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935. Virgin? Keep It Secret! — Part I

Her Highness Anonymous inquired if an actual virgin should keep it a secret? Many reasons exist to do so, and the advantages accrue to her without cost to him:

  • If she brags about her virgin state, she appears desperate. If she discloses it as part of silly belief in full disclosure, he has nothing comparable, and so she loses at the ‘negotiating table’. Providing him the knowledge gives him much more than he can give her. (His sexual history never balances her disclosure, and she doesn’t want to hear it anyway.)
  • If ex-boyfriends don’t know for sure and can only speculate to other guys about her pristine-ness, her reputation builds more easily into exciting allure than ‘gotta have it’, gotta have it’, gotta have it’ just because she’s virginal.  
  • By strongly declaring her sexual status off limits, she has an easier time defending her values, maintaining her standards, and upholding her expectations about how men should behave when with or around her.
  • Mystery about her status generates an aura around her of respectable authority (free will, hard-headedness, and willingness to use it).
  • Sexual history being the kingpin element in feminine mystique, actual virginity wears the crown. But knowledge destroys mystery, which destroys curiosity, which destroys interest in the crown, which makes her less valuable.
  • Claiming virginity challenges a man even more to conquer her. Banging a virgin earns huge masculine bragging rights and status. Instead, she wants him bragging about her beauty, charm, and female worth.
  • If he tells his buds about her virgin state, they’ll gang up on him to beat his time, to get there firstest with the mostest. It might make her more popular as they pursue her virgin attractiveness, but it’s not likely to be sincere or lasting.
  • Many men, especially the adolescent-minded, think along these lines: If he can’t conquer a woman, it’s one thing. If he can’t conquer a virgin, it’s a different matter, ‘a downright embarrassment’. He has to keep trying; he can’t quit early. His competitive spirit envisions her as his Mt. Everest, and he’s a fool to quit before reaching the top.
  • If he knows she’s virgin, he spends less time thinking about her except for why? How could she have avoided it this long? Religious nut? Fearful of sex or what? Sick in the head? Wrongheaded? Malformed? Unfashionable, won’t go along to get along? Had no girlfriends that put out as role models? Boyfriends dumped her for that reason? Or did word spread about her that he missed?
  • Knowledge cures mystery, which kills curiosity, which reduces interest in what makes her tick, tock, and chime, which makes him think more of conquest than the rest of her valuable self.
  • She will be judged, if he knows she’s virgin; making him wonder delays his judging until a time made better by a longer relationship.
  • If he wonders about her sexual past, his thoughts remain with her. If she makes her virgin state as mysterious as the rest of her sexual history, he has little recourse but to focus and accept her as she is without regard to sex.
  • If he can only wonder before the altar and marvel about prospects for his wedding night, the male mind more easily adjusts his interests to include a woman’s hopes and dreams. Whether suspicions are confirmed or he’s surprised that night, his sense of significance and her value to him jump off the scale.
  • Avoid at all cost having a girlfriend ‘sell’ her virginity to win a boyfriend or prospect. Such good intentions backfire; he gains advantage and she loses mystery. (He’ll also return to the informant for more info when he’s after something else, and that could bring them together.)

Her greatest threat may be close to home. Make sure siblings or girlfriends don’t disclose her virgin status, and she’s better off if they don’t even know it. As with men, it’s none of their business, if she hopes to have maximum independence and play life’s hand of cards without—perhaps but not always well-intentioned—interference.

I venture that Part II, post 936, will both surprise and even shock some women. What to do when he won’t stop inquiring about her sexual history and especially virgin status. It’s due out tomorrow morning.


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359. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 16

Mothers ignore Einstein’s claim that “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Daughters suffer consequences, when mothers and daughters elevate popularity or anything else over virginity.

The male mind works like this regarding females:  Curiosity energizes his imagination. Knowledge about a particular thing stops curiosity, which stops his imagining about it.

Conquering a female goes step by step. For example, curious about boobs, imagine touching them. Feeling them up shifts his curiosity to exposing them. Seeing them makes curiosity shift to what’s next. But you know all that.

