772. The Blessings of Patriarchy — Chapter 1

It’s a man’s view, but modern women need re-education about WHY they should mine the gold in patriarchy. I hope you stay for the whole show, uh, I mean epic. The chapters are Wealth, Women, Swap-meet, Men, and Rewards.

WEALTH

·        Men have the greater ability to create wealth; it’s embedded in their competitive nature. Women have the greater need for wealth; it’s embedded in both their need for a brighter future and primal fear of abandonment.

·        Wealth is anything of value to the owner, and creating more wealth stimulates the economy. The greater the wealth, the better off are the people and especially women and children.

·        Private ownership of wealth benefits everyone, provided it is distributed fairly—that is, everyone has equal opportunity to build, accrue, and own it. As we have it in America.

·        Natural male dominance makes men capable of denying, suppressing, and taking wealth from women. Consequently, females have to compensate to make men share for more than sex. We call it marriage.

Chapter 2 tomorrow describes the females’ interests.

728. Gender Differences Revisited — Group I

1. Conquest changes a man. He is no longer ‘in the hunt’ for that woman. Marriage changes a woman. Her husband can be made better, and she’s the one to improve him.
2. Dealing with the opposite sex, a man’s strength lies with directness and a woman’s with indirectness.
3. Men naturally dominate the present in both society and workplace. Women naturally dominate the future in both home and culture. (Male-dominated religions reject these natural imperatives. Our Judeo-Christian culture enables women to exploit these forces of Nature.)
4. Females specialize in loving others, but men specialize at something else.
5. Girls teach boys the requirements and finer details of dealing with females. Or boys learn to be guided by their hurricane of hormonal impulses even into adult life.
6. Girls dream about the right man and building a life together. Boys dream about doing things when they grow up, and a mate sometimes fills the background.
7. Men are impressed by what they see. Women are impressed by what they hear.
8. Women need affection, men don’t, and so men are weak at providing it. Men need respect, women don’t, and so women are weak at providing it.

681. Sex differences explain men — Chap. 37

Women pay more attention to their bodies than their minds. They focus on making their bodies work for them, either to function better or appear well before others. Their social success starts with admiration by females and attractiveness to men, both of which stem more from body than mind. They dream in detail about the future while dressing and fixing up their appearance.

Men do the opposite. As long as their body functions as expected, it’s okay. As competitors among men and hunter-conquerors among women, they keep their mind primed for what’s really happening, what happened, and what’s coming up. They toss around ideas and choose options while in an alert mental state. They dream broadly about the future in their spare time but leave details for later.

672. Favored Quotes — Collection 4

• A man will keep a mistress a mistress because if he marries her, the fantasy is ovah! (Theresa on 4/6/09 at AUTHOR page)   
• We as women and mothers try our best to instill in our children “don’t fall to peer pressure” and what have we done ourselves? Fallen into the quicksand of peer pressure [from those that imbibe Feminism]. (Angela at 548)
• I wish I had learned from [mother] as a young adult, rather than from women’s magazines. (Princess Rita at 661)
• The David and Goliath story has always given me much comfort, courage, and hope when facing overwhelming adversity. In this cultural/political/spiritual battle your wisdom is a sharp stone in David’s slingshot against the giant pervasive media, and feminist brainwashed culture. (Favored especially for the vivid metaphor by Lady Carmen at ALARM BELLS page)
• Racism never would have existed if females had never put up with it. If a male shows the **slightest** bit of being racist, females should shun him. Us just being around racist males will mean that we approve of it. Racism literally breeds racism. Breed with a racist male, racism will continue. (Dogsandfitness at 667)

648. RANDOM THOUGHTS — Group 5

• Modern sexual freedom distracts women from the best interests of females and grossly enlarges the sexual side of male self-interest.

 

• Masculine self-interest about sex primarily seeks new conquests and secondarily returns to the conquered. One exception short circuits this sex interest: A woman so captivating that he’d rather please her, respect her wishes, and honor her dreams than have sex right now.

 

• Catching and keeping a man requires that each woman play the game according to what their man of interest values, not what women think works universally.  

