116. The essence of being feminine

Femininity maximizes a woman’s value to herself as a person. It uplifts her self-worth, enlarges her self-image, and broadens her self-interest. Acting feminine teaches her to like herself as girl, female, woman, mother, grandmother.

Being feminine makes a woman very unique, which maximizes her value to men.  

 Women gravitate naturally to being feminine. Individuals live and learn how to exploit their femaleness so as to deal successfully with men. They also learn by sharing experiences.

The feminine concept refreshes and reinforces itself, as mothers impart to daughters the blessings of having a man and pitfalls of not being able to capture and hold one.

Whereas Feminism encourages girls to ignore motherly teachings about boys, Femininity encourages girls to listen and duplicate mother’s and even grandmother’s experience. This enables each generation to improve on its ability to tame and harness male dominance for fulfilling female dreams.

In the end, being conditioned by Femininity in three phases of life as boy, single, and married, men respect the opposite sex more than they respect their own gender. So do women.

The resulting cultural institution of unconditional respect provides the deepest foundation for a man’s conditional respect for one woman. From his respect, his love arises.

One woman summarizes the essence of being feminine. She refreshingly claims that it adds color to a man’s black and white world.*

* Thanks for the color-B&W analogy to an unknown woman cited in Keys to the Kingdom by Alison A. Armstrong, PAX Programs, Inc. Sherman Oaks, CA , p.151.

115. The Essence of Feminism

Feminism is an ideology. It tells other people how to live according to politically inspired values, but it generates social illnesses. (I applaud the legal, political, and economic gains wrought by Feminism. Instead, I focus on the damaging social consequences inflicted on couples.)

 The feminist ideology wraps the female heart with meanness toward men. It breeds selfishness and self-centeredness, which puts mental ugliness into the mainstream of life. It makes women stand up inside and shake a fist at men. It pushes men to fight back with what often becomes abuse and violence.

Early feminists buried as trash the female-friendly concepts of the Lady and the Gentleman. They spiked tenderness into the hardened turf of politics, which sacrificed the female desire to be cherished by a man. They uplifted sexual freedom as equality with men that women deserved.

How did it happen that Feminism prostitutes the female nature and turns men away from family responsibility? Simple. The roots lie in politics with people that wanted to change the world to their image. They wanted to make a difference and strategized without input from men. 

Two world views separate those that did it from those that would not have done it—the political Left from the Right, the political females from the natural females, the feminists from the feminine.

“One view, the Anglo-American, holds that human ability to comprehend, adjudicate, and arrange the world around us is limited; that the only attainable goal is continuously to improve the conditions which enable individuals to achieve their personal best.”*

Those who hold this world view occupy the right side of the political spectrum. Their beliefs foster leadership by example rather than using politics to tell others how to live.

“The other view, predominantly Franco-Germanic, places human reason at the center of our existence, claiming that certain people are capable of comprehending, adjudicating, and arranging the world around us; and that such people are called upon to guide all others toward an increasingly perfect and just world in which all desires will have been either eliminated or satisfied.”*

The early feminists, and those that helped propagate their ideology, hold the latter world view. They empower themselves with feminist theory, dogma, and propaganda and adjudicate and arrange the world for the rest of us.

They thought themselves elitist enough and capable of changing how men treat women by telling women how to mistreat men.

As a result, modern women fish with bare breasts and net a man with sex. But, they can’t hold him. Thus, women pay the price of feminist elitism that substituted Feminism for Femininity.

* My thanks to Balint Vazsonyi for the two quotes. They’re from his book America’s 30 Years War, Who is Winning? (p.106) 

47. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 02

Women might improve their lives living with a man if they face three truths about bringing the feminist spirit, theory, and dogma into the home.

⌂ Truth #1—Feminism pushes women to compete with their man in domains he considers his own. Competitive frustration follows when her man does not measure up to feminist-defined expectations about male behavior. This leads to finger-pointing and fault-finding, which escalates over time. Mutual trust and gratitude decline. She’s prompted into nagging, which is just a higher gear for speeding a man out of her life. Even the bible scorns the ‘quarrelsome wife’ in Proverbs 21:9, 21:19, 25:24, 27:15-16.

⌂ Truth #2—Feminism in the home prompts women to adopt the unique male strength of directness and abandon the unique female strength of indirectness. Thus, women weaken their natural influence. Even worse, men don’t appreciate women that ‘get in his face’, and this narrows the gap between offense and non-offense. 

⌂ Truth #3—Feminist thinking in the home inspires women to favor ingratitude for their man’s imperfections rather than gratefulness for his manliness and strengths. Eventually, a man tires, his respect wanes, alienation sets in, and disruption or departure follows.

32. Dear Daughter — second letter

♀ Two conquerors compete and struggle. He seeks sex, and she seeks marriage. The conqueror shapes their subsequent relationship.

♀ Dominance among couples comes in several colors: Dominant mate or the head, dominant nester or the heart, and dominant family leader or the most cherished. Marriage works best when that sequence matches this: him, her, and either.

♀ Girls dream of a happy life with the right man. Men know they are the right man for any woman. Each man expects one woman to energize and shower him with wedded bliss. Of course it’s not fair, but it is Nature in action.

♀ In the movie, The King and I, Yul Brynner sings that women are made for one man, but men are made to go blossom-to-blossom. Masculine-style sexual freedom practiced by females makes the king’s musical model bloom as cheap, unobligated reality for modern men.

♀ After conquest, a man’s pursuit of a female stops, because he owns their sexual agenda. The maximum influence she wielded before conquest fades to much less. Worse, he quits looking for her weaknesses, so he stops uncovering her strengths.

♀ The real glue of a lasting marriage is not love so much as the absence of demeaning irritants, frequent hassles, and widening ingratitude for him and lessening of affection for her.

♀ A female eager to accept a male as sex partner bypasses the process by which she earns his respect. This means that little within him grows to help commit him to her after lust and infatuation fade in a year or two.

♀ Both men and women rationalize that sex and even shack up should precede marriage so as to confirm compatibility. This male game emerges from feminist propaganda and dollars earned by TV and Hollywood. Of marriages following shack up, 80 percent fail.

♀ Female independence gained through masculine-style sexual freedom make marriage dwindle in importance, vitality, longevity, and appeal to men. Feminist politics and propaganda cannot make life fair.

♀ Feminism brought into the home changes the natural and cooperative battle of the sexes into an unnatural and competitive war of the sexes.

♀ Successful relationships depend upon the lessons girls learn while teaching boys to honor feminine values, standards, and expectations. Popularized and rampant teen sexual activity short-circuits this process. Men win, and women lose as relationships fail and click women into the recycle bin.

♀ Hollywood flicks, TV shows, and pop culture excitement convince women that premarital and first time sexual relations are an exciting way to capture a man. Or, it is the woman’s due, and yielding sex never has bad consequences. However, it’s both feminist and male propaganda.

♀ The more wives take feminist theory and dogma into the home, the more husbands decide the kind of husband or ex they will be.