Imagination stirs hormones, knowledge calms them. Resurging curiosity keeps shifting a man’s imagination toward the next step for conquest.

  Male curiosity satisfied about any aspect of a girl becomes knowledge, which invites more curiosity and imagination about the next step toward sex, say boob exposure, which when satisfied invites more…. It doesn’t end until his conquest.

  As long as boys have to imagine about girls’ bodies, they stand in line to learn exactly what girls expect boys to do. This enables female dominance, which girls need to protect and promote their self-interest dealing with men.

  As long as boys have direct knowledge about a particular girl’s genitals, their imagination wanes, interest in her focuses only on the sexual, and male dominance explodes on a female countenance that will shortly reflect disappointment or worse.

When mothers and girls devalue virginity and virtual virginity, they empower boys to dominate girls. Once learned from the consequences, her lessons and his tricks imprint for life.

[Fifteen more posts about Sex and the fickle girl appear in the CONTENT page in the blog heading.]


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354. Dark Side of Feminism — Part 20

       In the Seventies a dozen or so radicals that Rush Limbaugh calls feminazis began attacking the male gender. They scorned men and demeaned male nature seeking to change patriarchy to matriarchy.

For three decades feminists fought to change political, legal, and economic values.  I bypass those changes to complain about the social and domestic damage to the lives of females, children, and families. Feminism adversely affected them all.

It worked like this: Feminism exemplified a macro-scale self-fulfilling prophecy. Women called men no darn good, and men became more so with each new generation.*

Women now find that men lack personal responsibility, social and domestic attributes, and loyalty to mate and family. Neither dates nor marriage work well. Men need to be changed and corrected sometimes. The womanly attitude of ingratitude spins them into finding fault in masculinity and ignoring the merit.

Relationships, for which females are the natural experts, sour and often disintegrate from an array of problems: incompatibility, separation, divorce, abandonment, deadbeat dads, unappreciative wives, cheating spouse, single motherhood, irresponsible fathers, husband theft, trophy wives, unfaithfulness, moral relativism, porn popularity, promiscuity, unmarried sex, casual sex, friends with benefits, school bus fellatio, prepubescent sluts, dateless college girls, booty calls, virginity devalued, virgins mocked. All can be traced back to the feminazis, and their radical values and revolutionary ideas.

Now, lack of respect prevails. Unconditional respect for the opposite gender dies, and conditional respect weakens to become more conditional with each generation. Weakened respect demagnetizes mutual respect, the foundation of a couple’s love and loyalty.

* I count a generation as six or seven years. Kids change their ways about that often. They copy the core values of the previous gen but find new ways to distinguish themselves. Hence, the feminist prophecy has reinforced itself through five or six gens.


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345. College girls: Dateless??? — Posts 216-230

What are dads paying for? One Duke University senior claimed she never had a date in college and knew no one that had.

Given all the sex on campus, this makes coed mean guys and booty? Does dad know what’s happening to his princess?

She can escape booty call, but she needs to abandon the guys’ game. It’s up to her and not him. The following themes or thoughts about previous articles may lead to new perspectives. (Search by the number and scroll down if not at top.)


216.   Never cherished? Blaming her ex?


216.   Never cherished? Blaming her ex?



217.   She appears desperate and disposable when everything’s easy for him.

218.   Female values shape campus social life except when they let men do it.

219.   Nagging herself produces unintended consequences.

220.   Feminine mystique slows the male mind for conquest.

221.   First date plants the seeds of no call, booty, or marriage.

222.   Commitment ain’t devotion.

223.   What guides our lives?

224.   Bonding for newlyweds.

225.   Mates differ, whether recognized or not.

226.   Just who are ‘friends with benefits’?

227.   What daughters should hear.

228.   More sex education

229.   Women copy men but fail, and ennui and depression set in.

230.   Virtue helps bonding.

Escape or dodge the booty label. See the CONTENT page in the blog header.












