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2106. Hard-hearted Hannah — II


Women aren’t born hard-hearted. The modern females’ hard-heartedness weakens their judgment and stifles their influence with men and their man in particular.

Hard-hearted Hannah competes with her man, but he expects her to cooperate. She criticizes him, expecting him to be a perfect mate. She disrespects him, when respect is his psychic income for devoting his efforts to her. She finds fault, when he tries hard but fails to meet her expectations. She nags to remind him of her expectations that he should change. She drifts away from her feminine nature and acts more like men.

HHH makes herself feel good at his expense in front of others. She harbors and displays feminist feelings that do not interest him, mostly because Feminism seeks to exclude him from the role he naturally assumes dealing with females. She expects more from him than she is willing to provide as trade off. She expects him to change under her well-intentioned but poorly programmed nurturing, but she refuses to change herself for him.

She knows little about the nature of males and females, and less about how to make them complementary and compatible – even if she wished to. She gets in his face for which he will ensure she pays a price. She kisses her frog and then neuters her prince. She is ungrateful for her man and blames him for her unhappiness. She is dissatisfied with what satisfies him, when a man’s satisfaction is both what he strives for and his internal reward for doing something well.

She turns phony and hides her true character in order to get a man to marry her, and then she becomes another woman after their altar trip.

She wants to build her castle, not his. She rejects the idea of maintaining a home for him to enjoy daily relaxation, rest, and restoration. She refuses to honor his most primal need for a place to flop, eat, throw his things, and prepare for tomorrows’ dragons. If she won’t provide what he needs, he will provide his own or test drive other women, until he finds what pleases him. He has no greater physical need for a particular woman than maintaining his abode, except as a woman cultivates it into something more appealing.

HHH downplays his strengths that enable him to produce, provide, protect, and problem solve for family life in his own satisfying way. She rejects him as family hero and elevates the kids over him. She expects him to husband her without some tradeoff for his having given up his independence. She treats him as a domestic regarding household chores – all orders and little reward. She exhibits poor leadership by telling him how to do things instead of what to do. She makes his castle so ‘perfect’ in her eyes that it transforms into her castle.

She marries expecting him to change. He marries expecting her not to change. After marriage, she changes and pushes him to better fit her ideals of their life together. When she insists, he resists, resents, and perhaps retaliates. Caught up in a marriage he did not expect, he slips one leg over the edge of the escape hatch and prepares to jump.

HHH considers his machismo and the male ego to be ‘crimes against Nature,’ which signals that she wants a pansy or wuss instead of a real man to husband her. If she finds and partners with one, she finds that she doesn’t respect him as a man, which makes her worthless as mate to him.

She rejects an age-old custom. Changing her last name to his after marriage evolved to show her to be his faithful partner. Unwillingness to take his name sends players a message that she is not very tightly dedicated to her husband and may be more easily available. (Admittedly, it’s man-think). By adopting his name, she signifies willingness to be his with faithful expectations. Not taking his name does not imply she will cheat, but it tells others that she does not respect him enough to quell his doubts and fears and depend totally on him.

She expects his faithfulness without providing the equivalent for him. Her husband expects not only her faithfulness but guarantees of it. He perceives that failure to give herself whole-heartedly to him makes her more easily susceptible to cheating on him. Clouds of suspicion weigh heavily on his mind, and he keeps one hand on the ejection lever for either him or her.

HHH is entitled to be hard-hearted. But she should expect her man to resent it, weaken his own dedication to her, and prepare for a softer landing with the next female.

 

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2015. Female Blessings at Birth — 19-21


It’s the seventh group and I’m grateful for whatever feedback you send.

I continue taking the (currently 85) default attitudes for a test drive and your examination.

Please identify each item by its number and indicate true/false, as you see it. True means that a default item is part of female nature that women inherit at birth. False means that the item is missing completely from your heart or something you learned during life.

Where “Guy adds,” I could be wrong. Feel free to challenge my assumptions.

19. I’m grateful that I have the ultimate ‘out’. I can seek God’s forgiveness to relieve my self-blame and guilt. It’s up to me to believe—first in God, second in His intention—that I’m forgiven and free to forget an incident or fault. [Guy adds: Born soft-hearted and taught to be tender-hearted, excess guilt hardens the female heart. Forgiveness relieves such guilt except when she lacks belief in God or faith in His forgiveness. Or, she refuses such forgiveness as undeserved, which just explains shortage of belief, faith, or both.]
20. I’m grateful to realize that morality and religion are essential and I can use them to brighten my future. Both serve us women in the process of civilizing boys, taming men, and domesticating husbands. [Guy adds: Men lack the natural interest that women have for morality and female-friendly religion. However, in order to live up to the expectations of mothers and mates, men adopt and use both. As women go so goes society; as morality and Western religions are promoted and popularized, so goes female-friendliness.]
21. I’m grateful to be in charge of my home. I accept responsibility for both a civil and well-disciplined household. Husband participates and backs me up when I need greater authority, which is almost never necessary as long as I do my best. (And anyway, when he’s invited to help, he goes too far or takes over.) [Guy adds: Husband provides the head and wife the heart of the home. The attitudes of family members flow out of the family heart and reflect her effectiveness. Blaming husband for dissatisfaction invites him to direct her efforts.]