 

• A lengthy courtship enables a woman to uncover and explore a man’s value system and learn what parts of it she can reprioritize to her favor.

 

• Young females teased innocently by men invariably smile pleasantly and flash a prettier face. This makes old men grateful for still being alive.

 

• Female sweetness bonds kids to women. Adult mystery and admirable character bond kids to men.

 

• Two kinds of mature people: Some have character shaped and maintained without regard for what others think, mostly males. Some have character shaped and maintained to fit in successfully with others in life, mostly females.

585. RANDOM THOUGHTS — Group 1

• The male sex drive masks three unique urges: Conquest, frequent and convenient access, and urge to capitalize on opportunities. After conquest, this drive moves on toward someone else, and it never dies but can be suppressed. Re frequent and convenient access, this drive pushes men to do whatever the female gender requires and one woman accepts as her standard. Re the third drive, the remaining primal urge, men pursue the possible.

 

• Ruptured marriage: The quickest and most deadly marital poison is a phony wife. Different, that is, from what she was in courtship. I know two men that saw the worst: One wife became a different person on their wedding night. The other became different the day after the altar. Of course marital harmony eluded them, wives never understood why, and both couples split within a few years.

 

• I’m sure etiquette books prescribe something else for group meals, but this stimulates the most male-female interaction: Men sit on one side, women on the other. When face to face with one or more females, men will talk and interact much more freely and maybe even better.

 

• Women are relationship experts, men are not. But, one of the first blessings of dedicating one’s life to Christ is this: Men learn to grasp the meanings and benefits of relationships and appreciate and function better within them.

 

• Perhaps it’s my age, but the world’s single greatest beauty is that of smiling females anytime, anyplace, and for whatever reasons.

563. Mirror time

We act according to how we are dressed and groomed. We respond to others by how they are dressed and groomed. Subtle distinctions generate more or less respect, and respect heads the non-emotional list of how we respond to someone else. 

When females spend time, effort, and money on clothes and grooming and much time before mirrors, they tend to act more feminine. When they take shortcuts, they appear and act less feminine.

When females think, act, and dress as men do, they adopt masculine ways. This means less time and effort spent at the mirror, grooming, and clothes selection. More convenience certainly, but this tendency has led women to use the color black to their disadvantage.   

Customarily, black clothing is serious, formal, and authoritative. It means much more than appearance and sends loud signals. Let’s add some light to two extremes: formal events here versus casual, on-the-job, and leisure at the next article. 

Black attire suppresses the uniqueness of females. Symbolically, it removes sex from the scene. Witness funerals, graduations, and other formal occasions when culture, custom, and social programming suppress and discourage sexually-connected thoughts. All-black helps focus everyone on theme.

Black or dark ladies suits provide an aura of authority that favors a female’s acceptance with men on the job. Lightly colored suits appear more feminine and lose some impressiveness.  (Of course feminists complain that attire shouldn’t matter, but females do better when they accept rather than try to change male nature structured so strongly around authority—having, building, and using it.)

Next: Black for casual, on-the-job, and leisure time.

555. Choices Program the Heart — Part I: Intro

As a man, I operate under these basic assumptions: A female’s sensibilities show the boundaries of her heart. When offended or threatened that way, she has gone too far and should reverse course wherever she is and whatever others are doing. To do otherwise is to program her heart against her self-interest and usually for the worse. Her internal sensitivities guide her better than anything else for remaining a strong, independent, and well-balanced female.

I learned this by observing generational trends among females. Over the past five decades girls converted their gender toward evermore masculine beliefs. They aborted female mystery, modesty, marriage, monogamy, and manners. They demeaned ladies and scorned gentlemanly behavior.

Each generation outdid the previous; they blew away well-established and female-protective sensitivities to open earlier and more expressive exposure to males. They freely gave away their uniqueness, attractiveness, and superior value as mates. They gave away the very influences that attract men and hold one man to one woman.

Girls led the way when they quit listening to mom and authority figures in the Sixties and took up listening to males. Adolescent values last for life, unless tempered with wisdom during formation. Consequently, women find themselves well into physical maturity but strapped with adolescent values about sex, dealing with men, and keeping a husband.