victims he leaves in his trail.

♀?♂  The more a woman rejects the hunk, the harder he tries to win her. When he convinces her that he’s as special as he thinks—that is, she goes along to get along—she primes herself to be dumped.  

♀?♂  Women are the relationship experts relative to men. To men changing partners is far simpler, easier, and more inviting than so-called relationship maintenance.

♀?♂  Couples succeed primarily through her efforts, or she chose the wrong man.

[More jack about Jack appears in posts 274, 249, 232, 217, 202, 185, 172, 162, 153, 142, 135, 132, 114, 97, 91, and 7. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]

249. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 15

♀?♂  When unmarried women yield the first time to a man, he wins much more than sex. Men rule over women they conquer. If she refuses, he dumps her.

♀?♂  Men see friendship differently. Women don’t fit a man’s mold of pure friendship, except when they are not sex targets.

♀?♂  Men treat women according to what they appear to be—sex object, slut, lady, sloppy, neat, pretty, immaculately groomed, careless, desperate, disposable…. That is, she’s responsible for the respect with which she’s treated.

♀?♂  Men treated as sex targets by females learn that all women have little else to offer. Let the fun and irresponsible games continue. Visible groupies are more significant than unseen bed post notches.

♀?♂  Modern female fidelity is questionable to men, because so many women sacrifice themselves at the altar of sexual freedom.

♀?♂  More than sex, men crave appreciation for who they are and what they do. If not their wife, however, sex works just fine for today—thank you very much.

♀?♂  One major facet of a man’s sense of significance rests upon not having to face men who have bedded his woman.

[More jack about Jack appears in posts 232, 217, 202, 185, 172, 162, 153, 142, 135, 132, 114, 97, 91, and 7. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]

229. Sex and the fickle girl—Part 10

♀ Women can access sexual relations at whatever speed, frequency, and convenience they desire. Men can’t. So who wins when women adopt masculine-style sexual freedom? Who loses as enabled men flit blossom-to-blossom?

♀ If she can’t risk being dumped to slow his inevitable conquest, she’s highly vulnerable to being dumped later.

♀ Modern women rely on sex, hope, and loving affection to bond their future with a man. But short relationships show it doesn’t work very well.

♀ Women don’t just want men to bond. They want a husband as bond servant to help with housekeeping, child care, constant togetherness.

♀ Women dress their young daughters like hookers and allow adolescent girls to dress likewise—even in church. Pastors stew in near silence. The Marrying Man looks for someone else. Respectable fathers shake their head in exasperation.

♀ Women are not hunters by nature. Yet, some abandon the female persona, hunt with erotic attire, and offer sex with little obligation. When they fail to enjoy life as men do, ennui and depression set in.

♀ Women expect to kiss a frog into prince hood. Men expect their woman to elevate them from prince to king. Modern women fail to provide this second ‘promotion’.

 

[More about sex and fickle females appears in posts 216, 201, 184, 170, 160, 148, 137, 93, and 34. Scroll down or search by the number followed by a dot and space.]

207. The high cost of cheap sex — Part 10

♦ Sex is the man’s game. Real, honest, and tough conquests are touchdowns. Return engagements score extra points. Easy or casual conquests score as field goals. Females determine the rules and officiate, but men always win; they keep the score.  

♦ Relationships crumble as so much unmarried sex cheapens fidelity, breeds unfaithfulness, and threatens each marriage. Yet, men are blamed for lack of character facing all those easily spread legs.

♦ Eroticism inspires rapid turnover of females among men. Female sexual freedom inspires men and boys to try harder for the bigger, the better, the more erotic scores. Women and immature girls reap sad, lonely, and sometimes unbearable consequences.

♦ After a one-night stand, he doesn’t call. He claims he loves her, but he doesn’t. He pledges his commitment, but it fades. Except when teamed with a man proven to be devoted to her more than to sex, copulation just leads to more easily getting dumped.

♦ Sex attracts, but it does not bond. The higher a single woman elevates sexual freedom in her priorities, whether real or symbolic, the less likely she will find a man to spend the rest of his life with her.  

[More about high costs of cheap sex appears in posts 190, 171, 161, 149, 138, 99, 84, 39, and 2. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]