- Immature women act desperate to have a boyfriend, compulsive to keep one, and dress sloppily to reflect faux independence. Males view them as unimpressive for much beyond sex (aka lacking virtue).
- A woman’s love arises out of her self-love combined with hopes and dreams for a bright future with a man. She has three options to work toward: To be cherished, which misleads her. To get his commitment, which disadvantages her. Or, to generate his devotion, which significantly improves her odds for marital success.
- As with all of us, Jack performs better when he lives for something bigger or higher than himself. Another reason why married men are more successful and live longer than their uncommitted, unattached male brothers. Devotion to spouse thus adds to one’s life.
- Abraham Lincoln said a man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be. Not so with women. Women are as happy as they can find and appreciate things for which they are grateful. Gratitude transmutes into happiness in her heart, when she repeatedly identifies, expresses, and reinforces her gratefulness in her mind.
- The softheaded woman ignorantly thinks that removing the mystery and disclosing her sexual history makes a man appreciate her. Actually, it provides him ammunition for later squabbles and disrespecting her.
- Love at first sight applies only to men—his eyes can get him emotionally involved such that conquest loses immediate importance. Love at first encounter applies to women—a man’s potential as mate registers much higher than his appearance.
- Dealing with men, women are very effective when they smile, use indirectness, and keep opinions and emotions to their selves. Dealing with women, men are neither so inclined nor as effective.
- Words are very valuable and meaningful to women. They feast with their ears. Words are less so for men. They feast with their eyes and actions are more meaningful and valuable for judgment.
- The primary love of females is Self-love. The primary love of males is performance and accomplishments—sex, work, athletics, problem-solving, producing, protecting, conquering specific females, capturing girl of their dreams, and whatever else adds to an individual’s sense of significance.
- She appreciates (and even expects) gifts given for no reason. He appreciates gifts given for something he’s done.
- Confusion strongly motivates men to seek resolution as part of their problem-solving nature. Women live much easier with confusions, dilemmas, and ambiguities.
- Men recognize that greater female attractiveness adds beauty in their world. IOW, the more attractive any woman is, the greater is the value of her gender. Women aren’t energized that way. They make themselves attractive for themselves and not for the general world in which they live.
♦ Love is never enough. Too many little negatives interfere, and too few positives support it.
♦ Modern men have many malpractices for dealing with women and living with one. But men are trainable, when women set their mind to it.
♦ When women want a man more than their dignity and self-respect, they invariably choose poorly.
♦ A woman’s self-love determines her capacity for reliably loving a man. Bitchiness and critical attitude signal a shortage.
♦ Challenge for Wives: When telling him about what happened to you today, try telling it such that he responds with the rarest words a wife ever hears from husband, “Tell me more.”
♦ I wonder what would happen if a woman dressed up for work above and beyond whatever is standard and expected at her place of employment—for example: more feminine, less casual, neater sense of professionalism, etc. Actually I know what would happen. First, other women would dislike them for it. Second, the men would show more attention, respect, and appreciation. Third, other women would gradually follow suit to keep up with leader of the pack. Fourth, it would become a better place to work.
♦ I credit someone else for this, but I love it: Mother and child is basic Nature. Joining them with a man is basic civilization. I could add: Marriage arranges and the family unit stabilizes civilization.
☼ Instead of bragging about hits they receive and out-competing their girlfriends, modern women compete with men. On one hand they’re starved for manly attention, and on the other they discourage compliments by turning unwanted sexual advances into harassment.
☼ Most unwanted sexual advances are compliments. If not intended that way, her smile surprises, disarms him, and adds ridicule to her rejection. If intended as compliment, a smile makes her prettier and rewards him. Both guys wonder what their impact will be.
☼ Unwanted sexual advances test a female’s self-love. Squelching hits with a smile reinforces her self-reliance and self-image, however poorly she may feel temporarily.
☼ Women usually take offense only when they don’t like his looks, or they’re committed to someone else. But how’s a guy supposed to know that?
☼ Smiling at hits aka compliments—even from unwanted guys—indirectly adds value to her. Nasty responses make her appear ugly, and men feast with their eyes. The absence of nasty confirms and a smile enhances her prettiness.
☼ Of course she may not like handling hits and disposing of offenders. But she should for several reasons: She’s being asked to show off her prettiness. Success strengthens her character. It’s a God-given weapon in the battle of the sexes. It helps women bring men into the camp of female friendliness, instead of harassment officials driving them out.
Ideas for shaping her workplace environment show up in posts 597-599.