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1998. Compatibility Axioms #443 — She Duplicates Men


443. Women generate incompatibility when they endorse male values by copying masculine behavior. Their short-range wishes torpedo their long-range thinking. Their future begins to melt and they later morph into the multiplex of singleness, disappointment, unhappiness, abandonment, loneliness, isolation, hopelessness, despair, depression, divorce, gloom, and misery. (I don’t argue against the comfort or convenience, but only how such things affect men and weaken respect for women generally and each one individually.) A few examples of wrongful copying:

  • Women too easily and too often discard lovely and attractive feminine attractiveness. They copy men with tee shirts, careless hairdos, black or dull and ragged clothes, tattoos, piercings. [152]
  • Either not caring or presuming the right to argue in his face, women compete against their man after conquest, when the male nature expects only cooperation from a conquered woman. [152]
  • Women adopt masculine-style sexual freedom. They let men get by dodging personal commitments, domestic obligations, and responsible habits. Lack of time before conquest prevents words of commitment rising to actions of devotion. Being given frequent and convenient access to sex without marital obligation, men don’t have to provide the extra-female-friendly things that truly benefit women as custom and each woman in particular. [152]
  • By absorbing feminist politics, women condemn the masculine nature while turning off or tuning out their female nature. [152]
  • If she can depend on herself, she doesn’t need him. If that happens, she’s not grateful for him. If that happens, he’s not interested in staying with her beyond the eagerness of romantic love. [152]
  • Women discard feminine mystique. They quit using old school hard-to-get. They mistakenly expect that men appreciate a woman’s sacrifice of her sexual assets. With so little to do to score, men sun themselves later in boredom instead of pleasing women as women wish they could be pleased. [152]
  • Women plead for mutual and meaningful full disclosure, but men have no obligation for being as accurate as women expect. Men hear weakness in her disclosures and use it to get her into bed. It fine tunes men to deal openly but with no obligation for either candidness or honesty. [152]
  • Exposing her weaknesses before conquest reduces the size and intensity of the fascination and promise he sees in her that guides him to the altar. [152]
  • Women think everything should be more equal, so they upstage men by initiating sex. Men welcome it, but it short-circuits or at least weakens a man’s respect that is so essential for enduring love to develop as romantic love fades. [152]
  • Experience with many sex partners hardens a woman’s heart. It makes her cynical, suspicious, and unable to like herself enough to hold a man very easily. [152]

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1982. Compatibility Axioms #431-440


431. Women expect men to love as females do, but it’s another gene of inequality. Chromosome math always applies for true love:  xx ≠ xy. [148]
432. The woman so narrow-minded as to enter shack up or marriage based solely on romantic love and his words of commitment will likely join the ex crowd. Lesser but more female things over which she presides determine success at living together.  [148]
433. Women too eager for marriage accept a man’s verbal commitment, which does not stand the test of either time or other sex objects. [148]
434. To partake of promiscuous sexual freedom, women destroy the virtues that inspire a man to prove himself worthy of a woman. [148]
435. Twice-burned as an ex means she chooses losers instead of winners, ruins the winners with whom she partners, or both. [148]
436. When thinking as men do, women lose their relationship management expertise. Female bosses demo it. [148]
437. When women blame men for relationship ills, they refuse to focus on and consider their own faults. It makes their life simpler but not easier, more frustrating and less happy. [148]
438. Cheating husbands are blamed for breaking vows. However, other women complete the hook up. As with unmarried pregnancy, males are blamed for what females control. Thus, ever enlarging disrespect for the opposite sex emerges and grows out of female sexual freedom. [149]
439. A woman that makes herself easy or convenient for unmarried sex tells a man subliminally that her value is minimal, she’s common. Every other woman can do what she does. So, extra-ordinariness doesn’t accrue to her. Each man seeks to marry an extraordinary woman. [149]
440. Women feel lonely and fear more of the same. To ease their anxiety, they provide sex without testing a new man’s interest for other than sex. They come across as desperate, and it undermines or kills a man’s respect. [149]

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1971. Compatibility Axioms #381-390


