211. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 15

     Feminism conflicts with two natural principles of American behavior. First, the male sex does whatever the female sex requires for men to have frequent and convenient access to sex.

Second, men react to how women treat them. Men treated as they wish to be treated rise to help fulfill female hopes and dreams. Men treated otherwise become what individual females can’t appreciate; they fulfill unmanly hopes and dreams—toys, parties, girls.  

Feminism inspired women to treat men disrespectfully, because men refuse to step up to the feminist model of what men should be as developed by radical political activists.

It worsens. Feminist-inspired lower standards for men to have access to sex frees up men to conquer more women. Women expect a man’s commitment to be error-proof, but female sisters bait and tease his natural urge to merge.

To compensate themselves but reward men, women declare and practice masculine-style sexual freedom. Women keep lowering the bar for access to frequent and convenient sex, and then blame men for easier jumping. Blame delivers mistreatment.

Looser customs free up men to hunt and conquer. Lowering standards for sex causes women to mistreat men, because men don’t live up to female expectations. Mistreatment causes men to easily tire of or become discouraged by one woman.  

Feminists lowered the drawbridge to sexual freedom, first for men and then for women. So, men have to do little to access the good life of many conquests.

Women buy into feminist theory and dogma. They disrespect the male gender but expect to be respected as females, wives, lovers, shack ups, link ups, hook ups with call ups, and even friends offering benefits. Men continue to mostly respect feminine mystique, female modesty, self-protective standards of morality, female-centeredness, feminine uniqueness, family cohesion, and niceties and gentleness. Men don’t possess such qualities, but they like to associate with experts that specialize.

[Other posts about the Dark Side are 196, 180, 168, 157, 146, 134, 129, 123, 103, 92, 71, 50, 47, and 23. Scroll down or search by the number and then click the title.]

206. Female malpractice — Part 5

♀♂ Women reject this truism for making marriage work: Before marriage he should prove himself worthy of her. That is, she makes him the seller and her the buyer. He peddles all his strengths, and she evaluates his character and likelihood of delivery on his promises. After marriage, she keeps herself worthy of him. That is, she becomes the seller and peddles rewards for his husbanding and fathering.

♀ Pregnant women duplicate men with big beer bellies. They use tight clothing and masculinize motherhood. Fashion before sexiness, attractiveness, and femininity—not what men appreciate.  

♀ Thirtysomething women without kids have no outlet for their mothering instinct. So, they parent their man.

♀ Wives treat husbands much less respectfully than they treat boyfriends, lovers, and shack up partners. Two effects: Husbands dump wives more easily. Other men see what happens, avoid marriage, and go for shack up.

♀ Women condemn the male ego, as if they have none of their own. The feminist movement made the female ego explode. Activists took advantage.

♀ Men seek a woman that accepts him as he is and wants to stay. Women nevertheless think they can or should change their man.

[More about female malpractice appears in posts 189, 175, 164, and 150. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot and space following it.]

133. Woman as Boss — #1 — Introduction

The male and female ego go head-to-head when a woman is the boss. Many men can’t handle it, but of course the problem is each man’s. Her best practice at all times rests with dodging disrespect. Using or avoiding the following practices accumulate benefits over time.

1.      Leadership means to inspire people to do what they may not particularly care to do and do it well. Over-supervision squelches inspiration and trust, which weakens belief in the leader, which reduces respect.

2.      Management means arranging things, shaping events, and coordinating outcomes. Micromanaging squelches initiative, signals distrust, and undercuts the authority of others. Each of these results earns disrespect, and men are particularly sensitive to loss of authority.

3.      The female nature easily leads to miscalculations and misjudgments in the workplace. For example, some women pay too much attention to emotional disturbances that men expect to resolve or live with on their own. Interference can breed disrespect.

4.      Some women imitate the way they think men lead, manage, and emphatically boss. They duplicate what they see, have seen, or deduce that men do. Acting outside her female character earns disrespect, and getting bossier from frustration earns more.

5.      Some women focus more on the process of working than producing results. They seek to integrate relationships and manage emotions. By taking their eye off what workers are producing, they lose respect.  

6.      Their child-raising instincts push women into bad habits dealing with subordinates. The male nature cringes at orders from an authority figure female. Men can adjust to women telling them WHAT to do but not HOW to do it. When told HOW, men lose interest in doing it, and she loses respect. (Women can test this first hand with their Honey-do list.)

7.      Don’t complain and don’t explain. When the boss does either, she empowers others to judge her—and they will. Their respect for her declines with each judgment that they or someone else could do better.

