589. Dark Side of Feminism — Part 24

Feminism’s theoretical, political, and economic pressures seduce women into thinking the worst about male nature while asserting or assuming female near-perfection.

♦       It hardens the female heart against the male gender and fools it about females. How does that brighten the future for the individual female trying to convince one man that she knows best about their relationship?

♦       Feminism inspires women to compete with men at all levels and times. Competition may work outside the home but not within where her hopes and dreams come alive.  

♦       Feminist pressures program females to expect that tween boys should civilize themselves, teen boys should behave themselves, bachelors should tame themselves, and husbands should domesticate themselves. Women conclude that males should behave as females do and do what’s right according to female values, standards, and expectations.

♦       Feminism ignores the true, dominant, but indirect power of females and their various roles. Mothers nurture infants and indoctrinate toddlers with right and wrong. With mom in lead role, parents teach tweens to use obedience to their advantage. Teen girls use adolescent tactics to teach boys about adult female expectations. Single women shape unmarried social scenes. Wives domesticate husbands. Those are powers our foremothers developed by exploiting the Judeo-Christian culture that men produced to help fulfill female hopes and dreams. Our forefathers knew the best for women and children was also best for them.

The reality today: Relative morality supersedes right and wrong as measure of social justice. Men are not inclined to capitalize on the virtue of obedience and consequent self-discipline. Teen girls are not only dominated but exploited by teen boys, and girls do nothing different. Single women shape the unmarried scene with sexual freedom that threatens all marriages. Husbands are not deeply dedicated to family responsibility. It’s all the legacy of Feminism.

301. Newlywed Bonding #9 — Plan Ahead

If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Finances—or more accurately, squabbles about indebtedness and spending—stimulate break up more than almost anything else.  

$$$  Plan ahead. Marriage vows express devotion to each other. Unplanned, unnecessary, and surprise spending and indebtedness can easily kill such devotion.

$$$  Plan ahead. The continual practice of spending less than your income reinforces devotion to each other. Teamwork bonds.

$$$  Plan ahead. Long before the wedding date, commitment to marital spending, decision-making, and success ranks as highly as commitment to each other.

$$$  Plan ahead. Budgeting generates good self-discipline to overcome and minimize the effects of bad habits. New habits can put mind over money instead of plastic over mind.

$$$  Plan ahead. If you can’t budget, you can’t plan effectively. There is no special way to do it except YOUR WAY—whatever works to keep spending below income, to make savings a lifetime process.

$$$  Plan ahead. Commit to stop, slow, or compensate for impulse buying, compulsive shopping, and immediate gratification.

$$$  Plan ahead. Reward yourself cheaply for avoiding big or unplanned big spending.

$$$  Plan ahead. Rewards create and reinforce new habits. Reward yourselves frequently for:

·        Staying within budget

·        Not having to pay credit card interest

·        Meeting your saving goals

·        Devoting to each other by not overspending in your domain of responsibility.

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