381. People highly value the unavailable or unattainable. The ultimate result of male pursuing female boils down to one question. What’s her ‘price’ to be sexually available to him? The higher her price, the greater her perceived value, and the greater his effort must be to discover her price, earn her acceptance, and decide whether or not to pay it. (It’s a major reason her sexual history should be none of anyone else’s business.) [136]

382. Repeated refusals for first-time sex together make her appear unattainable. Relative, of course, to how determined she defends herself. Each refusal escalates her value, keeps him guessing, and pushes him to try harder. If she holds out long enough, her continually rising price makes him consider whether she’s worth her ultimate price—most likely marriage. [136]

383. Men feast with their eyes. The higher her price, the more attractiveness she adds to whatever he already perceives of her. Strengthened desire works much like a few martinis with these exceptions: Attractiveness enhanced by martinis doesn’t last. Attractiveness loses its captivating appeal after conquest. Conquerors view the conquered in a much different light.[136]

384. Expectant conquerors wonder: What’s her price to be sexually accessible to other men? Virtual virginity signals she’s not active. If he can’t penetrate her defenses, other men can’t either. After all, he’s First Stud in his eyes. [136]

385. Before conquest, if she’s unwilling or unable to match wits and wills to hold him off, his dominance will always prevail in their relationship. Before conquest is both her testing and proving ground for what their relationship future looks like. [136]

386. Wives cheat on their husband and expect him to respond as women do. It doesn’t work. When he cheats, she wants to know. When she cheats, he wants to go.  [137]

387. Women should be but don’t seem to be haunted by these questions: Do younger women attract husbands away from their wives? Or do wives lose their ability to hold their man? Or, do wives drive husbands away? Women automatically blame husband or his new attraction. Wives proclaim themselves to be innocent and victimized. Flooding the wife with peer empathy and sympathy, friends and family help restore emotional letdown or breakdown. The rest of the story isn’t explored, because feminists inspired women to not listen to men about man things. (IMHO, this sums it up. Husbands wander away from wives because the wife is no longer the woman they married.) [137]

388. Conquered women lack the allure of attractive unconquered ones. She may be a good lay or good wife or both, but the attractive and unconquered still attract men. To hold a man’s devotion, a woman must compensate for his giving up his independence, reward him for husbanding and fathering. Instead, modern women view as unfair this inequality of Nature. Thus, they ignore, demean, or lose focus on their natural abilities to capture and hold onto one man. [137]

389. Successful marriage requires relationship management. Women qualify as experts, but men don’t. Men are too easily seen as culprit, plus they lack the soft relationship skills to restore marital peace. It’s much simpler and easier for husbands to let masculinity steer them away from one woman. Consequently, it takes an expert’s best efforts to overcome his hormonal urges. Once again, life ain’t fair, but women want a permanent mate more than the reverse. [137]

390. The female gender has made itself politically, morally, and socially entitled to masculine-style sexual freedom. It’s a major cause of so much trouble trying to keep a man’s devotion. When many women act sexually unattached, wives too easily become suspect in the eyes of their husband. He knows what other men are after. Can he remain positive that she’s different from other women? Consequently, casual sexual practices within the sisterhood poison faithful marriages. [137]

 

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1965. Compatibility Axioms #351-360


