681. Sex differences explain men — Chap. 37

Women pay more attention to their bodies than their minds. They focus on making their bodies work for them, either to function better or appear well before others. Their social success starts with admiration by females and attractiveness to men, both of which stem more from body than mind. They dream in detail about the future while dressing and fixing up their appearance.

Men do the opposite. As long as their body functions as expected, it’s okay. As competitors among men and hunter-conquerors among women, they keep their mind primed for what’s really happening, what happened, and what’s coming up. They toss around ideas and choose options while in an alert mental state. They dream broadly about the future in their spare time but leave details for later.

648. RANDOM THOUGHTS — Group 5

• Modern sexual freedom distracts women from the best interests of females and grossly enlarges the sexual side of male self-interest.

 

• Masculine self-interest about sex primarily seeks new conquests and secondarily returns to the conquered. One exception short circuits this sex interest: A woman so captivating that he’d rather please her, respect her wishes, and honor her dreams than have sex right now.

 

• Catching and keeping a man requires that each woman play the game according to what their man of interest values, not what women think works universally.  

 

• A lengthy courtship enables a woman to uncover and explore a man’s value system and learn what parts of it she can reprioritize to her favor.

 

• Young females teased innocently by men invariably smile pleasantly and flash a prettier face. This makes old men grateful for still being alive.

 

• Female sweetness bonds kids to women. Adult mystery and admirable character bond kids to men.

 

• Two kinds of mature people: Some have character shaped and maintained without regard for what others think, mostly males. Some have character shaped and maintained to fit in successfully with others in life, mostly females.

643. Keepers for Keepers — Assortment 19

♦       Sex does not bond men. That’s why we have marriage vows to shift a man’s focus from crotch to conscience. [214]

♦       Long-term marriage boils down to this: She chose him. She’s the relationship expert. Experts choose carefully and make adjustments to live with what they buy in to. [227]

♦       Mature men devote themselves to what they perceive as a good woman, because most want to raise children.  [258]

♦       Typical adolescent-minded men think short term, dislike obligations, have little interest in children or raising them, always look for another ‘looker’, and promise commitment that has very short legs. [258]

♦       Religion and morality serve Womanhood. Spirituality tames masculine aggressiveness and imposes family responsibility. [279]

♦       If she yields to conquest, she may get dumped. However, he departs with definitely inflated ego. If she refuses first sex together, she may get dumped. However, he departs with deflated ego. [368]

♦       Feminism discourages male adoration of women. Femininity inspires it. [1]

♦       Intercourse stimulates a man’s conquering urge for the next score more than it obligates him to brighten a conquered woman’s future. [15]

♦       Males are just males. Mothers, girls, and wives turn them into promising boys and mature men that serve female interests. [67]

548. Femmy Secrets Promote Harmony — # 1

This series highlights practices and habits that produce female advantage or prevent relationship reflux.

♫     She bases her love around his masculine values, rules, and expectations that help fulfill female hopes and dreams and particularly hers. (It sounds anti-female, but it fulfills a primal urge to brighten her future.)

♫     She trusts more than suspects, offers friendship warmth instead of co-dependency, and extends loving appreciation for instead of direct involvement in every little decision he makes.

♫     She cooperates with her man in his domain, so she can dominate in her own.

♫     She encourages her man to improve his sense of personal and family responsibility. She indirectly tells or suggests WHAT to do and lets him determine the HOW and the TIME. Patience energizes his conscience about pleasing her.

♫     She endorses ‘how one plays the game’ as vital for mentoring children into maturity and minimizing the seriousness of marital disputes. ‘Winning is everything’ applies only to males and outside the home.

♫     She resists the male conquering drive to earn greater respect—the precursor of a man’s love. She further delays conquest throughout courtship in order to confirm his devotion and solicit firm obligations.

284. The high cost of cheap sex — 12

♣  What one generation allows, the next practices.

♣  Living by high moral standards reinforces a female as right, proper, and courageous. Not living that way makes her easy prey for men.

♣  If she’s easy with sex, she’s of doubtful quality to the Marrying Man.

♣  Morality serves women and children much more than men. Highly moral cultural values make society female-friendly.

♣  Low morality energizes male friendliness and dominance.

♣  When morality declines, men operate with less female influence. They help downgrade social values further toward masculine interests.

