WWNH: Wives face a paradox that some can’t accept and overcome: If he doesn’t show appreciation for her, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t appreciate her. There are two sides, and the second is the stronger and more dependable for female benefits.
First, women see insensitive clods, because masculine thinking runs like this: To show appreciation through praise or acknowledge one’s gratefulness is to show dependence and weakness. It’s the man’s world, and so, unless he wants something, he doesn’t think about her.
Trying to capture a woman, however, men show more female-friendly attentions, praise, and gratitude. But once committed in marriage, husbands revert to thinking like a man. As family leader he needs independence and mental strength. This shifts his focus away from pleasing her as she would like, or as she became accustomed when dating.
Second, femininity has its own built-in rewards. She knows she’s doing the right thing, so small favors, nuances, and attentions to husband stroke her ego whether he shows appreciation or not. Her actions alone confirm her importance. This makes femininity self-rewarding, which strengthens her ability and commitment to it, which strengthens family bonding.
Men lack the relationship skills that women have naturally and in abundance. As you would expect, recovery for wives depends on wives. It’s next.
