Three factors breed manly devotion and marital longevity, and they build from the mutual exchange of assets, commitments, and rewards. The swapping works far more successfully, when she’s virgin or virtual virgin**:
They swap ultimate assets:
Her ultimate asset is sex, and especially when unconquered by him. Their first sex together means he conquered and thus [...]
Before we get to wife’s role, let’s explore her first line of defense: husband’s conscience. Like the rest of us, husband wants to feel good about himself and preferably all the time. Conscience alerts him when he shouldn’t or doesn’t.
Definition: Conscience is the internal message center that backs up the respect we have for our [...]
Yesterday I mentioned mistakes and recovery. I need to recover before proceeding with original plan. Let’s look at cheating before we get to preventing it. So, we need to examine these identical terms—cheating, unfaithfulness, and infidelity—as they register with husband and wife:
Faithfulness is the gigantic commitment and mutual expectation that operates in the marriage background [...]
I close this series with two posts and two patterns. This first one points to things that build compatibility. Tomorrow the second one points to the opposite.
These tradeoffs worked well to build compatibility over the past couple centuries:
♦ She depends on him for producing, providing, protecting, and problem solving, which confirm his importance and value [...]
Now, let’s review some natural basics that surround a couple before love comes into play. This is husband:
♦ Men are strangers to what marriage means to a woman. Starting out, his part extends no further than the 4P essentials of life. It takes relationship expertise to condition him for greater complexities, responsibilities, and satisfactions.
♦ [...]
Several ladies voice confusion about the dependent role of wife, so let me start with the husband’s side.
♦ First, we have actual dependency. Husband fulfills his responsibility by producing, providing, protecting, and problem solving. He’s not easily discouraged in this primary mission, because it’s basic to the male nature.
♦ Second, we have symbols that reflect [...]
This summary completes the series about grateful actions that can lead to mutual happiness.
Wife directly demonstrates her gratitude for husband, which makes her happy with him.
♦ That’s it. Her happiness-seeking ‘job’ is simple and easy.
♦ Unless, that is, she can’t show gratitude. She may have chosen or turned him into Mr. Wrong. Or she may [...]
Compared to females, men are simple, but not always. His happiness flows from his accomplishments and hers from relationships.
This is a man:
♦ He identifies with his work and responsibilities. The action of tackling them makes him grateful for his job and the opportunities afforded.
♦ He generates value for himself by accomplishing things, reinforcing his [...]