8.      Whatever policies, practices, and rules she formulates or follows need no explanation when they have been violated. If she explains to the violator, she gives up her authority as discriminator about violations and will be judged weak. Either her or her rules will be found wanting and disrespected. 

9.      Women focus on relationships in the workplace. Men deal with principles that smooth and level out emotions. For example: Men work best under these leadership principles. Assign responsibility to each person such that everyone is aware of who does what. Delegate authority to each person sufficient to fulfill their responsibility. Hold everyone accountable for a job well done or not done satisfactorily. Bosses that do this well earn greater respect.

10.  Praise and chastise individuals ONLY in private for reasons explained next below.

11.  Praise and chastise teams as a whole and don’t cite individuals for special recognition, good or bad. Other team members will disagree when they are not included. This far too easily breeds envy, jealousy, and whining that fertilizes disrespect for the boss. Those not recognized in front of others do not have access to the boss’ agenda. So, they can’t be expected to understand how ‘heroic’ is someone else. Also, they feel they contributed at least as much and maybe more. That is, “The boss just doesn’t know what all goes on where I work.”

12.  The female nature automatically earns less respect and less enthusiasm from people in a structured organization. So, a woman boss’ strength lies with femininity. Why? Because men greatly respect women strong on feminine mystique, female modesty, religious loyalty, and moral standards that men would not choose for or by themselves, and female-defined and -friendly manners, expectations, and social standards. Any effective leader needs respect above all else.

All this is not to say a woman can’t be a good boss, but she has a much tougher assignment than men. See CONTENTS page at blog top for more about Woman as Boss.

122. Her sexual history?—Part 04

♂ Except maybe for political correctioneers, men are not into non-judgmentalism about their woman’s sexual history. Even if he insists or discloses his own ex-girlfriends, she should not reciprocate.

♂ A man can hardly help but judge his woman harshly about her unmarried sexual history. It’s the male nature, although men feign disinterest or deny it so as to discover more.

♂ His respect and her unmarried sexual activity works like a zero-sum game. Highest respect equates with her virginity. Little respect equates with her promiscuity and can be anticipated as proportional to her looseness—as he perceives it.

♂ Men keep probing for details, and her only safe route lies with silence even about platonic boyfriends. Every detail makes a heavier-than-usual bundle for the final straws that break his marital back.

♂ If he honors her silence on this issue, his respect is doubtless deep and abiding—the kind that lasts and lasts and undergirds his bonding love.

♂ When jealousy triggers a man’s anger, he too easily focuses on his woman’s sex life before him. This costs her respect when she needs it most. Her past promiscuity and even platonic relationships amplify her problems—if he knows about them.

♂ Total silence is her best protection, but that’s impractical. She needs light-hearted banter to disclose the absolute least possible as he probes for information.

♂ A woman needs to master the art of dominating this issue during courtship in anticipation of what will follow naturally: A conqueror’s right to ‘ownership’ of their sexual agenda includes full-disclosure of her past. Once he’s had her, he seeks to measure himself against his competition—that is, other men. Who, when, and how went before and may return, or he may face some day?

 

114. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 4

A man’s discoveries of a woman’s strengths and attributes fade after their first sex together. He need not look further. It’s his nature more than her.

A man’s love is based on respect for an extraordinary woman who outshines most others. She becomes extraordinary in his eyes, if he has to work hard to impress her, hold her attention, and otherwise prove himself worthy of her. Her attractiveness just gets the ball rolling.

A man’s natural loyalty lies primarily with his job or whatever he must do to satisfy his sense of significance. The right and extraordinary woman can get a permanent arrangement. Others cannot, except for temporary comfort and functionality.

A man’s not really interested in her, if he’s not intrigued by her feminine persona. Or, if he ridicules her female modesty. Or, if he mocks her moral, religious, feminine, or parental standards. Or, if he insists that she do something she knows is not good for her.

A man’s respect for women generally and one in particular is not essential to a temporary relationship, but it is for a permanent one.

A woman that uses gratitude, indirectness, and endless patience can turn an inadequate husband from frog to prince to king. Love and affection are not enough though.

A female’s denial of unmarried sex spurs a male’s imagination to go beyond words of commitment and show devotion through new and innovative actions. If it doesn’t, she’s more temp than keeper.

After a couple’s first sex together, the man assumes control of their sexual agenda as conqueror’s right, or he moves on.  

