759. Response to Viewer — Item 22a

At post 751 Her Highness Easybreezy says: “The men around me these days I just don’t find all that appealing.”
Social pressures cause the phenomenon, and I’d bet many women are plagued by it. I can’t offer much without describing the background. Tomorrow’s post addresses the foreground.
Question. Why do men seem so unappealing?
History. Men used to work [...]

757. Response to Viewer — Item 21a

Her Highness Abigail prompted this article, when at post #751 she wondered that “…marriage seems like a raw deal for women.”
Of course it can be, but women are the relationship experts, so some blame attaches to them. They intuitively know how to manage and maintain a successful relationship. But that doesn’t mean they rely on [...]

749. Gender Differences Revisited — Group N

Sex to her is giving of herself. To him, it’s taking—especially their first time together.  
She is the expert on relationships and bonding. He is the expert on sex and escaping.
Starting at puberty, boys are turned off by female nagging—unless she’s a sex target as yet unconquered. It’s natural and for life.
Women hunger for marriage. Men [...]

728. Gender Differences Revisited — Group I

Conquest changes a man. He is no longer ‘in the hunt’ for that woman. Marriage changes a woman. Her husband can be made better, and she’s the one to improve him.
Dealing with the opposite sex, a man’s strength lies with directness and a woman’s with indirectness.
Men naturally dominate the present in both society and [...]

718. Spill Your Guts, End Up In Ruts — Second Rut

This post continues my attack on the principle of full disclosure but not the details or propriety of disclosing one’s thoughts and feelings to another. I use the definition near the top of yesterday’s article, 717.
Full disclosure creates many more self-inflicted wounds to females than cited yesterday:

He’s more easily convinced of her value, when he [...]

717. Spill Your Guts, End Up In Ruts — First Rut

I attack the principle of full disclosure but not the details or propriety of disclosing one’s thoughts and feelings to another.
DEFINITION: Full disclosure means baring one’s heart, body, and soul to another under the misapprehension that listener/viewer will value the discloser more highly. It bodes ill for females that do it.
·        Women believe that full [...]

697. Wife’s Dependency — Section 2

This subject grows in complexity and contradictions, and confusion about terms prevents mutual understanding. Only one true dependency exists, and everything else is something else.
Mutual understanding comes from mutual acceptance of well-defined terms. The following four definitions help to understand a marriage and shape the outcome of courtship:
1.     Depends/dependence/dependency: These terms mean that one person [...]

694. Attitude of Gratitude — Part 5

This summary completes the series about grateful actions that can lead to mutual happiness.
Wife directly demonstrates her gratitude for husband, which makes her happy with him.
♦       That’s it. Her happiness-seeking ‘job’ is simple and easy.
♦       Unless, that is, she can’t show gratitude. She may have chosen or turned him into Mr. Wrong. Or she may [...]