542. Heart over Head — Redux B

♀ Women don’t insist that men prove themselves worthy of ‘her highness’. Instead, they act desperate to have a boyfriend and shift into compulsive mode trying to keep whatever they land.

♀ Women encourage or initiate first-time sexual relations. It squelches the man’s conquering spirit, which means no personal investment in her, which transmutes to little value for her—beyond booty, of course.

♀ Women seek a man that is sensitive, caring, and responsive to female wishes, but such men already have boyfriends. (Source: anonymous email)

♀ Depression flows from a sense of too little control over one’s life. Women yield premarital control to men, when they enable conquest.

♀ The soft-headed woman signs up with any male offer just to have a man.

♂Promiscuity dulls the male heart against respect for women. This reduces their ability to respect, and hence love, one woman.

290. Female Fortitude—106 through 110

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match previous posts.

106.   Because of love, his words speak more loudly than his actions. Quite the opposite of his view.

107.   She must be grateful for who and what he is and does. Affection and love do not register as gratitude.  

108.   The rules for success are many, but wrongs trump rules, Nature trumps Love, and men trump women that don’t know how to make men successful at husbanding and fathering. .

109.   Women are born soft-hearted, but sometimes they get hard-hearted. They grow selfish, self-centered, and often vengeful to make others pay for offenses to their female ego.

110.   Men absolutely need only one thing: A place to flop, eat, throw his things, and prepare for tomorrow’s ‘battles’. If she does not want to maintain at least a hut for him, someone else will.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 285, 280, 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

203. Female Fortitude—36 through 40

36.      She acts ungratefully with and for her man. Then she blames him for her unhappiness. Her actions dominate her feelings, not his. Gratefulness breeds happiness.

37.      Jean Jacque Rousseau was wrong about many things, but not this one: “The more women want to resemble [men], the less women will govern them, and then men will truly be the masters.”

38.      As with all of us, he produces better when he lives for something or someone higher than himself. Another reason why married men are more successful and live longer lives than their uncommitted, unattached male brothers.

39.      A woman that appears ordinary stales fast in the face of erotic scenery outside the home.

40.      Men are born hard-headed and hard-hearted. Women are born hard-headed but soft-hearted. It takes years to soften his heart, and her going soft in the head doesn’t help.

[Numbers match the original posts. Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

 

199. Female Fortitude—26 through 35

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide themes or summarize posts. The paragraph numbers match the posts.

26.      Male virginity has no value to females. Unmarried boys have little future use for the girl who taps it.

27.      A man changes dramatically after conquering a woman.

29.      Females are born hard-headed and soft-hearted. Males are born hard-headed and hard-hearted.

30.      Three major threats rooted in human nature trump love.

32.      Dominance for a couple comes in three colors: Dominant mate or the head, dominant nester or the heart, and dominant family leader or the most cherished. Marriage works best when that sequence matches this: him, her, and either.

33.      Romance to males means foreplay or prelude to it. As women define romance, it’s what precedes foreplay.

34.      Women can enjoy masculine-style sexual freedom, but they eventually lose playing this man’s game.

35.      Her hard-headedness captures a man. Her soft-heartedness holds him.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 186, 182, and 176.]

159. Female dominance—Gone! Part 2

Whatever enters our mind helps program our subconscious. Our subconscious takes us toward what we think about most, whether or not we like it, want it, or it’s even good for us. Thus, our choice of music flows from and reinforces our outlook on life.

Classical music inspires structure in one’s life. It affects the head more than the heart. It’s bigger and easily seen as better and above us—inspirational. Those who love it tend to shape their lives around habits that become more clearly defined, more predictable, more dependable. They like the feel of self-progress created with precisely handled complexities as exemplified by classical music.

On the flip side, popular music stirs the heart mostly, and then the head follows. Modern pop music hardens the heart and one’s spirit and attitude about other people, especially males about females. It also softens the mind with self-centeredness, self-indulgence, and disrespect for others.

Hard and other rock forms deteriorated to rap and hip-hop to endorse masculine put down of ho’s, bitches,sluts, and other females only good for sex. Such music further hardens both the hard-headedness and hard-heartedness that come naturally to men. It also enlarges the high cost of unmarried sex that women provide.  

Unfortunately for all of us, modern women buy into contemporary pop music. It hardens their minds with male values and expectations for easier access and variations to sexual relations. It also hardens their natural soft-heartedness; they reject the natural side of both men and women.

On another flip side, once popular love ballads soften the heart with words of respect, encouragement, and sacrifice. The subconscious mind exposed to kinder, respectful, and more appreciative words projects an attitude that shows respect for others and unselfish devotion for one person.

