606. Prettier is as Feminine Does #4

‘Pretty’ is how she looks to herself. She’s done her best to attire and groom herself well. Her physical attributes shine and physical weaknesses go unnoticed to her.

·        Prettiness to men fades as femininity gives way to masculinity and feminist pride.

·        Men know very little about ‘feminine’. They don’t know what makes it; they just like what they see. They can individually cite a few prettifying traits or characteristics. But generally they accept and live with whatever females present. They make judgments based on that.  

·        Men are not in the business of generating pettiness or femininity, feminine behavior, or distinctions. Women are, because they need a man more than men need a woman.

·        Making herself pretty for a man leads to disappointment every time his reaction does not match her expectation.

·        Pretty can be summarized as her female magnetism. She’s good company, fun or companionable, and looks ‘great’ to him. But it varies to an infinite number of degrees, situations, and men. This makes manly reactions unpredictable, which translates to this: She prettifies herself solely to make herself feel good about herself. Anything beyond that risks disappointment and belittling of herself. 

The next post concludes this series.

559. He’s Wary to Marry — Section 4

Men see and hear too much of this to show much eagerness for marriage:

♦       She teaches or guides daughters about safe sex, expects them to experiment, and ignores the importance that deferred gratification adds to the maturing process. Fathers harbor contrary feelings.

♦       She just cannot be grateful for her husband doing what he’s best equipped and prepared to do—producing, providing, protecting, problem solving.

♦       She orients her thinking and feelings around harsh and loud and total self-centeredness, opposite to the female nature.

♦       She stresses her faithfulness to feminist ideology and political objectives.

♦       She tears down manliness and masculinity to uplift herself or get what she wants.

♦       She thinks about herself more than him and works with other women and what they should and can do.

♦       She offers unmarried sex after little more than chit-chat, and then after marriage complains about lack of foreplay.

470. He’s Wary to Marry — Section 1

Some women drop virginity and chastity on the premise that females have the same sexual rights as males. Other women believe that having the right does not make it right.

Some women tear down masculinity to get what women want. Other women uplift manliness to get what women want.

Some women teach young girls about sex without love, abandon them to experiment, and ignore their maturation. Other women teach young girls to mature first, love next, and leave sex to marriage.

Some women discourage manly devotion by providing cheap, uncommitted sex. Other women inspire manly devotion by delaying a man’s conquest until he wants her for much more than sex.

Some women popularize the feminist ideal, which makes men retreat from committing with one woman for much more than shack up. Other women persuade a man to commit for marry up by refusing to shack up.

Some women reject the concept or refuse on principle to fill the biblical role of wife submitting to husband. Other women realize that ‘submissiveness’ is more attitude than principle, more respect than honor, more cooperation than obedience, and that high power exists in softness.

Some women use casual sex to attract men, which fails to earn a man’s devotion or obligate him for much more than sex. Other women push hard for No Sex without Marriage, which creates time to deepen his interest, respect, and devotion for one woman.

Some women make themselves worthy of a man just to have one. Other women insist a man make himself worthy of her before marriage, and then she makes herself worthy of him after they marry.

Some women seek words of commitment before yielding. Other women seek a man’s devoted actions before allowing his conquest.

Some women convince themselves that the right combination of passion, love, religious beliefs, common interests, and kids will keep their relationship together. Other women know there’s no such insurance and that special stroking of her man as king to her queen is essential.

458. Men Won’t Admit — III

Men have private agendas, and women don’t usually gain access without stirring undesirable consequences.

The list continues of what men shy from and will seldom volunteer or admit:

15.       Weaknesses except the inconsequential or complimentary.

16.       His sense of his own insignificance. (This revelation stimulates the midlife crisis.)

17.       His deepest feelings when she offends him. (His actions hide it, and revenge compensates for hurt.)

18.       His fear of ridicule by females and particularly his present mate.

19.       His wounds when she finds fault or discloses his shortcomings in front of others. (Instead, he retreats, smolders, resents, and may seek revenge.)

20.       Disturbing thoughts his mate may pose about his masculinity.

21.       His deep feelings about his job loss.

This continuing list of male private agendas applies to married, unmarried, young, and old. The final section will follow soon under the same title.

285. Female Fortitude—101 through 105

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match previous posts.

101.   Both change after their first intercourse together. He changes for the worse for her; she changes for the better for him. She pays the price, but he gets the reward.

102.   Living with or chasing small boobs means the man is willing to forsake adolescent immaturity and approaches sexual activity more maturely.  

103.   The end result of masculine-style sexual freedom for women is this: Men become more adroit at sexual hit and run, and women gain more experience living life as ex-girlfriend, -lover, -live in, -wife.