NOTE: I report only on social and domestic relations and not legal, political, or economic arrangements wrought by Feminism.
351. Feminism is the philosophy of envy of men, the creed of anger at men, and the gospel of politics-first over men. Its inherent virtue equalizes female unhappiness for those living with a man.
352. Feminist doctrine: Don’t listen to what men have to say about the female sex. They’re jealous, biased, and besides that they are the enemy. [127]
353. Feminists blame character flaws for men that cheat. Women who cheat, however, are not flawed; they are justified by the inequities of patriarchy.
354. Without non-prostitute women to provide sex to married men, lack of opportunity pressures husbands to remain physically faithful whether they like it or not. [127]
355. Feminists insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. Equality to feminists means they get their way. The process of seeking it, however, weakens mutual devotion. Being impossible to mutually achieve, the drive for equality both causes and sustains friction in a relationship. [127]
356. Feminists listen only to women about both men and Feminism. They ignore its impact on the male nature and blame men for not acting as women say they should, would, or could. [127]
357. Feminists convince females to abandon old school maturity-before-sex in favor of new school sex-before-maturity. Men get what they want most. Women gain sexual freedom, but they lose much of their natural ability to hold onto a mate. [127]
358. Feminism teaches women to rationalize a superior role for females, celebrate their independence from men, and compete against their man. It justifies a self-centered competitive rather than an us-centered cooperative spirit. Filling such a role belittles a man’s sense of significance, the loss of which is his greatest fear and especially with his mate. [127]
359. Feminists actively honor sexual freedom. Men relish the proliferation of uncommitted sex, but the Marrying Man seeks something very different. [127]
360. Feminists claim female independence as a woman’s right. Men let them have it and feel relieved at the consequent watering down of family responsibility. [127]

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1958. Compatibility Axioms #312-320


TWO POSTS TODAY. THE PREVIOUS ONE, 1957, INTRODUCES THIS ONE.

312. Over time, the feminist spirit in the home shows up as female self-absorption, disrespect or ridicule of masculine traits, and an in-your-face attitude. Men learn quickly that other choices are available elsewhere. [123]
313. The feminist spirit makes women ‘stand up inside’ just thinking about a man or men. Outcomes dilute mutual respect and make unconditional respect (e.g., chivalry) practically non-existent between the genders, which is toxic for relationships.  [123]
314. Feminist-inspired women justify female sexual freedom to copy men’s independence. The practice across society tremendously weakens a father’s influence raising daughters and discredits him as morality teacher for sons. [123]
315. Feminists blame character flaws for men that cheat. But without women to provide sex to married men, natural pressures mount for husbands to remain faithful whether they like it or not. Thus, other women destroy wives’ ability to maintain compatible marriages. (I don’t alibi for men but highlight how the masculine nature requires feminine influence to make habitual the honoring of vows.) [129]
316. Feminists insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. The best intentions to equalize workload weaken mutual devotion. The male nature thrives on fairness and rejects equality as both friction-causing and impossible to achieve. [129]
317. Feminists listen only to women about men. They ignore its impact on the male nature and blame men for not acting as women say they should, would, or could. It makes men more defiant, argumentative, and hostile.   [129]
318. Feminists move females away from old school maturity-before-sex in favor of new school sex-before-maturity. Men win, women gain sexual freedom but lose the ability to hold onto one man.  [129]
319. Feminism teaches women to rationalize a superior role for females, celebrate their independence from men, and compete against their man. It justifies a self-centered competitive rather than us-centered cooperative spirit. [129]
320. Feminists actively honor sexual freedom. Men relish the proliferation of uncommitted sex, but the Marrying Man seeks something very different. [129]
321. Feminists claim female independence as a woman’s right. Men let them have it and welcome the consequent watering down of family responsibility. [129]

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1948. Compatibility Axioms #301-310


301. Virtual virginity means keeping her legs crossed before marriage. It puts her in the buyer’s seat and forces a man to be the seller, to make himself worthy of her instead of the other way around. (Men don’t truly appreciate what they don’t earn.) [125]
302. Her attractiveness spikes his interest for sex. It’s up to her to convert that interest over to her. Heeding granny’s advice to keep a dime between her knees works best. [125]
303. Her first refusal for sex spreads a man’s interest to try harder, to know her better. Subsequent refusals push him to look ever deeper for weaknesses he can exploit to convince her to yield. (Presuming he accepts her refusals as other than rejections of him.) [125]
304. As her refusals continue in courtship, he serendipitously discovers her admirable strengths and non-sexual qualities. These earn more respect both for her potential as a keeper and promise for mating. (Provided, of course, he’s more interested in her than just conqueror’s sex.) [125]
305. By yielding sex before marriage, she reverses their natural roles. She becomes seller to his buyer, and he’s paid her price when she yields. It’s too late for her to raise the ante; the door closes partly or fully on his investing more in her even though the potential for it resides in the male nature. [125]
306. As the seller, she settles for less than she deserves because she has only one conquest event with each man. (Women may not see it that way, but men do. Men change after conquest, and it forces women to change to stay abreast of the conqueror.) [125]
307. Conquest is a relationship-changing event for a man. He quits looking so interestedly at a conquered woman. Nature releases his heart to pursue something or somebody else. [125]
308. By yielding unmarried sex, she lets a man know what price she charges for submission. This naturally, automatically, and subconsciously programs his mind on how their relationship will work in the future. It enlarges his expectations for getting his way with her—we’re talking greater male dominance here, aren’t we? [125]
309. The longer and more intensely without sex that he stays focused on her, the greater their bonding and the more promising their future together. [125]
310. Just a friendly touch in passing or a pat on the back sends a message of trust that earns a man’s regard if not respect. If he mistakes her friendliness for something else, she has uniquely subtle ways to turn him off without offense and immense power to discourage with offense. Friendly touching in passing is a small price women pay. It helps hold onto the respect of men other than their own, which magnifies their gratefulness for both men and themselves. [123]