After conquest the infatuated but not fascinated man focuses on life with her as sex partner at the cheapest cost to him—girlfriend, lover, live in, or wife if necessary.

Even before a man starts a relationship, she’s his target for conquest. Her value goes up with his difficulty achieving his goal. How he handles her obstacles discloses if he’s truly into her.  

[More about knowing jack about Jack appears in posts 97, 91, and 7 below. Just enter the number in the Search box above.] 

105. LOVE 102

His love is one-sided. It depends more on what he does than what she does or says. He even separates love from appreciation. She does not. His heart dispenses actions that he determines will or ought to please her. Such actions rather than words reinforce his feelings and enlarge his love.

One husband told by wife to do the spring cleaning while she worked, turned the leaf blower on the house with front and back doors open. (I know the wife.) Another, told to show more affection for his wife by a counselor, went home and washed her car. That’s how men show affection, although these examples may be unusual.

Our forefathers showed affection with actions that endorsed his masculinity. They honored her wishes for social stature, such as opening her car door, seating her at the table, repairing broken things, and especially bringing home the bacon.

Today, women discourage displays of affection. They expect their man to do things that demean his masculinity by appearing to follow female orders, such as doing the dishes and changing diapers. It is not the doing that offends, it is the squeeze on his manliness from having to do it because she demands it.

She can be more respectful, and he expects it. When not shown, he responds with less affection. 

[Love 101 is at post 104 immediately below this one. Love 103 and Love 201 should be above it shortly. Or, insert post number in Search box above.] 

 

 

99. The high cost of cheap sex—04

♀ Meaningless sex eventually leaves women feeling empty. Promiscuity compounds to weaken their self-worth and lower their self-image.

♀ Promiscuity reinforces to women that men are only after sex. Chastity teaches women that men are more interesting than that.  

 ♂ Promiscuity teaches men that women are playthings and easily dominated, or if not, dumped. Chastity teaches men that women have respectable value and are not easily bamboozled.  

♂ ♀ Girls teach boys the requirements and finer details of dealing with females. When they don’t, boys experience sex life as set by their hurricane of hormones, which carries them into an impulsive, women-are-cheap adult life.

♂ Easy-to-come-by sex stifles a man’s interest in helping fulfill one woman’s dreams. So much action, so little time.

♀ ♂ A major feminist hero claims women now aspire to be sluts and self-actualized sex kittens. This by-product of feminist theory evolved without input from men respectful of the female sex, such as fathers. Of course men love the concept. They say little, while backing away from monogamy, marriage, and domestic responsibility.

♂ After early passion wilts between mates, men do not stay long or dependably with women they conquered as pushovers. Round heels especially turn off the Marrying Man.

♀ Sexual freedom pits females against one another for mates, boyfriends, husbands, lovers. Just a half-century ago men competed for females, and women were honored as a unique gender.

♂ With so much unmarried sex available in society, men are enticed to comparison shop their wife against the young and more ideal. Even late night TV shows in the bedroom work against wife by stimulating husband’s imagination.

♀ Plentiful sexual activity by girls and young women, combined with masculine promotion of it, now makes aging females obsolete before their time.

75. Dear Daughter—fourth letter

♀ When women act like men, men treat them as other guys—as competitors and eligible for physical handling.  

♀ Courtship provides opportunity for a woman to be hard-headedly female against a man’s hard-headed persistence to have things the masculine way. Her opportunities fade after marriage, but soft-heartedness is her key to soften his dominance then.

♀ Wife seeks to change her husband, but he resists, resents, and eventually retaliates if she keeps it up. Without exceptional respect for his woman, a man’s enduring love never arises to replace the temporary romantic love that fades in a year or two.

♀ Women flourish with a man’s enduring love, but it arises only from his respect for women generally and her particularly. The roots extend back to their pre-conquest days.

♀ Girls should know better than to share certain information about female uniqueness with boys. Female mystery is too powerful to toss to the immature, since it can also hold sway over mature men.

♀ When she makes herself worthy of a man by providing sex readily, it doesn’t matter much if she’s pretty and attractive. Sloppy or comfortable may work for her, but it adds not to his reputation for having a good looker. This diminishes her worth as keeper.

♀ A woman that parents her man slowly crushes his sense of significance. It highlights his immaturity, and this shifts his mentality back toward adolescence. His ego seeks solace, so he cheats emotionally or physically.

♂ The rooster can’t crow boastfully, when he has to play second fiddle in the hen house.

♂ Men and women are so different hormonally and psychologically that couples succeed because of sex differences more than sameness.