SUBJECT: Men are not considerate of her sexual wants, needs, and desires. Granted, they should be, but….
Love sits atop but does not dominate this subject. It may overcome and hold them together, and it may not.
♀2♂? If conveying her wants, needs, and desires outweigh his satisfactions about their sex life, she’s not likely to get far without the tenderest diplomacy.
♀2♂? She’s in charge. She’s in charge. She’s in charge. Not because he’s incapable, but because he lacks knowledge of her, and men often go to extremes to hide that lack.
♀2♂? He sees little need for more than he already provides in love making. So, if she’s not satisfied, coaching him may help. (Nurturing demeans and teaching tends to humiliate him.)
♀2♂? Any discussion of sexual shortcomings can push him toward consequences, up to and including abandonment, without her becoming aware.
♀2♂? Husbands respond best to wife’s caution, indirectness, and patience. When he senses indirectly that she has an something unresolved, his problem solving persona emerges. He wants to uncover the problem and help.
♀2♂? Patience, soft-heartedness, and respect and gratefulness for who he is and what he does may capture and hold his attention. Those things show her love, as he expects to see it, and he’s much less likely to take offense about subjects sensitive to him.
♀2♂? Devotion to her makes him want to pay attention and perhaps lavish affection on her. Thus, more devotion makes him more open to her wants, needs, and desires.
♀2♂? He expects frequent and convenient access to sex after yielding his independence for marriage. This may or may not make him devoted to pleasing her as she would like.
We can easily recognize that men should be more considerate of a woman’s sexual wants, needs, and desires. As we have seen, however, being married often interferes.
[This competes this title and subject. The rest appears in posts 281, 276, 271, and 266.]
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