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1929. Compatibility Axioms #201-210


201. Promiscuously experienced boys make poorer adult-mates. From many round-heel and easy-pushover girls, boys learn two things. 1) Females aren’t as respectable as males. 2) Token commitment is sufficient and devotion unnecessary to capture a female.
202. The end result of masculine-style sexual freedom for women is that men become more adroit at sexual hit and run, and women gain more experience as ex-girlfriend, ex-lover, ex-live in, and ex-wife. [103]
203. As male dominance is challenged in the home, it strengthens and fertilizes the man’s natural reluctance to stay long with one woman. [103]
204. Females pursuing equal right to be unfaithful actually redouble the males’ effort to maintain and even exploit their natural dominance and sexual freedom. [103]
205. Women are endowed with a cooperative spirit, men with a competitive one. Men easily recognize the difference, guard their turf aggressively, and overpower wifely assertiveness that challenges husband’s role. [103]
206. Women need to exemplify religious morality. It can civilize, tame, and domesticate the male beast. (New school moral relativism breeds abuse and violence of men against women and children and both sexes against others.) [103]
207. Women bitch that men don’t act gentlemanly. It’s the highly valued self-respect of ladies that inspires men to act gentlemanly. (To loosen up moral values, feminists several decades ago shamed out of existence the social construct of the lady. Gentlemanly respect and courtesy faded rapidly thereafter.) [103]
208. Women insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. The best intentions to equalize workload weaken mutual devotion, because sustaining equality is too friction-causing and impossible in the end. [103]
209. Men usually keep their love under wraps. When he expresses love, he does so through actions designed to please his love object, and it shows in spurts. [104]
210. Women express love through closeness, nurturing, and intimacy. She reveals her love frequently using words when necessary to keep the spirit moving. Also, she expects her ears to be filled frequently with his words of affection and appreciation. [104]

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1917. Equality Worsens Women’s Dilemma


I expound upon about a great paragraph, but do it in reverse order from effect to cause to consequence. Her Highness Denise said this:

“I’m finding that more and more, younger men seem to focus on being the good friend and involved father, and perhaps even affectionate husband, rather than provider-protector. The “new normal” emphasizes equality in roles, and I’m not sure whether these new kinds of relationships show that men and women have found a new equilibrium that will ultimately work just as well, or whether there are hidden negative consequences waiting down the line.”

Effect. Denise describes a “new normal” and I agree but not about equilibrium. The female gender as a whole has swung toward praising certain men for satisfying female demands and expectations. Women expect more female-type displays of affection, friendship-love, and fatherly nurturing. Macho men and masculinity are less popular and often disrespected by women. Women upstage their men with higher incomes, status, and ability to provide-protect. In many other ways, men are put down but yet expected to please women. Women compensate by reasoning that they deserve masculine-style sexual freedom.

The political urgings of equality all across society have changed the culture to please the radical feminists who originally aimed to destroy patriarchy. Male behaviors have been ground and sanded into female-defined roles foreign to the male nature. Some men find success relating with women on female terms. But other men find inadequate satisfaction and resent, resist, and retaliate against females who urge for more female-friendly behavior.

