Romantic love begins in your ears and his eyes, but it only lasts a year or two. Enduring love begins with your knowledge of men generally, your man particularly, and yourself intrinsically. This post cites ten more sex differences that you should balance to morph from romantic love to the enduring love that lasts a lifetime.
51. You specialize in loving others, especially family. Your man specializes at loving many things and even those outside the family, such as job, hobby, and sports.
52. You either teach boys and young men the requirements and finer details of dealing with females, or their hurricane of hormonal impulses guides them into adult life.
53. You as a girl dreamt about the right man and building a life together. Your man as a boy dreamt about doing things when he grew up. A mate sometimes filled the background, but she mostly appeared in a secondary role. (Because boys don’t dream much about mating up, they have to be taught how to do it well.)
54. You are more impressed by what you hear. Men are more impressed by what they see. (It makes romantic love easy to both rise and fall.)
55. You need to be shown affection but men don’t. Consequently, they are weak at providing it. Men need respect but women don’t, and so you are weak at providing it.
56. If your man cheats, you want to talk. If you cheat, he wants to walk.
57. Your enduring love builds around your primal need for a brighter future. Your man’s enduring love builds on respect for your self-respect, virtues, and likeability as his mate. (Sex plays a secondary role for the long term provided his immediate needs are met in the short term.)
58. You dream of a happy life with Mr. Right, but you learn in marriage that it’s up to you. Your man knows that he’s the right man for any woman, and he expects you to harmonize the home into happiness. (It’s a particularly tough-to-take trait that requires a lot of feminine shrewdness to harmonize anything much less the home.)
59. You value and focus primarily on who people are. Your man values and focuses primarily on what people do.
60. You focus strategically on the future and plan tactically for the present. Your man focuses on the present and plans tactically for the future. (Thus, you dominate the family future when you make your first priority to enable him to dominate the family present. The family rank structure of husband, wife, mother, father, kids that I describe elsewhere aids and abets you gaining such governance pressures.)
Hundreds of sex differences determine the outcomes of your interactions with men and your man. This ends the first 60 differences, but many more follow at ten per post.