Care and encouragement—aka nurturing—develops a child’s self-esteem defined as how well one likes and appreciates Self.
© Self-esteem primarily forms in infancy. The infant’s brain integrates nurturing with genetic inheritance and hardwires the subconscious mind with some degree of high, low, or in-between self-esteem.
© The brain hardwires itself in response to stimuli from caregivers and its environment before the conscious mind fully opens within the first three or so years. Unusual though it sounds, in effect the subconscious mind learns to like and later appreciate Self according to how others show proactive appreciation. Thus, self-esteem comes on line.
© High self-esteem becomes brain-wired from plenty of loving and tender care without interruptions or shocking disruptions. In the absence of such care, wiring still takes place, but the baby’s brain wires itself with low self-esteem (aka self-worth).
© Love applied and dislike denied to baby. The deeper, more varied, and proactive the appreciation shown, the higher the self-esteem develops.
© Love denied and dislike applied to baby. Poor nurturing includes bickering, yelling, ignoring a baby’s discomfort or pain, loud noises since nothing makes sense, shocking interferences, and similar disturbances in care and encouragement. Poor or absent nurturing hardwires doubt and negative emotions that haunt self-esteem for life. Self-hatred springs easily from it.
It’s not an event but roughly a three year process. Self-esteem provides foundation. After that, self-image and self-interest become the phenomena that govern one’s life.