207. The high cost of cheap sex — Part 10

♦ Sex is the man’s game. Real, honest, and tough conquests are touchdowns. Return engagements score extra points. Easy or casual conquests score as field goals. Females determine the rules and officiate, but men always win; they keep the score.  

♦ Relationships crumble as so much unmarried sex cheapens fidelity, breeds unfaithfulness, and threatens each marriage. Yet, men are blamed for lack of character facing all those easily spread legs.

♦ Eroticism inspires rapid turnover of females among men. Female sexual freedom inspires men and boys to try harder for the bigger, the better, the more erotic scores. Women and immature girls reap sad, lonely, and sometimes unbearable consequences.

♦ After a one-night stand, he doesn’t call. He claims he loves her, but he doesn’t. He pledges his commitment, but it fades. Except when teamed with a man proven to be devoted to her more than to sex, copulation just leads to more easily getting dumped.

♦ Sex attracts, but it does not bond. The higher a single woman elevates sexual freedom in her priorities, whether real or symbolic, the less likely she will find a man to spend the rest of his life with her.  

[More about high costs of cheap sex appears in posts 190, 171, 161, 149, 138, 99, 84, 39, and 2. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]

154. Chaste courtship works—Part 5

♀ Before their first sex together, without trying, women condition a man’s thinking about who dominates whom, when, how, and what’s tolerable. They both learn how much she can weaken, suppress, manhandle, or overrule his dominance—or collapse as easy prey from lack of purpose and character.

♀ If she conquers him for marriage before sex, it signals that devotion to her governs his commitment. It also diminishes both his dominating and conquering spirits. This doesn’t guarantee faithfulness, but it provides much safer alternatives for her than sex before marriage.

♀ Sex does not bond men, but the opportunity for conquest conquers his attention and holds it tightly until a woman gives in. This facet of his nature helps virtual virginity work for her.

♀This puts the courtship agenda in her hands: (1) Her hard-headedness prevails over both her soft-heartedness and his hard-headed and hard-hearted persistence for sex. (2) She tests and retests him to be the potential right man for life together. (3) She continues to reject sexual relations at least until number two is proven and engagement or preferably marriage follows.

♂♀ The curse of modern adolescence is this. Girls too highly value boys and having a boyfriend. More so, in fact, than they value feminine, modest, moral, female-empowering, and self-protective behaviors. When boys butt their hormone-soaked heads up against the brick wall of ardent feminine values, it teaches girls the well-hidden truths about the male nature and how to avoid future life as some guy’s ex.

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