Ugliness ain’t how you look. It’s how you fit into your world. It rises out of the lack of feminine spirit and careless disregard for a female’s best interest.
Ugly is as ugly does. Practiced long enough, the following eventually capture a woman’s heart and shred her female nature:
- Think ugly and she moves in that direction. It clouds her mind. (If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you’re right. As you think it, you become it.)
- Act ugly and she is. Her spirit shows it. If her heart doesn’t match her potential for beauty and attractiveness, then she confounds those with whom she associates.
- Quit trying to be pretty and she moves toward ugly. Her likeability suffers.
As explained at article 1143, prettiness floods the female nature from birth. She’s convinced of it throughout life. As girl and woman, however, she has to remind herself, reinforce weaknesses, and recover from challenges to her convictions.
In childhood mom lifts her spirits about her prettiness, but mostly her father confirms her prettiness persona by doing, teaching, and developing good habits of reminding, reinforcing, and recovering. He’s the irrevocable authority in such things, if she’s blessed enough to have him before puberty.
Ugliness sets in from bad habits:
- She gives up on proving herself prettier than others expect. Of course, it isn’t fair that others expect her to always look her best, especially men. Others think: If I were blessed like her, I would do better. When she doesn’t listen to her friends, her prettiness fades.
- She objects to men hitting on her. So, she dresses down and ignores painting the barn as preventive measures.
- Depression sets in from ignoring her prettiness, or depression from other causes drives her to ignore it or give up.
- Worldly discouragements cause her to quit reminding herself of her prettiness, reinforcing with upgrades, and recovering when doubts arise.
Finally, this paradox applies. When she prettifies herself for others, she abandons her own nature and phoniness follows. However, when she ‘unprettifies’ herself in contradiction of those she knows, she dumbs herself downward. Ugly is as ugly does.