1801. Sex Difference Redux—Part 51: Whore in the Bedroom — I

Caution.  I describe the following in terms of the different and often opposed natures of men and women. Except as expressed, I make no judgments and leave the moral, religious, political, social, and cultural connections to the reader.

History. It happened before Feminism. Wives in small social groups with husbands joked that men only want an expert in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. Men smiled jokingly with either a silent or “you betcha” response. As if trying to please men for the bedroom, Feminism was sold to women. It drove women from the kitchen and promoted female sexual freedom. Females were taught to dream as men dream, expect orgasmic satisfaction, and participate
sexually in concert with the male nature.

Over the past four decades men quit smiling jokingly with women about masculine behavior. Instead, men changed their eating habits to lean less on women, lost respect for the female gender, and now accept cheap and easy sex with many women as more than enough compensation for losing the faithful and marital devotion of one.

Women quit measuring the worth of a man by his character. Women consider sexual compatibility as the prime measure of marital potential, which encourages and almost commands premarital sex. As a consequence, marriages fall apart once romantic love fades in a year or two, or the wife acts on her decision that husband needs to change to fulfill her hopes and dreams. Sexual potential and performance displace character as the worth of a man and common sense as the supreme worth of a woman. Both women and men make poorer marriage candidates and partners.

Next, what is whorish and non-whorish behavior in the bedroom? It’s posted as #1802.

149. The high cost of cheap sex—06

Ω Women feel lonely and fear more of the same. To ease their anxiety, they provide sex without testing a new man’s interest for other than sex. They come across as desperate, and it kills manly respect.

 Ω Female libido unshackled without marriage puts females in uniform to play the male game—fast hook up, temporary link up, perhaps semi-permanent shack up, and split up. (Eighty percent fail of marriages that follow shack up.) 

Ω The Marrying Man pool shrinks as fewer women qualify for his expectations and standards.

Ω Female sexual freedom: Having the right to do it, doesn’t make it right—especially when the trickle-down effect reaches children.

Ω Cheating husbands are blamed for breaking vows. However, other women complete the hook up. As with unmarried pregnancy, males are blamed for what females control. Thus, ever enlarging disrespect for the opposite sex emerges and grows out of female sexual freedom.

Ω A woman that makes herself easy or convenient for unmarried sex tells a man subliminally that her value is minimal, she’s common. Every other woman can do what she does. So, extraordinariness doesn’t accrue to her. Men seek to marry an extraordinary woman.   

123. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 07

Feminists begrudge men notching their bedpost as disrespectful of females. So, women initiate sex to compete and match masculine behavior. This enables more and more men to take up notching. Women thus generate disrespect for their own gender.

One biting and lingering effect of Feminism is that women envy men and dislike being female. This mindset empowers men to take greater advantage of women, especially those desperate and unhappy.

The feminist spirit in the home shows up as self-absorption, ridicule of masculine traits, and an in-your-face attitude. Men learn quickly that other choices are available elsewhere.

The feminist spirit makes women ‘stand up inside’ just thinking about a man or men. It’s toxic for a relationship.

Feminism squashed the concepts of female dignity, feminine attractiveness, and social constructs of the lady and lady-like behavior. It made sex objects popular. And now, mutual respect is diluted and unconditional respect practically non-existent between the genders.

Feminist-inspired women justify female sexual freedom, just because men enjoy the freedom. This tremendously weakens a father’s influence raising daughters and discredits him as morality teacher for teenage sons.

Feminists have it all wrong. Just a friendly touch in passing or a pat on the back sends a message of trust that earns a man’s regard if not respect. If he mistakes her friendliness for something else, she has immense powers to turn him off without offense. It’s a small price women must pay to hold onto the respect of men other than their own.

 

2. The high cost of cheap sex—01

As women go, so goes society. Men do whatever is necessary to have frequent and convenient access to sex. If women require marriage, men marry. Masculine-style sexual freedom practiced by females dooms marriage, faithful husbanding, and responsible fathering as institutions.

More in this series starts at post 39.