Love ballads impinge on the heart with an appeal that females enjoy and appreciate. Yet, modern women don’t use such music to program their subconscious for success dealing with males and living with one man.

Why not? That’s coming soon.

[More about the fading of female dominance appears in posts 151. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]

154. Chaste courtship works—Part 5

♀ Before their first sex together, without trying, women condition a man’s thinking about who dominates whom, when, how, and what’s tolerable. They both learn how much she can weaken, suppress, manhandle, or overrule his dominance—or collapse as easy prey from lack of purpose and character.

♀ If she conquers him for marriage before sex, it signals that devotion to her governs his commitment. It also diminishes both his dominating and conquering spirits. This doesn’t guarantee faithfulness, but it provides much safer alternatives for her than sex before marriage.

♀ Sex does not bond men, but the opportunity for conquest conquers his attention and holds it tightly until a woman gives in. This facet of his nature helps virtual virginity work for her.

♀This puts the courtship agenda in her hands: (1) Her hard-headedness prevails over both her soft-heartedness and his hard-headed and hard-hearted persistence for sex. (2) She tests and retests him to be the potential right man for life together. (3) She continues to reject sexual relations at least until number two is proven and engagement or preferably marriage follows.

♂♀ The curse of modern adolescence is this. Girls too highly value boys and having a boyfriend. More so, in fact, than they value feminine, modest, moral, female-empowering, and self-protective behaviors. When boys butt their hormone-soaked heads up against the brick wall of ardent feminine values, it teaches girls the well-hidden truths about the male nature and how to avoid future life as some guy’s ex.

[More about chaste courtships appear in posts 143, 108, 107, and 100. Scrolling down works and so does searching by the number with a dot and space following.]

109. Women, where art thou?

Women can be anything they want, but they have two distinct strengths that work against them, unless they know how to focus those strengths for dealing with a man.

Women are born hard-headed. This means they possess all the logic and reasoning power needed to inject virtue in themselves and impose moral standards on their immediate environment. They have what it takes to impose the female will whenever appropriate and wherever needed.

But, sometimes they get soft-headed associating with members of the opposite sex. They give up their strength, and when it happens their man takes advantage. She can’t hold her own, so she loses.

Women are also born soft-hearted. This side of her nature strengthens her with empathy. It provides natural skills for encouraging, nurturing, and nursing mental wounds.

But, sometimes women get hard-hearted. They grow selfish, self-centered, and often vengeful to make others pay for offenses to their female ego. They grow short on empathy, nurturing, encouraging others, and nursing the hurts of others.

The women most successful dealing with a man assertively emphasize their hard-headedness before marriage. After marriage, when keeping their man is most important, they emphasize their soft-heartedness and push their hard-headedness into the background.

This works on a very simple natural principle: Her soft-heartedness does not challenge or compete with her man. Her hard-headedness does, and when she lets it loose, he resents, resists, and often retaliates.

 

54. Her Majesty, hard-hearted—Section 2

Note: Men are born hard-headed and hard-hearted. Women are born hard-headed but soft-hearted. Oftentimes women harden their heart. Poor results dealing with men usually follow:

♥ She marries expecting him to change. He marries expecting her not to change. He does not, but she does. Both get what they don’t want.

♥ She treats her man as a domestic regarding household tasks—all orders and few decisions left to him. This adds to a sense of insignificance for him, his greatest fear.

♥ She exhibits poor leadership by telling her man HOW to do things instead of WHAT to do. She wants her nest made more perfect in her eyes, so she uses her standards to deny his imaginative inputs or direct interest.

♥ She takes charge after marriage and keeps squeezing him to fit better into her ideals of their home and life within it. He resists, resents, and retaliates the more she keeps insisting.

♥ She considers his machismo and the male ego to be ‘crimes against females.’ This signals her preference for a wuss and so she treats her husband accordingly.

♥ She turns phony and hides her true character in order to get a man to marry her. Afterward, she reverts to her true self and to him becomes a different woman—one he did not intend to marry.

♥ She rejects him as family hero and elevates the kids over him.

♥ She expects him to husband her with no tradeoff for his having given up his freedom.

♥ She treats his opinions as less important and judgments as less valuable than that of someone outside their home.

♥ She gives birth to a less-than-normal child, or has one die, and goes to extremes to provide care or assuage her grief or guilt. In the process she devotes herself to the child or memories at the expense of her husband, thus making him insignificant relative to her grief and perhaps guilt. She cannot forgive him or her. That is an extra-hardened heart.