1181. Boot Camp for Girls—Day 18: Grandfather’s Advice #5

Precious granddaughter, I continue describing potential mistakes. In the words of a radio ad in my youth, ‘An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.’ Fortunately, your parents have taught you to avoid what follows. Permit me, in the interest of eliminating ignorance, to describe what likely happens to a girl that experiments and participates sexually with boys.

Disease and pregnancy threaten but may or may not materialize. Mental afflictions, however, always arrive. They surround her mental processes, and reduce her abilities for the healthy development of her mind.

Sexual encounters contaminate a girl’s thoughts. Guilt impounds her conscience and smothers her ego. Self-talk distorts her hopes and dreams. It all works directly against a pleasant and enjoyable youth.

The earlier in life she encounters sexual experience, the more teen years are available for mistakes, guilt, and remorse to compound, worsen, and sicken her spirit. Moreover, the more encounters, the more severe the penalties she receives. Guilt is bad enough but other consequences afflict her.

• She handicaps herself. She can’t associate normally with peers that are focused on developing and maturing themselves with adult skills, values, and attitudes.
• Her mental maturation slows. After enough encounters it virtually stops. She then passes into her adult persona with mental development still locked in adolescence. Acting as mature adult women act and deal with the subject of sex seems foreign to her.
• She absorbs a sense of girlish worthlessness except when desired sexually. It pushes her mindset to drop feminine and absorb masculine values.
• The bloom of her self-respect wilts. It stops growing and narrows too, which reduces her influence with people.
• Her sense of self-importance withers rather than grows with youthful exuberance. She tends to only feel important when sexually targeted, pursued, or engaged.
• Her self-confidence rises when concerned with what she can give. It weakens when concerned with what she is due or wants or needs.
• Her will power doesn’t mature. It doesn’t embolden her to resist masculine assaults on her feminine spirit.
• She loses her ability to clearly define and commit herself to doing what’s right for her and her alone. She throws herself into living today and doesn’t invest herself in her own future.
• She becomes afraid to refuse sex for fear of being disliked. Can promiscuity be far behind when teen girls are so plagued with anxieties?
• Her thoughts and motivations weave webs to make herself worthy of others and make others like her. Her sense of personal values sinks accordingly.
• Her hopes and dreams die as she shifts her hopes toward attracting and holding masculine attention today.
• She turns more to thinking as boys think. She seeks more stroking of her ego, as she learns how to live with being treated like trash. She cries for attention.
• After she enters the workforce, self-defense pushes her to adopt the strategy of ‘screw my way to the top’. She fails to develop belief in herself that she can do it any other way.

Honey, other girls must look out for themselves. You owe them respect as a person but little else until the bonds of friendship arrive in your life. However, reserve a lot of pity for the youngest girls that give fellatio and a lot of sorrow for those that do it in public. They doom their futures much faster and dramatically than other girls.

Tomorrow we’ll lightly touch on that powerful motivator of females, guilt.

1180. Boot Camp for Girls—Day 17: Grandfather’s Advice #4

Honeychile, mistakes are the biggest penalty for being young. They flow quite naturally out of the ignorance of inexperience. So, let me help reduce some of your ignorance.

• You have a strong need to both receive and deliver affection. You presume boys are the same. NOT! They differ. If you show affection, it’s natural for you to expect a boy to return it. However, you’re more likely to get what you don’t want. A boy’s motivations about physical sharing of affection will not match your girlish expectations.
• Boys don’t need and often don’t want you downloading your affection on them. In particular, clinging vines are taboo except as they want to show you off in front of buddies. Deep inside their hormone-driven nature, boys see your outward displays of affection as prelude to foreplay. They invariably grab the opportunity and seek to go further.  
• If you want to physically show affection and keep a boyfriend, then you will be expected to allow some foreplay. You should think it through very deeply. Once you start allowing foreplay, the pressures will never cease until you yield sexually. We all weaken under continually applied pressure. It’s a great reason to focus on building up the FRIEND side of boyfriend (without benefits). Doing so has this great benefit: You’ll learn much more about yourself and boys by refusing foreplay than you’ll ever learn by permitting it. That jewel-laden experience prepares you best for fulfilling your adult hopes and dreams.

Mistake prevention continues tomorrow.

359. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 16

Mothers ignore Einstein’s claim that “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Daughters suffer consequences, when mothers and daughters elevate popularity or anything else over virginity.

The male mind works like this regarding females:  Curiosity energizes his imagination. Knowledge about a particular thing stops curiosity, which stops his imagining about it.

Conquering a female goes step by step. For example, curious about boobs, imagine touching them. Feeling them up shifts his curiosity to exposing them. Seeing them makes curiosity shift to what’s next. But you know all that.

Imagination stirs hormones, knowledge calms them. Resurging curiosity keeps shifting a man’s imagination toward the next step for conquest.

♀  Male curiosity satisfied about any aspect of a girl becomes knowledge, which invites more curiosity and imagination about the next step toward sex, say boob exposure, which when satisfied invites more…. It doesn’t end until his conquest.

♀  As long as boys have to imagine about girls’ bodies, they stand in line to learn exactly what girls expect boys to do. This enables female dominance, which girls need to protect and promote their self-interest dealing with men.

♀  As long as boys have direct knowledge about a particular girl’s genitals, their imagination wanes, interest in her focuses only on the sexual, and male dominance explodes on a female countenance that will shortly reflect disappointment or worse.

