1189. Boot Camp for Girls—Day 26: Graduation

Girls have an instinctive ability to handle boys. However, many lack enough talent and skills to win consistently. New knowledge improves talent and broadens skills. So, squeeze this baker’s dozen of truisms into your thinking of the future.   

1. HardToGet keeps a girl in the driver’s seat. Non-passionate relations make the best bus tires for rolling over the hottest boys.
2. Self-respect counts most in a girl’s character. Without it, self-confidence plummets. Earning self-confidence builds self-respect. So, she gets what she earns as she pursues her hopes and dreams.  
3. A girl’s happy future with a happy mate depends more on his integrity than anything else. Integrity strengthens mutual respect, commitment to marriage, devotion to her, and his vow-keeping.
4. A busted courtship shouldn’t be such a big deal. Multiple courtships pay off. Her man’s character depends on her making enough wrong judgments to learn how to choose the best man for her.
5. Ladylike behavior, high modesty standards, and moral expectations stir men to be gentlemanly in a woman’s presence. It also works for girls.  
6. A boy takes interest in a girl for two prime reasons. Fixation on sex energizes him temporarily. Desire for her admiration focuses him on long-term possibilities. If she enables the former, she can forget the latter.
7. Self-respect fades when you give what you oughtn’t, do what you shouldn’t, or suffer what you needn’t.
8. Do what’s right, avoid what’s wrong, but more importantly, always do what you should.
9. Kissing does matter. Sensuous suggests the rightness of you for him. Passionate suggests the rightness of him for sex.
10. Guilt guides your life, so start now affirming your intention and ability to do what you should. Most importantly, learn to forgive yourself and don’t look back. Old guilt leads to depression when loaded with doubt about how you previously handled it.  
11. A boy respects what he can’t conquer. He respects chastity in general and especially a girl’s abstinence with him. A man’s love rests on a firm foundation of respect for a woman. Boys want sex, and so he keeps trying. Where else can she get enough respect, unless she keeps denying sex but not disrespecting his trying?
12. Feminine beats plain femaleness. Mystery beats full disclosure. Modesty beats masculine morality. Monogamy beats sexual freedom. All of it makes males back off from their naturally dominant personas, which helps fulfill female hopes and dreams.   
13. If you can train boys to follow your conscience, you’re well on the way to excellent relationship expertise.

Congratulations to everyone that completed boot camp. Only you know who you are but reward yourself some way. I’m proud of you.

Regular WWNH broadcasting resumes tomorrow.

801. Boob Language — Part 23

• Modern women attire their upper bodies as if boob quantity counts more than quality, as if you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. Modesty and unique breast line shaping reverse that thinking among men.
• No surprise: Exposed skin diverts his curiosity away from her non-sex attributes. Surprise: Sex satisfies his curiosity instead of shifting it onto her other qualities. 
• Modest attire, grooming, and non-sexed up attractiveness is the only thing other than ugliness that diverts his sex drive to the back of his mind. (Not to claim that’s all he thinks about, but that she should expect everything to remind him of it, and she controls best with feminine modesty AKA her signs and symbols of personal restraint and supposed disinterest.)
• The movies show women attacking a man to expedite getting to intercourse, for example ripping off his clothes. It’s probably good for box office draw, but in the real world such a woman voids that man’s respect. (He thinks: If she’s that eager for sex, she’ll not discriminate with whom she does it. So, I’m certainly not special, just a tool. But that’s alright for now; I’ll take it.)
• Women copy masculine practices. They rely on unappealing clothing and choose carefree or careless grooming. They go along to get along, and after conquest have to get up and go along.

680. Respect Revisited — III

Respect, disrespect, and lack of respect determine outcomes. Her choices make much bigger differences than do his. His nature tells him that women can’t compete on significant strengths. Therefore, they’re not equal on others. It’s subliminal, but it determines why women have to earn a man’s respect. When he admires her strengths, she’s winning his respect and time reinforces it.   

♦       If a man initiates pursuit for sex, she earns respect with responses that leave him so unfulfilled that he persists in ‘decoding’ who and what she really is as a person. Her strengths that deter him. Being difficult to figure out earns masculine respect, and this makes mystery and female modesty work so generously for her.

♦       Once a woman commits to a man, he fully expects her unequivocal and undying respect. Her commitment means he’s done all the earning he has to do.

♦       Sometimes, unfortunately, a man fakes whatever earns her respect. She commits, and then his real Self shows up. He’s not due the same respect as before, but he still expects what she previously showed. Battles or worse arise.

♦       Wives refuse sex to their husband, not once or twice, but as frequent practice. They claim personal reasons or seek to manipulate him, but her intentions don’t guarantee outcomes. Her refusals equate to lack of respect for him, which equates to loss of self-respect, which energizes husband to look elsewhere to restore it.

668. Response to Viewer — Item 18a

Her Highness Easybreezy, in response to the muumuu article (666) asked:

“What about sports like tennis, skating, gymnastics, equestrian, etc in which women show legs, body etc in tight fitting uniforms?”

Don’t take anything below to suggest that women should not participate in sports or exercising. More should do so.

I will assume and address this situation: A guy tries to get to know a gal in or around her exercise or sports event.

·        Let modesty be her guide. If she lacks it, she should invent some.

·        Men love skimpy apparel, so get his mind off her body. She can’t do it associating in the near-buff.

·        Keep him mentally off-balance. Smile and insist that he wait until she showers and dresses. Then they can chat.

