This post completes the response to Princess Jessica and Princess Tamara. They inquired about it, but there is no PROPER way to balance home and work life, except as individual women make choices and succeed. These cause and effect tips may help.
© Husband will not play second fiddle, especially not to kids, pets, and even wife’s job. He married to play first fiddle, period.
© Wives want to hear words of affection, gratitude, and confirmation of their value. Mistakenly, they think men are the same. Husbands want to be respected and confirmed as significant, but in actions and not words.
© A man only needs a hut, but a woman wants a castle. She can get it by crowning him king and treating him royally. Or, she can learn to like their hut and soon tire of him.
© A man will consider his hut a castle, if he’s treated as the king. A woman’s ego restricts her from treating him that way, because she’s naturally driven to dominate her nest and their home. If she refuses to treat him royally, however, he eventually looks for an escape hatch.
© A wife’s expectations about fairness and equality in housework compete against husband’s hormones. If she wins, over the long haul he becomes more temporary.
© Fathers withdraw from parenting when not respected and upheld as good father by the mother. Mothers not upheld as a valuable and appreciated mother get rid of father—in spirit if not actually.
The other posts in this series were 486 and 488.