Example for responses: “21-F ” works okay to reflect your opinion of false to that one item. Also, comments are welcome and desired if you take exception.

Thank you for your opinions.

 

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542. Heart over Head — Redux B


♀ Women don’t insist that men prove themselves worthy of ‘her highness’. Instead, they act desperate to have a boyfriend and shift into compulsive mode trying to keep whatever they land.

♀ Women encourage or initiate first-time sexual relations. It squelches the man’s conquering spirit, which means no personal investment in her, which transmutes to little value for her—beyond booty, of course.

♀ Women seek a man that is sensitive, caring, and responsive to female wishes, but such men already have boyfriends. (Source: anonymous email)

♀ Depression flows from a sense of too little control over one’s life. Women yield premarital control to men, when they enable conquest.

♀ The soft-headed woman signs up with any male offer just to have a man.

♂Promiscuity dulls the male heart against respect for women. This reduces their ability to respect, and hence love, one woman.

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290. Female Fortitude—106 through 110


These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match previous posts.

106.   Because of love, his words speak more loudly than his actions. Quite the opposite of his view.

107.   She must be grateful for who and what he is and does. Affection and love do not register as gratitude.  

108.   The rules for success are many, but wrongs trump rules, Nature trumps Love, and men trump women that don’t know how to make men successful at husbanding and fathering. .

109.   Women are born soft-hearted, but sometimes they get hard-hearted. They grow selfish, self-centered, and often vengeful to make others pay for offenses to their female ego.

110.   Men absolutely need only one thing: A place to flop, eat, throw his things, and prepare for tomorrow’s ‘battles’. If she does not want to maintain at least a hut for him, someone else will.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 285, 280, 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

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203. Female Fortitude—36 through 40


36.      She acts ungratefully with and for her man. Then she blames him for her unhappiness. Her actions dominate her feelings, not his. Gratefulness breeds happiness.

37.      Jean Jacque Rousseau was wrong about many things, but not this one: “The more women want to resemble [men], the less women will govern them, and then men will truly be the masters.”

38.      As with all of us, he produces better when he lives for something or someone higher than himself. Another reason why married men are more successful and live longer lives than their uncommitted, unattached male brothers.

39.      A woman that appears ordinary stales fast in the face of erotic scenery outside the home.

40.      Men are born hard-headed and hard-hearted. Women are born hard-headed but soft-hearted. It takes years to soften his heart, and her going soft in the head doesn’t help.

[Numbers match the original posts. Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

 

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199. Female Fortitude—26 through 35


These ‘fortitudinals’ provide themes or summarize posts. The paragraph numbers match the posts.

26.      Male virginity has no value to females. Unmarried boys have little future use for the girl who taps it.

27.      A man changes dramatically after conquering a woman.

29.      Females are born hard-headed and soft-hearted. Males are born hard-headed and hard-hearted.

30.      Three major roles rooted in human nature trump love.      Dominance for a couple comes in three colors: Dominant mate or the head, dominant nester or the heart, and dominant family leader or the most cherished. Marriage works best when that sequence matches this: him, her, and either.

33.      Romance to males means foreplay or prelude to it. As women define romance, it’s what precedes foreplay.

34.      Women can enjoy masculine-style sexual freedom, but they eventually lose playing this man’s game.

35.      Her hard-headedness captures a man. Her soft-heartedness holds him.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 186, 182, and 176.]

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159. Female dominance—Gone! Part 2


Whatever enters our mind helps program our subconscious. Our subconscious takes us toward what we think about most, whether or not we like it, want it, or it’s even good for us. Thus, our choice of music flows from and reinforces our outlook on life.

Classical music inspires structure in one’s life. It affects the head more than the heart. It’s bigger and easily seen as better and above us—inspirational. Those who love it tend to shape their lives around habits that become more clearly defined, more predictable, more dependable. They like the feel of self-progress created with precisely handled complexities as exemplified by classical music.

On the flip side, popular music stirs the heart mostly, and then the head follows. Modern pop music hardens the heart and one’s spirit and attitude about other people, especially males about females. It also softens the mind with self-centeredness, self-indulgence, and disrespect for others.

Hard and other rock forms deteriorated to rap and hip-hop to endorse masculine put down of ho’s, bitches,sluts, and other females only good for sex. Such music further hardens both the hard-headedness and hard-heartedness that come naturally to men. It also enlarges the high cost of unmarried sex that women provide.  

Unfortunately for all of us, modern women buy into contemporary pop music. It hardens their minds with male values and expectations for easier access and variations to sexual relations. It also hardens their natural soft-heartedness; they reject the natural side of both men and women.

On another flip side, once popular love ballads soften the heart with words of respect, encouragement, and sacrifice. The subconscious mind exposed to kinder, respectful, and more appreciative words projects an attitude that shows respect for others and unselfish devotion for one person.

Love ballads impinge on the heart with an appeal that females enjoy and appreciate. Yet, modern women don’t use such music to program their subconscious for success dealing with males and living with one man.

Why not? That’s coming soon.

[More about the fading of female dominance appears in posts 151. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]

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