319. The high cost of cheap sex—13

Cheap sex to males means no permanent obligations. The easier the conquest and escape, the cheaper the sex.

·        Cheap sex turns mature men into teen-minded boys. The things women consider vital have much less value to adolescents—personal responsibility, faithfulness, marriage, family, dependability, truthful promises of commitment, reliable pledges of devotion, adherence to vows.

·        By cheapening sex, women cheapen themselves. Relatively, this makes males more powerful, dominant, independent and, therefore, valuable in society.

·        Males made more valuable force women to compete with each other, to make themselves more worthy for men. Hunks profit from quiet patience, as women fight over them. This reverses the natural way of men competing and making themselves worthy of a woman.

·        Sex outside of marriage gets ever cheaper as men grow more dominant relative to women. More eager to look elsewhere even when committed to someone.

·        Unmarried sex doesn’t provide what men naturally seek in a woman—if he’s to be permanent in her life. So, he has little sense of permanency. This makes him unreliable for faithfulness to her.

In the final analysis, men do whatever women require for frequent and convenient access to sex. And, unmarrried sex requires no loss of independence.

[More about high costs of cheap sex appears in posts 284, 226, 207, 190, 171, 161, 149, 138, 99, 84, 39, and 2. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]

280. Female Fortitude—96 through 100

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match previous posts.

96.     She always appears more respectful in the eyes of men that cannot conquer her. A man’s love is built upon his respect for a woman. 

97.     A man’s devotion to wife and marriage are not the same. The former is based on his heart, his feelings for her. The latter is based on his mind, values, principles, vows, and his word—to the extent that he honors such things.

98.     Younger women and their imitators primarily use skin to make boobs attractive. It works. However, men imprinted with thoughts about sex bypass focusing on her other qualities. Sex moved to the back burner moves men to chase her for herself instead of sex.

99.     Pop culture promiscuity reinforces to females that males are only after sex. Chastity teaches women that men are more interesting than that.  

100.   When marriage is less than absolutely essential to a woman, her boyfriend is miles ahead of her in avoiding it.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

277. The Fun Syndrome

      Have you heard? Many women fall prey to this manic-depressive sequence.

     Tween girls are propagandized by fashion and entertainment industries that teen life is fun and should be fun, fun, fun.

     As they pass through puberty, the pop culture, entertainment media, and boys emphasize sex as the ultimate road to fun.

     Nature protects girls at first. Their biological makeup and childish nature reject sex for ‘later’. But they welcome whatever else is fun. Unless taught differently by mothers or siblings as necessary for popularity, girls intuitively value virginity over fun.

     This moves fun to the top of girlhood priorities, while sex rises to the top for boys. Then, as boys become more meaningful in their lives, the fun imperative reinforces itself among girls. Unfortunately, it too often carries into adulthood.

     Teen minds and bodies develop. Boys and girls merge socially for fun. Separation of fun and sex begins to melt, as girls grow through adolescence. Erotic fashions attract greater attention.

     Infatuation sings with fun, but romantic love broadcasts greater fun. (Girls probably can’t tell the difference, and boys can’t separate it from adventure.)

     Having a boyfriend becomes the ultimate path to girlhood fun. It reinforces a girl’s confidence, social importance, and envy of others. She can also lord it over girlfriends. The ‘security’ of having a boyfriend frees her for riskier behavior.

     But then, sooner or later, her fun is not his. He expects more. He convinces her sex is fun too. Merging her infatuation with a boy’s hormone hurricane, she yields expecting true romance to emerge.

     Romantic love has to be fun. So, if sex is required to hold their fun-filled romance together, it symbolizes fun. Even if it disappoints her, she still has him as status symbol.

     Accepting sex as fun matches his nature perfectly, but it violates her own. She adopts masculine as more important than female values and learns to act more like a guy. Her identity becomes embedded in masculine fun, fun, fun.

     Fun trumps strictly female interests. Mothering, nurturing, nesting, and family responsibility lose appeal. The female strengths of ladyhood, female modesty, and feminine dignity disappear.

     However, one female blessing remains. Weddings, the ultimate attention and affection producers for the bride, produce immense fun. Obligations and vows are taken seriously, but the heritage of fun lingers inside her.

     As soon as romantic love fades in a year or two, as it inevitably does, the fun ends for her. Responsibilities of partner, wife, and perhaps mother begin to burden. Domestic burdens grow, and depression arrives. It tickles her drive to restore fun to her life.

     She needs new fun, and she learned earlier that it starts with a new man. So, she dumps partner, husband, and perhaps father of her kids to seek another. When romantic love with new guy fades in a year or two, she moves on. And then she finds…?

     Values learned in the tweens and reinforced as a teen turn wives into physical adults but mental adolescents. Manic until romantic love fades in a year or two. Depressive until the next romance starts.

     Her childish need for fun overwhelms satisfaction with current mate, but she rationalizes the fault to be his. For example, he pays no attention to her sexual wants, needs, and desires.

     Such women never grow out of the adolescent idea that romance is both the ultimate and only fun. Every so often it requires a new man. So, they dump husbands, who probably never see it coming.

 

 

 

    

245. Female Fortitude—61 through 65

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match the posts.

61.      If they’ve not had their first sex together, he hears, he heeds, and he modifies his behavior in whatever way he thinks will advance his agenda for bed time together. Long sex-free courtships accumulate more of his habitual changes that help fulfill her hopes and dreams.

63.      Morality serves women much more than men. If a woman fails to live within and uphold a self-imposed strong moral code, she can expect mistreatment by men.

64.      Some women discourage manly devotion by providing cheap, uncommitted sex. Other women inspire manly devotion by delaying a man’s conquest until he wants her for much more than sex.

