Women play the men’s game of pursuing sex for its own sake. She steals someone’s husband or boyfriend and expects him to be faithful, after she just taught him the rewards for infidelity.
Women abandon old school wisdom. To focus on his faults instead of affirming him, women reject being grateful for their man. They abandon old school gratitude in favor of expressing their new school dislike of male imperfections.
Women need a man more than men need a woman.
Happiness flows from one’s gratefulness. Wives are happy proportional to their gratitude for husband.
Citing a man’s failure to please her as a woman redounds to her disadvantage. Feelings are a minor item to him, compared to the other more important and manly actions he performs for her. Her complaints about her feelings downgrade her gratitude for him and his efforts, or so he reasons.
It’s unwise for a woman to tell her man he’s got too much on his plate of work and obligations. His natural reaction is to prove otherwise, and this expands his outside commitments.
Men are simple but direct. Women are complex but skilled for indirectness. (See post 512 for exception.) There is very little room for her directness in the domains he calls his own. There is great room for her home and family building, when she shapes his role with cooperative indirectness rather than competitive directness.
A mom’s easiest and worst mistake is this: Focus on children and relegate husband to playing second fiddle.
Her dreams can be toxic. She wants a baby badly before her body clock tells her No! So she feigns unwavering devotion to some man and marries for the wrong reasons. She has already elevated child over spouse—lethal for a lifetime together.
‘Romance’ to a woman means displays of affection that confirm and reconfirm her value to a man and his sincerity and devotion to her. Men must be taught to do such things, and non-sexual and patient indirectness is by far the best method. Timing is also critical, and the earlier in life the better, which makes teen girls critical in the development of romantic men.
Men stopped complimenting women when feminists started calling it sexual harassment. Now, women crave compliments, and most men fear to utter even the most innocent remark.
Dominance is relative in our Judeo-Christian culture. Men naturally dominate the present in both society and workplace. Women intuitively dominate the future in both home and culture. Trying to change this strategic reality leads to splitsville.
When a woman chases a man, she becomes seller to his buyer. By not holding out for him to meet her expectations as the buyer, she cheapens herself. He buys into her eagerness as seller, but then he departs sooner or later. Too much familiarity early in a relationship breeds too little of his respect for her, and so he rejects staying with her very long.
Girls and women bypass the most effective way possible for learning how to screen and qualify men for lasting marriage—by keeping their legs crossed. Denying conquest to a man forces him to reveal his character over time. If he refuses to honor a woman’s standards and expectations, he won’t do it later in life either. If he gets aggressive, or treats her disrespectfully, he’s only after sex and not her.
Modern women forfeit what men as hunter-conquerors value highly as partner candidate: She’s a difficult target to conquer and one to whom he’s challenged to prove his worth. Hard-to-get adds value. Round heels lowers her value. Thus, women teach modern men that relationships are, and of masculine right should be, temporary.
Unlike men, women tend to change whatever and whomever they find as inadequate—oftentimes parenting husbands as boys.