♣  How females play the sex game dominates the lifestyle of males. Men keep trying to make frequent and convenient sex more easily available. The more loosely women play the game, the more men pressure for even more looseness.

♣  Men fill the power vacuum caused by women seeking masculine approval instead of holding up female-friendly values against male dominance.

♣  Females giving in to greater and greater male social pressure forces women to reshape the lifestyle of females and children.

♣  Men giving in to greater and greater female pressures forces men to reshape the lifestyle of males.

[More about high costs of cheap sex appears in posts 226, 207, 190, 171, 161, 149, 138, 99, 84, 39, and 2. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]

280. Female Fortitude—96 through 100

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match previous posts.

96.     She always appears more respectful in the eyes of men that cannot conquer her. A man’s love is built upon his respect for a woman. 

97.     A man’s devotion to wife and marriage are not the same. The former is based on his heart, his feelings for her. The latter is based on his mind, values, principles, vows, and his word—to the extent that he honors such things.

98.     Younger women and their imitators primarily use skin to make boobs attractive. It works. However, men imprinted with thoughts about sex bypass focusing on her other qualities. Sex moved to the back burner moves men to chase her for herself instead of sex.

99.     Pop culture promiscuity reinforces to females that males are only after sex. Chastity teaches women that men are more interesting than that.  

100.   When marriage is less than absolutely essential to a woman, her boyfriend is miles ahead of her in avoiding it.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

223. Weans, tweens, and teens #8 — Self-interest

Self-interest motivates adults. It flows out of three sequential stages in childhood. However, I ignore those subsets here to address the bigger, broader, and more vital self-interest itself. The subsetts come later.

☺ Self-interest is the totality of what’s important to each person as they define and weigh everything in life against their inner self. The following process lasts for life or until accident, drugs, or dementia kill it.

·        Our subconscious mind merges and integrates our instincts, self-worth, and self-image with our consciously derived hopes, aspirations, and fears.

·        This programs the subconscious mind with self-interest that motivates its owner. (Research shows that over 99% of human behavior is generated out of the subconscious mind. See more at post 193.)   

☺ Self-interest motivates each individual constantly and throughout life. It drives the bus of a person’s behavior. It’s the subconscious and conscious power behind our efforts.

☺ Life is filled with tradeoffs to do what we want and don’t want, need and don’t need, fear and don’t fear. Self-interest guides us through the maze.

☺ If something’s not in our self-interest, our subconscious turns us away from it. If in our self-interest, our subconscious moves us toward it.

☺ No one reveals their complete or true self to others. That’s why everyone has hidden agendas.

☺ People make mistakes not in their best interests.  Correction or recovery then becomes a new ingredient in self-interest. Childhood marvelously demonstrates the process.

Raising kids is all about guiding a child through programming of self-interest. This post introduces the subject, The subsets show up in posts 239, 268, and 273.

[More about childhood mental growth appears in posts 208, 197, 193, 192, 187, 178, and 177. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]

215. Vulnerable females

Infatuation: Foolish or all-absorbing passion is a powerful motivator. People often see weakness in infatuated friends. Those infatuated often consider it an imprisonment they must bear. It’s excess passion but still part of the female nature.

·        Pre-pubescent girls become infatuated with copying teen girls.

·        Teen girls become infatuated with infatuation.

·        Young women become infatuated with romance.

·        Unmarried women become infatuated with boyfriends.

·        Fiancés and brides become infatuated with precision in wedding arrangements.

·        Newlyweds become infatuated with bringing alive the ideal marriage.

·        Cohabiting women become infatuated with holding on until marriage comes.

·        Dumped women become infatuated with what they’ll do different next time.

·        Wives become infatuated with keeping husband but on her terms.

·        Unhappy wives become infatuated with bashing and trashing the cause.

·        Feminists become infatuated with uplifting females at the expense of males.

·        Women working outside the home become infatuated with equalizing housework and childcare duties.

·        Mothers become infatuated with living their kids’ lives for them—from simple decisions through safety extremes.

·        Grandmothers become infatuated with lessons they learned too late in life.

·        Female bosses become infatuated with their power, especially authority over men.

·        Teachers become infatuated with excellence, but their bosses push mediocrity.  

Infatuation easily takes hold of females, and it often leads to bad decisions.