104.   Today, women measure his love by her standards, and so he repeatedly falls short. If men were born for closeness, nurturing, intimacy, and continuous dialogue, they would have been born female.   

105.   Women discourage displays of affection. They expect their man to do things that demean his masculinity—dishes and diapers? It’s not the doing that offends, it squeezes his sense of significance.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 280, 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

264. From feminine mystique to feminist mistakes—Part 5

Allow me to personalize the male and female natures as Manhood and Womanhood. I wish to describe traditional America before the 1960s.

Womanhood capitalized on male dominance instead of tearing it down. She supported Manhood’s dominance of society (what people do), while she took over dominance of the culture (why people do it).

Womanhood’s goal: One reliable man to help fulfill her dreams for nesting, nurturing, and nestling with loved ones. She sought stable marriage and family. She convinced Manhood to provide the wherewithal and do the hard labor. In return, she rewarded his husbanding and fathering.

She gained status and added personal stature by making herself very different and highly unique. She capitalized on gender differences and exploited the female nature. Her character was shaped around feminine mystique, female modesty, moral standards, marriage, monogamy, manners, virginity, virtual virginity, soft-heartedness inside and hard-headedness outside of marriage,  and whatever else would distinguish her from Manhood.

She taught daughters to mature first, love next, leave sex to marriage, and uplift manliness and masculinity as the way to fulfill female hopes and dreams.

In the process she earned Manhood’s unconditional respect for the female sex. The benefits grew through the decades. Womanhood changed cultural values and the social and domestic environments in such ways that the genders respected the opposite sex more than their own (e.g., my generation).

Womanhood developed American life into a family game. She emphasized separate but equal genders with cooperative rather than competing roles. In her eyes, good character and virtuous actions overwhelmed looks, interests, and words.

For over a century, Manhood was preoccupied on the job with technological and economic advancements. He dominated workplace and society. Gradually adopting wifely-inspired and family-friendly values, however, Manhood gradually yielded dominance of home and culture.

Family dominance was a toss up, but mostly it had the appearance of husband as head, wife as neck, and children as no more than adult-hopefuls. Womanhood accepted and parlayed this truism: Perceptions are reality, and whatever appears to be, is.

Manhood bought into the lifelong married life sought by Womanhood. Family responsibility guided husbands in the workplace and society. With laws, wealth, and leadership, husbands shaped America to his wife’s vision of family-centeredness.

Mutual respect grew as husbands implemented feminine values in society. Husbands in the workplace made America more family friendly. The beginning of the end, however, arose in the 1960s.

[More on old school America appears in posts 263, 238, 218, and 204 below. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following it.]

188. Boob language — Part 7

♀ If her boobs ain’t perky, pointed, and a distinct pair, she’s already starting to look older. Bosomy breasts come naturally as women age.

♀ It’s fashionable. Women emphasize cleavage, and display skin elsewhere. Thus, they keep men focused on sex, while complaining that that’s all men think about.  

♀ It’s fashionable. Men score more easily. Women make blossom-to-blossom popular,  easy, and destructive to lasting relationships.

♀ Women rationalize that subliminal messages about sex offset their extra fat. It does until after a man’s conquest, when both the natural and the fashionable redirect his thoughts toward other targets.  

♀ Women think personal grooming unnecessary for everyday life. They purposely dress down to discourage approaches by men. Then, they complain when they seek a boyfriend and men don’t approach. Or, women aren’t experienced enough to convert hits to boyfriend capture.

♀ Women resent that men ogle females. So, except on the prowl, women dress down. And, men get less beauty to gaze upon, consider, assess, chase, court, and marry. Female value goes down and masculine interests go elsewhere—sports, hobbies, toys, sex targets.

♀ Women use their boobs to distract from fat and flaws elsewhere. They blame guys for weak commitment and mask female self-deception about attire and personal grooming.

 

186. Female Fortitude — 17 through 25

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide themes or summarize posts. The paragraph numbers match the posts.

17.      A mature woman can cope with her man’s sharp tongue much easier than he can with hers.

18.      When words are enough to conquer, that and little else is what men will offer.

19.      Female soft-headedness: She wants her own man so badly that she signs up with almost any male offer.

21.      Com-mit-ment counts as three little words. So does, “What’s for dinner?”

22.      Some women tear down manliness and masculinity to get what women want. Other women uplift manliness and masculinity to get what women want.

23.      Feminism divides and alienates men and women. Femininity breathes harmony into male-female relationships.

24.      Women marry expecting their man to change, but he doesn’t. Men marry expecting their wife not to change, but she does.

25.      Virtual virginity buys time to earn a man’s devotion, which bonds more tightly than commitment.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 176 and 182.]