·        For the chat, keep herself business-like including an early departure. Make him wait until next time to get all his points across.

For women looking for a potential Mr. Right, much more is involved in projecting and protecting her interests while in high-level physical activity. But that’s for later articles 670 and 671.

651. College girls: New campus trend

College girls go beyond X-rated bathrooms. Coed dorm rooms replace coed dorms as hot campus trend.

College liberates students from adult supervision. Childhood self-centeredness doesn’t fade away until about age 21 or graduation, whichever comes first. Not surprising, students do stupid things. Decisions no doubt seem rational to immature minds, but they foretell agonies for a woman’s future.

• The female nature focuses on the future, the male on the present. Dorm room cohabitation practices the males’ game, which reinforces teen thinking to go where the boys are and do what the boys want.
• Highly self-centered and still impressionable male minds receive lessons about marital benefits without associated responsibilities. This shapes the males’ belief system contrary to mature female interests.
• Dorm room cohabitation teaches men that married life can be simple, and they expect the real thing to be equally so. Women dealing with those men after college pay the price for lessons taught earlier by coeds.  
• A female’s mystery, modesty, and morality can’t survive on campus without adult supervision or mature self-supervision. Then, it all dies in a coed dorm room, asphyxiated after coed dorms and bathrooms made it terminal.
• Watch this one, ladies: Losing her mystery, modesty, and morality makes her less attractive to guys except for sex. BUT: It also makes her less self-respectful and less forgiving of herself. She can fake or reinvent those things for guys, but she can’t fool herself. It could take years, if ever, to restore her sense of feminine dignity to the level she desires once her mind matures.

603. Prettier is as Feminine Does #1

Her Highness Laura commented at 596 that women are more critical than men about ‘pretty’. She’s right, because prettiness is a theme around which women compete—and they should. (Post 602 presented groundwork on ‘pretty’.)

‘Feminine’ is whatever females have, do, and use that is unique to their sex and nature. To the extent they appear different than what men have, do, and use, they are feminine.

·        Consequently, females are basically pretty even before they improve on what they have for appearance.

·        The more feminine she is, the easier to be pretty. After all, she’s the best judge of what’s both feminine and pretty for her.

‘Pretty’ is how she looks to herself. She’s done her best to attire and groom herself. Her physical attributes shine and physical weaknesses go unnoticed to her.

·        If she can overlook her physical weaknesses, no one else will pay attention to them. (Again, hang a picture and three days later you don’t notice it.)

·        Modesty hides skin and suggests independence, mystery, moral intentions (if not strength), and person-comes-before-sex.   

·        She should shape male opinions, not bow to them. ‘Pretty’ beats ‘sex object’ for turning male opinion toward female hopes and dreams. Her Highness Easybreezy describes it magnificently at post 550, “I have turned heads but I really want to turn hearts….”

·        When she looks pretty to herself, she feels good about herself. This brings forth her best, which maximizes her advantages dealing with men or man.

On the macro scale, women compete to look prettier than sister females. If they don’t, men do less chasing. If women aren’t pretty enough to pull men away from fun with their buds, men watch and wait.

They tend to pursue fun, sex, and little else. This pressures individual females to earn masculine attentions. It leads to more women chasing men in macro, which is toxic for fulfilling female hopes and dreams in micro.

582. Keepers for Keepers — Assortment 18

♦       A woman needs her future to be made brighter. A man needs only a place to flop, eat, throw his things, recover, and prepare for tomorrow’s battles. [4]

♦       Self-love wilts when a female loses feminine pride in her daily appearance. Wilted self-love prompts stupid things to please men or a man.

♦       As she daily devotes more and more time to better grooming, small improvements brighten her image of herself, make her like herself more, and give her greater sense of control that discourages depression. [11]

♦       Crowned as Mr. Right and conqueror before he earns it with devotion, his conquering spirit is released to look elsewhere. It’s his nature, and only his devotion to someone keeps it in check. [10]

♦       Female-designed and -enforced customs and manners calm the male nature. Men learn from it that they must please women to enjoy feminine endorsement. [7]

♦       Feminine mystique, strong-willed female modesty, and female-protective moral standards make females appear extraordinary to male eyes. [17]

♦       Feminism sours male devotion for one female, weakens family responsibility, and curdles masculine incentives for honoring female dreams. [18]

♦       Men wilt under feminine determination about modesty and female standards and expectations, unless he’s only after sex in the first place. [12]

555. Choices Program the Heart — Part I: Intro

As a man, I operate under these basic assumptions: A female’s sensibilities show the boundaries of her heart. When offended or threatened that way, she has gone too far and should reverse course wherever she is and whatever others are doing. To do otherwise is to program her heart against her self-interest and usually for the worse. Her internal sensitivities guide her better than anything else for remaining a strong, independent, and well-balanced female.

I learned this by observing generational trends among females. Over the past five decades girls converted their gender toward evermore masculine beliefs. They aborted female mystery, modesty, marriage, monogamy, and manners. They demeaned ladies and scorned gentlemanly behavior.

Each generation outdid the previous; they blew away well-established and female-protective sensitivities to open earlier and more expressive exposure to males. They freely gave away their uniqueness, attractiveness, and superior value as mates. They gave away the very influences that attract men and hold one man to one woman.

Girls led the way when they quit listening to mom and authority figures in the Sixties and took up listening to males. Adolescent values last for life, unless tempered with wisdom during formation. Consequently, women find themselves well into physical maturity but strapped with adolescent values about sex, dealing with men, and keeping a husband.