65.      The two-year glitch arrives quietly as romantic love fades away in a couple’s second year together. Both undergo transformation. If an enduring kind of love has not developed mutually, separation is not far off.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

224. Newlywed Bonding #1 —Intro

Marriages deteriorate more easily and become temporary, than they solidify and become permanent. Deterioration requires little else than inattention, sloppiness, carelessness.  

Solidifying a marriage requires a lot of shared goals and planning to sustain mutual respect. Making the process habitual in the early years produces desired results later. (Grace and I didn’t get the shortcomings of our early marriage straightened out until our third decade together.)

First impressions last, and early marriage sets the stage for whatever follows. Jointly built successes bond a couple. Failures, weaknesses, and even good intentions do not bond and can smother love to death.

Consequently, newlywed success depends on preventing relationship harm. That’s where forming good habits comes in. It requires mutual devotion—not just commitment—to build new habits that stamp out premarital bad habits that lead to deterioration.

This Newlywed Bonding series covers four beneficial habits that chase bad habits away:

1.     Virtue as relationship glue

2.     Money as relationship slave

3.     Separate but equal as teamwork

4.     Custom as dispute avoidance

The first good habit will appear in a few days. The Table of Contents at the top lists many subjects pertaining to living successfully with someone of the opposite sex.

NOTE: A nice and classy young lady, Tricia, inspired this series of posts. I pray her pending marriage matches her public pleasantness, charm, and sense of responsibility.

 

211. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 15

     Feminism conflicts with two natural principles of American behavior. First, the male sex does whatever the female sex requires for men to have frequent and convenient access to sex.

Second, men react to how women treat them. Men treated as they wish to be treated rise to help fulfill female hopes and dreams. Men treated otherwise become what individual females can’t appreciate; they fulfill unmanly hopes and dreams—toys, parties, girls.  

Feminism inspired women to treat men disrespectfully, because men refuse to step up to the feminist model of what men should be as developed by radical political activists.

It worsens. Feminist-inspired lower standards for men to have access to sex frees up men to conquer more women. Women expect a man’s commitment to be error-proof, but female sisters bait and tease his natural urge to merge.

To compensate themselves but reward men, women declare and practice masculine-style sexual freedom. Women keep lowering the bar for access to frequent and convenient sex, and then blame men for easier jumping. Blame delivers mistreatment.

Looser customs free up men to hunt and conquer. Lowering standards for sex causes women to mistreat men, because men don’t live up to female expectations. Mistreatment causes men to easily tire of or become discouraged by one woman.  

Feminists lowered the drawbridge to sexual freedom, first for men and then for women. So, men have to do little to access the good life of many conquests.

Women buy into feminist theory and dogma. They disrespect the male gender but expect to be respected as females, wives, lovers, shack ups, link ups, hook ups with call ups, and even friends offering benefits. Men continue to mostly respect feminine mystique, female modesty, self-protective standards of morality, female-centeredness, feminine uniqueness, family cohesion, and niceties and gentleness. Men don’t possess such qualities, but they like to associate with experts that specialize.

[Other posts about the Dark Side are 196, 180, 168, 157, 146, 134, 129, 123, 103, 92, 71, 50, 47, and 23. Scroll down or search by the number and then click the title.]

191. When women act like men—3rd installment

♣ Sexually active women highly value hunks for looks and capture men poor for keeping. Experience with many sex partners—easy for hunks—weakens a man’s spirit for devoting himself to one woman.

♣ Especially regarding sex, each generation of females works harder to duplicate males. Females initiate everything more and more, but males retain the leadership role. They help females lower female-friendly values, standards, and expectations and to demean themselves just to please males.

♣ Women act and try to date like guys. They accept ‘whatever’ to keep a relationship going. They try to participate and enjoy masculine fun and games. They let desire for not offending a man override their nature—for example, tolerating embarrassment that offends her natural modesty. Her value as keeper weakens from not standing up for herself.

♣ Girls and women adopt masculine-style sexual freedom. Females devalue virginity. Girls ditch it, and mothers push its loss. Girls are popular. Women are adventurous. Both bypass virtual virginity that makes males try harder, that earns masculine respect, that makes men devote to one woman.

♣ To demonstrate their independence from men, women reject feminine virtue, duplicate masculine behavior, and even demo baser behaviors in public. By acting the same as men, women hope to be different? Successful relationships revolve around differences between the sexes that couples reduce to compatibility.

[More about women acting like men appears in posts 152 and 37. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]

 

188. Boob language — Part 7

♀ If her boobs ain’t perky, pointed, and a distinct pair, she’s already starting to look older. Bosomy breasts come naturally as women age.

♀ It’s fashionable. Women emphasize cleavage, and display skin elsewhere. Thus, they keep men focused on sex, while complaining that that’s all men think about.  

♀ It’s fashionable. Men score more easily. Women make blossom-to-blossom popular,  easy, and destructive to lasting relationships.

♀ Women rationalize that subliminal messages about sex offset their extra fat. It does until after a man’s conquest, when both the natural and the fashionable redirect his thoughts toward other targets.  

♀ Women think personal grooming unnecessary for everyday life. They purposely dress down to discourage approaches by men. Then, they complain when they seek a boyfriend and men don’t approach. Or, women aren’t experienced enough to convert hits to boyfriend capture.

♀ Women resent that men ogle females. So, except on the prowl, women dress down. And, men get less beauty to gaze upon, consider, assess, chase, court, and marry. Female value goes down and masculine interests go elsewhere—sports, hobbies, toys, sex targets.

♀ Women use their boobs to distract from fat and flaws elsewhere. They blame guys for weak commitment and mask female self-deception about attire and personal grooming.