Immature adults emerge from this background: Kids enter puberty with empty minds primed to vacuum up adolescent values that produce these characteristics in adulthood:
· Action comes before responsibility.
· Self-centeredness overpowers ‘us’.
· Good intentions explain away lack of results.
· Taking risks overrides common sense.
· Others must earn my respect.
· Popularity is more important than character.
· Symbols are as good as substance.
· Sex outweighs fidelity.
· Parental supervision offends.
· Wisdom resides in my peers.
They get that way from poor parenting in the weans and tweens. The following point to impending immaturity when present at puberty.
o A good work ethic and strong sense of personal responsibility.
o Religious beliefs and moral convictions that guide them toward living up to something bigger than themselves.
o Dependence upon parents for wisdom, guidance, support, back up.
o Respect for authority and authority figures.
o A foundation of unconditional respect for all people.
o Ambitions (underdeveloped) for their own adult life. Not necessarily what they want to do, but expectations and preferably dreams of living in the adult world of responsibility, work, mature fun, family building.
o Dreams of becoming a teen instead of an adult. They focus on peers, popularity, fashions, outside-the-family activities, and earlier duplication of older kids.
o Respect others only for what they can do for the child.
o Self-centeredness. Selfishness comes easily to them. Their heart is soft for peers, but hard for most others.
o A mother that did not nurture the child well in the weans, a father that did not lead well in the tweens, or both.
They exit adolescence with convicted beliefs that values learned in the teens are right and proper for adult life. This happens for one reason: They entered puberty with a mind empty of mature adult, albeit underdeveloped, values into which they expected to grow.
[More about childhood mental growth appears in posts 268, 239, 223, 208, 197, 193, 192, 187, 178, and 177. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]