Conquest changes a man. He is no longer ‘in the hunt’ for that woman. Marriage changes a woman. Her husband can be made better, and she’s the one to improve him.
Dealing with the opposite sex, a man’s strength lies with directness and a woman’s with indirectness.
Men naturally dominate the present in both society and [...]
Posts Tagged as ‘marriage’
11/01/2009
728. Gender Differences Revisited — Group I
10/22/2009
718. Spill Your Guts, End Up In Ruts — Second Rut
This post continues my attack on the principle of full disclosure but not the details or propriety of disclosing one’s thoughts and feelings to another. I use the definition near the top of yesterday’s article, 717.
Full disclosure creates many more self-inflicted wounds to females than cited yesterday:
He’s more easily convinced of her value, when he [...]
10/01/2009
697. Wife’s Dependency — Section 2
This subject grows in complexity and contradictions, and confusion about terms prevents mutual understanding. Only one true dependency exists, and everything else is something else.
Mutual understanding comes from mutual acceptance of well-defined terms. The following four definitions help to understand a marriage and shape the outcome of courtship:
1. Depends/dependence/dependency: These terms mean that one person [...]
09/28/2009
694. Attitude of Gratitude — Part 5
This summary completes the series about grateful actions that can lead to mutual happiness.
Wife directly demonstrates her gratitude for husband, which makes her happy with him.
♦ That’s it. Her happiness-seeking ‘job’ is simple and easy.
♦ Unless, that is, she can’t show gratitude. She may have chosen or turned him into Mr. Wrong. Or she may [...]
09/26/2009
692. Attitude of Gratitude — Part 3
Mutual happiness flows out of interactions that she controls, or at least she’s the major initiator.
Actions generate gratefulness, which generates happiness. Working backward, her happiness flows from her gratitude for who he is and what he does, from what she gains by partnering with him. Her gratitude arises from actions that demonstrate her gratefulness, because [...]
09/13/2009
679. Respect Revisited — II
Once together as couple and on through marriage, his staying power depends on respect she shows him, and his love depends on respect she earns from him. One-sided and confusing, yes, but it determines outcomes.
No serious relationship arises or succeeds, when she shows disrespect for him. He determines what’s disrespectful, and unfortunately for her feminists [...]
08/15/2009
650. Quips & Tips — List 2
♦ We’re much more transparent that we think. Attitude is the outer expression of inner self, and non-judgmentalism is wishful thinking.
♦ “The heart cannot accept what the mind rejects.” (Kerby Anderson, 12/7/08)
♦ People are as happy as they act happy; feelings follow actions.
♦ Acceptance that one is a victim keeps one from helping their self.
♦ [...]