The female gender as a spirit continues to endorse some unisex society. But more legal, political, and economic equality produces much more turmoil on the social and domestic scenes. The female gender operates with little male gender input. They have definitions and expectations but no end-game except masculine-style sexual freedom and husbandly household care. Denise wonders if a new equilibrium has been found. It’s a female hope, but equality is not attainable. The losers fight back. My bet is that the masculine pursuit of fairness will carry this century. The consequences below seem to point that way, that women will learn and adjust to get what they are after. That is, more reliable, steadfast, and long-lasting marriage.

Cause. Article 1915 describes this natural phenomenon. Men are born with loads of firmly implanted and permanent self-respect, and they expect respect shown by others to match or exceed it. They become aggressively troublesome when they don’t witness enough respect. OTOH, they are born without self-love, and so they don’t expect to be loved for no reason. They automatically strive to earn it from those who are important to them. But they only know one way, natural way that is. They produce, provide, protect, and problem solve. All else, such as just being affectionate without sex on the mind, is learned behavior.

Denise’s “new normal” is the result of some men setting aside their self-respect long enough to earn self-love first with the self-promise they can recover their self-respect. Does it work for such men and will it work for the remainder of men? Or, will relationships continue to wilt to the dissatisfaction of both sexes? You be the judge, next.

Consequence. How well and how long can women treat men as they do today and live with the masculine nature that urges men to:

  1. Build their ambitions around their need for self-admiration, amidst women who continue to condemn manly ambitions that don’t resonate well with uniquely female values?
  2. Seek to develop their self-love by earning the love of women, but who continually berate manly traits and habits that build male self-respect?
  3. Reinforce their self-respect by charming women into bed and leaving them?
  4. Go into fight or flight mode and leave adrift women who try to change them?
  5. Experience the 2-year glitch, 7-year itch, and 20-year switch?
  6. Learn to love from women who respect them dearly?
  7. Value a female sexually according to how few men had her out of wedlock?
  8. Consider it unforgiveable for their woman to physically cheat on them?
  9. Protect or restore their self-respect first and above all else?
  10. Respect women for their ability to withhold premarital sexual relations?
  11. Love females to the extent that women respect and admire them?
  12. Learn from females to act civilized and domesticate themselves to the expectations of women?
  13. Conquer women for short-term and frequent convenience?
  14. Abhor women who cast doubt on a man’s sexual performance or ability?
  15. Consider masculine-style sexual freedom wrong for women but so compensable for men that they overlook other female wrongdoings?
  16. Focus on ‘me before us’ and ‘you before us’?
  17. Choose a mate based on a woman’s uniqueness, respectable character, and the promise he sees in her for supporting his efforts in life?
  18. Not value what women say as much as what women do?
  19. Resist adamantly their mate’s efforts to change him?
  20. …etcetera, etcetera, etcetera.

Who knows how long that list could grow? Throughout this blog hundreds of sex differences appear that women choose to ignore or condemn in order to have their way, in order to elevate themselves over men rather than expecting men to put women on pedestals. Women can get what they expect but not what they dictate. Each man’s dominance is conquerable by some woman, but patriarchy has proven indestructible for six millennia but manageable in earlier America.

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Historical Note. In the past half-century women have been de-trained from recognizing one simple trait of the female psyche. Women naturally respect other people until events discourage it. Men are opposite. Women put themselves in control, when they unconditionally honor the masculine nature. Then, marital relations become easier and more steadfast because men work harder to maintain the respect of their mates. Men are incapable of improving the female life without the indirect, imperceptible, and unoffending leadership of women.

That principle evolved into an American tradition until the 1960s. Both sexes unconditionally respected the opposite sex more than their own. It grew out of our political freedom and, while certainly not perfect, enabled women to chew away at the disadvantages of patriarchy. After the 1960s and for political reasons, radical feminists overwhelmed the natural trait of female patience in order to justify their attack on men and patriarchy. Women today have to overcome that debilitating legacy.

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