The previous Male Matrix series focused on men looking at their masculine competitors. Here we look at men looking at women for one thing: suitability for marriage. Nothing as discrete as qualifications—too much variance in individual male tastes—but overall suitability based on just two parameters.
Feminism and Femininity are used for simple reasons: Feminism is basically anti-male, which turns off men. Femininity is basically pro-female, which attracts men. I assume every woman to be a mixture of the two, and men strongly prefer the latter and the more latter the better.
I use the dark side of Feminism that impacts social, domestic, and family relationships. I exclude the economic, political, and legal gains that women have made. Femininity is the natural expression of true femaleness, and it registers as opposite and contrary to Feminism.
Broad suitability for marriage enables men to figure out, evaluate, and accept or reject what doesn’t fit their requirements and expectations. It’s a piece of cake to rule out a woman for marriage; it’s quite a task to rule her suitable for a test run.
Each woman’s behavior pattern and belief system are part Feminism and part Femininity. Her ratio shows in the chart below. She can select the vertical column that best describes her and guesstimate her relative standing as viewed by the male community.
| AS PERCEIVED BY MEN–> | UNSUITABLE AS WIFE FOR REAL MAN | SUITABLE AS WIFE FOR REAL MAN | IDEALLY SUITED AS WIFE FOR REAL MAN |
| Her Feminism beliefs and behaviors | 10 | 9 | 8 | 7 | 6 | 5 | 4 | 3 | 2 | 1 | 0 |
| Her Femininity beliefs and behaviors | 0 | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 |
| Select the over and under combination above that best identifies her ratio of Feminism to Femininity. The two numbers must equal the sum shown on this line. | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 |
| As perceived by men: A=alpha, B=beta, G=Gamma | A | A | A | B | B | B | B | B | G | G | G |
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As perceived by women–> |
Why unsuitable? She has a right to be herself. Men are to blame for social and domestic ills. | WYSIWYG, what you see is what you get. Men are biased against independence in a woman except for the money she brings home. | Not everyone wants to pay the feminine price to win a man. Why aren’t men more assertive at pursuing these women? |
The foregoing describes initial perceptions of men about the marital suitability of women. What really counts in the end when dealing with men—details about the meanings, importance, and consequences of Feminism and Femininity—are scattered elsewhere in the blog.
NOTE: The vertical lines that don’t quite align with the nearest ones reflect inability rather than intent.