When mothers and girls devalue virginity and virtual virginity, they empower boys to dominate girls. Once learned from the consequences, her lessons and his tricks imprint for life.

[Fifteen more posts about Sex and the fickle girl appear in the CONTENT page in the blog heading.]

347. Abstinence Pays

Girlhood abstinence reduces male dominance.

As part of the sexual revolution, women abandon the lessons of their mothers and grandmothers. They exploit newly proclaimed sexual ‘rights’, and abandon the time-honored American female strategy of No Sex without Marriage.

But, they go too far. Feminism inspired greater sexual freedom for females, but women could not keep it from flowing to adolescent girls. The younger the females available to provide sex, the greater their sexual attraction to men committed to someone else. (Who says abstinence education for girls doesn’t pay off?)

If they choose, girls and younger women can easily disrupt tightly bonded marriages that appear unbreakable. Today they do choose. Many seek committed married men as already proven worthwhile for matrimony. Men separated and divorced remain unproven, and their value goes down relative to the still-married.

Girls and adolescent-minded women, such as college booty, lack maturity to undercut male domination. Mature females are fearful of losing their man. Consequently, females submit more easily to male domination in both the social and home arenas.

337. Unsafe at Any Speed

When most females ‘put out’ easily and casually, sexual relations work against female safety. Males take rejection personal, as female condemnation.

Each attractive female has what he’s after, because male hormones push for sex. When sex is cheap, he looks for easy stuff rather than spin wheels screening for the female of his dreams.

Her rejection spawns bitterness, aggression, and violence. Rejection imagined as extremely personal turns boys, and those men who can’t handle it, toward extreme aggressiveness and even violence.

When No Sex without Marriage is the strategy used by most women and honored by girls, males do not so easily take rejection personal. If rebuffed, they assume her character and moral standards reject his invitation, so females are not rejecting him personally.

This turns men away from sex for its own sake and pushes them to compete for a woman with sex as follow-on. This requires and males accept that they suppress aggressiveness and violence. They make themselves more female-friendly.

In this way, the sexual habits of most females stifle male aggression and violence toward individuals.

 

 

 

 

 

 

331. Do women know jack about Jack? — Part 19

♂♥ The male nature and conquering spirit tends to be uncivilized, ggressive, and even violent when challenged. Males are made otherwise by mothers nurturing in the weans, fathers leading in the tweens, and girls teaching in the teens. Adult women live with the consequences.

♂♥ It takes the female gender to tame and harness the male gender for brightening the future for individual women and children.

♂♥ If he expects her to share the financial load when dating, he’s not really into her and his attentions will not likely become what she wants to see. (If she wants to share the financial load, gift him some money divorced from dating expenses to “spend as he chooses.” What he does with it will tell her about his character and her importance in his life. She can then decide about their roles and future together.)

♂♥ Men bond better from a long process to get her into bed, than they do from conquest itself. The former requires investment of himself, the latter does not.

♂♥ His devotion reflects emotional fidelity. His commitment lacks that depth of meaning.

[Eighteen other posts about Jack are listed in the Content page at the top.]

328. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 15

Many mothers misread the tea leaves of their youth. They advise daughters poorly by promoting popularity over virginity. Mixed with low self-esteem and angst, it leads to unintended consequences in the teen sex marketplace.

♀ Seeking popularity, girls stoop to the absolute lowest rung on the social ladder. Manly disrespect and male dominance don’t get more absolute than with public fellatio, not even in the White House.

♀ Males claim fellatio as ‘not sex’. Females fall for it. Some girls ‘preserve their virginity’ that way. Technically, they’ve already lost it, because they lose more respect than single intercourse would cost them. They also victimize themselves beneath the indignity of adolescent masculine ridicule.  

♀  The latest generation talks about ‘rainbow jobs’. Younger generations need to outdo others; what one generation tolerates, the next practices.

♀  Treated disrespectfully except for more head reduces a girl’s self-respect, which poisons her self-image, and keeps her self-esteem pinned to the lowest possible. This erodes her self-confidence for everything except more sexual activity to confirm that popularity has its own rewards.

♀  Recovery is everything, and the non-sexual blessings of virtual virginity can restore her self-respect, -confidence, -image, and -esteem.

[Fourteen other posts about sex and the fickle girl and sixteen about virtual virginity are listed in the Content page at the top.]

306. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 14

♀  When a woman concludes that men are only after one thing, it’s because she offers too little else.

♀  Women generate their own unhappiness. A woman focuses on her man’s negatives, which worsen precisely because of her attentions.

♀  Booty call: The screwing she gets for the screwing he gets. Duty sluthood costs her much more male respect that she can ever imagine.

♀  College girls major in booty for reasons incomprehensible to any father.   

♀  Capturing a man is easy. Keeping one is not. The burden is on her. Her nature seeks togetherness, and his seeks freedom.

♀  Virgin girls believe they won’t get dumped if they yield. Actually, to men, the more his buds have tried and failed, the easier she is to dump, unless he’s really into her other strengths and attributes.  

♀  It’s self-fulfilling: A wife blames husband for his faults. Accused men defend themselves by disproving the evidence presented. Debate amplifies his faults into failures in her eyes. He gets worse.

♀  Women abandon femininity, modesty, high moral standards, and other female strengths just to have a boyfriend they can’t keep, because of what they abandoned.

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