102. Boob language—Part 6

Small boobs have great value. Proportionately the erogenous zone is gigantic. It more easily attracts a man’s hand to tweaking instead of cupping.

Large boobs bring out the adolescence in men, which makes breast enlargement stupid for women who hope to capture and keep the more mature man.

Living with or chasing small boobs means the man is willing to forsake adolescent immaturity and approaches sexual activity more maturely.  

Large-boob fixation in a man is adolescence grown older.

We all tend to behave according to how we are dressed. And, others know it. For example, trying to be modest in erotic attire, or vice versa, sends messages of insincerity, phoniness, and even trickery.   

Disregard sex and its overtures for a moment. One’s appearance sends messages for others to decode. For example, these are likely. Sloppy attire can easily be decoded as variable standards, weak values, or not virtuous. Low-care grooming can be interpreted as low self-respect. Dressed below the occasion can be read as self-worth of lesser value than others present. Overdressed for an occasion can signal pretention,  phoniness, or fashion ignorance. An overly eroticized appearance signals cheapness. Non-judgmentalism is a hot buzzword, but people could not survive much less live successfully without judging others.  

[More boob language at posts 12, 49, 52, 81, and 98. Enter number in Search block above.]

61. Why he doesn’t hear her—Part II

Men don’t listen to men about dealing with women. It’s a principle that stems from their competitive natures and opposing personas. Each man knows best how he will treat each kind of woman he encounters. If necessary, he’ll fake it until he makes it. Each man expects that ultimately one woman with feminine skills will finally settle him down to his rewards as husband and father.  

Men don’t listen to women about dealing with women. Again, it’s the masculine nature, but the unstated messages he hears and the unintended consequences mislead women.

She says, “You are not as courteous as I desire,” and he also hears “…and I expect you to change.” Or, she says, “You can do better,” and he hears, “…and you’d better.” Or, she says, “We need to dress up for this affair tonight,” and he hears, “…your wardrobe needs updating.” He hears that she expects him to change. Resistance sets in, and her words don’t register as she intends.

This is especially true, if they’ve had their first sex together. If she’s unconquered by him, however, the effect differs. He hears, he heeds, and he modifies his behavior in whatever way he thinks will advance his agenda for bed time together. He may or may not change to please her or as she hoped. However he changes, spread out over time, will likely become habitual. Long sex-free courtships accumulate more habitual changes that please her.

Men seldom hear what their woman says, unless certain conditions attach to show respect and gratefulness for him and what he does. Examples are described as ‘nessies’ in post #59 and options in #60 below.

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A Guy Note: In this blog it makes no sense to itemize what men should do or be like, or what women expect from their man. No one has correct answers except each woman dealing with each man. It’s always up to her to finely balance and fine tune their respective agendas into their mutual agenda.