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328. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 15

Many mothers misread the tea leaves of their youth. They advise daughters poorly by promoting popularity over virginity. Mixed with low self-esteem and angst, it leads to unintended consequences in the teen sex marketplace.

♀ Seeking popularity, girls stoop to the absolute lowest rung on the social ladder. Manly disrespect and male dominance don’t get more absolute than with public fellatio, not even in the White House.

♀ Males claim fellatio as ‘not sex’. Females fall for it. Some girls ‘preserve their virginity’ that way. Technically, they’ve already lost it, because they lose more respect than single intercourse would cost them. They also victimize themselves beneath the indignity of adolescent masculine ridicule.  

  The latest generation talks about ‘rainbow jobs’. Younger generations need to outdo others; what one generation tolerates, the next practices.

  Treated disrespectfully except for more head reduces a girl’s self-respect, which poisons her self-image, and keeps her self-esteem pinned to the lowest possible. This erodes her self-confidence for everything except more sexual activity to confirm that popularity has its own rewards.

  Recovery is everything, and the non-sexual blessings of virtual virginity can restore her self-respect, -confidence, -image, and -esteem.

[Fourteen other posts about sex and the fickle girl and sixteen about virtual virginity are listed in the Content page at the top.]

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315. The good, the bad, and the ugly — MORE OF THE GOOD

♀ Think and act as if your man is valuable, and your gratefulness will make him better and you happier.

♀ Think and act dignified, and you’ll earn respect.

♀ Think and act feminine, and you’ll attract a husband.

♀ Think and act like a good Christian, and you’ll develop a servant’s heart and vice versa.

♀ Think and act like a lady, and you’ll be treated as one—although you may have to teach others how to do it.

♀ Think and act like a virgin, and you’ll lead men to make themselves worthy of you.

♀ Think and act morally exemplary, and you’ll influence others to duplicate your character.

♀ Think and act pretty, and you’ll make yourself prettier.

♀ Think and act unselfishly, and you’ll become a helpmate.

♀ Think and primp in front of a mirror every day, and you’ll become prettier.

This ends the good, the bad, and the ugly. More at posts 314, 313, and 312. Scroll down.

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310. Female Fortitude — 136 through 140

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide theme or summary of previous posts. The numbers match the source.

136.       Before conquest, if she’s unwilling or unable to match wits and wills, his dominance will always prevail in their relationship.

137.       Casual sexual practices of the sisterhood poison faithful marriages.

138.       The more sex partners a woman takes up with, the less she learns positive and affirming things about men and how to keep one as her own.

139.       She’s twice as important for family success. He’s the head, but she’s both neck and heart.

140.       Men seek relationships for fun and functionality. Women seek relationships for emotional comfort.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 305, 300, 295, 290, 285, 280, 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]






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306. Sex and the fickle girl — Part 14

  When a woman concludes that men are only after one thing, it’s because she offers too little else.

  Women generate their own unhappiness. A woman focuses on her man’s negatives, which worsen precisely because of her attentions.

  Booty call: The screwing she gets for the screwing he gets. Duty sluthood costs her much more male respect that she can ever imagine.

  College girls major in booty for reasons incomprehensible to any father.   

  Capturing a man is easy. Keeping one is not. The burden is on her. Her nature seeks togetherness, and his seeks freedom.

  Virgin girls believe they won’t get dumped if they yield. Actually, to men, the more his buds have tried and failed, the easier she is to dump, unless he’s really into her other strengths and attributes.  

  It’s self-fulfilling: A wife blames husband for his faults. Accused men defend themselves by disproving the evidence presented. Debate amplifies his faults into failures in her eyes. He gets worse.

  Women abandon femininity, modesty, high moral standards, and other female strengths just to have a boyfriend they can’t keep, because of what they abandoned.

[More about sex and fickle females appears in posts 291, 259, 246, 229, 216, 201, 184, 170, 160, 148, 137, 93, and 34. Scroll down or search by the number followed by a dot and space.]

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